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If he had a SEX CHANGE OP she should be in girls I guess.
If he only try to hide his cock between his legs and puts push up bras full with socks then in TS. My opinion.

a person who has a sex change is by definition a transsexual.

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If the guy's aim was to be a woman, and assuming he/she is post-op with female genitalia and all the secondary sexual traits of a female, why 1) Would viewers be disappointed, or even know? and 2) Why would camming in the female category result in "low self-esteem?"---again assuming the desired aim is a good thing.

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Nah,

I agree with Melomane,
and I can't always tell if somebody is really a girl. There is quite popular host, I won't mention names, guys often say she is a tranny and many more defend her, and from her posts I assume she is a great person but to be honest when I went to see her pics out of curiousity I couldn't tell I see a girl.

As long as she doesn't have a pr*ck down there she should be in girls.

Just saw an ad for a programme SEX CHANGE HOSPITAL Wednesday 10pm on more4.

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Language is Portugese.

I love how italian sounds and french is the most annoying sound for me lol

Italian or Spanish and English ofc:P

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I really like to listen to French or Russian, especially when spoken by a woman. Both very sexy to hear.

Considering I'm daily speaking the three languages I know.. hard to pick one. I love Romanian because it's the one I know best, that helps me express all I can't in other languages.
I love English because I'm used to it, because there are things that sound better in English..
And I love French not because it's romantic.. hearing "merde" or "putain" coming from a girl's mouth, makes French sound vulgar, but well, it's the same for all the languages. I like French because it's my adoptive language and the books I read in French were pleasant..
Bah, any language can be fun.

Gorty, need help in French ? I'll send you a message and we'll see from there on, though I don't know about my free time :)

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Yeah, "merde" sounded like that because they don't pronounce the "e" as it is.. it's a bit longer and the last one you don't pronounce. As for the "r" well, it's rolled :)) Still trying to get it right and it sounds weird, it's obvious for most people I'm not french.

In romanian it's the same thing, we're reading the way we write, with some exceptions though "ge", "ghe", "ce", "chi"... and so on.
French is more difficult that English, for it's numerous grammar rules, there's so many of them, and specific cases..

"Merde" is not a word I like, it's "shit" but I dislike it for some reason.
Unlike russian, romanian, french is less harsh I would say, it sounds smooth. Depends now who's speaking it :))

Gorty, ending of 'er' in teacher depends on type of English. British English pronunciation of 'teacher' ends with the schwa sound, very weak as in 'a'. Americans And Scots use a heavier sound, 'teachurr'. We Brits keep our tongue flat but the Americans and Scots curl the tips of their tongues upwards.

http://www.soundsofenglish.org/pronunciation/rl.html

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Hungarian of course...especially when a sexy foreigner lady try to speak on my language:)

greek language..:)

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Gorty,

An interesting question. Better than those of the short-lived "That wud be tellin," whose questions reached such edifying heights in the form of, "Can you masturbate with two hands?; Can you Salsa dance? , etc...

English is my mother tongue and I am grateful for that because English is an enormously rich language, Germanic in origin, but infused with a rich Latin vocabulary. (Thank you William the Conqueror, or as the French call him, “Guillaume le Conqueror.”) In fact, I believe English has the greatest number of words of all the Indo-European languages. The unabridged edition of the Oxford English Dictionary (OED) is about 20 volumes. Begun in the 1850’s, it took about 70 years to complete! (An interesting story re: its contributors: The man who made the second greatest number of contributions (i.e. entries/words) was an American from Connecticut who was a resident of an insane asylum in England. Read the whole account in “The Professor and the Madman,” by British author Simon Winchester (sp?). A great read!

I also speak French, a language I like a great deal and one that is --for me at least---pleasant to the ear. (Does anyone remember that Eddie Murphy movie in which he plays some sort of Emperor? I saw a clip from that in which he says, "The French, they talk some smooth shit man!" I was LMFAO!) Among the other Romance languages, I love Italian and I like the sound of Portuguese---it’s much softer than Spanish with its harder, rolled r’s. (Although I heard Argentinean Spanish spoken and it seemed quite unlike the Spanish I’ve heard from the rest of the Spanish speaking world.) I have seen Romanian in print, but only heard it spoken a few times.

Question for Russian speakers: Can you immediately recognize (differentiate) one Slavic tongue from another when you hear it spoken? Can you immediately say, “Ahh, Czech!, or Polish!..or Serbo-Croatian.?” I ask, because I can recognize all of the Romance languages (except Romanian) and most of the Germanic languages (though I cannot always differentiate one Scandinavian tongue from another. I will always mistake Norwegian for Danish or Swedish, etc.) But German and Dutch I can recognize. I prefer the sound of German to Dutch. Dutch is too throaty (like Semitic languages). But as regards Slavic tongues, they all sound nearly alike to me! Lol! But I know this is just a matter of exposure. If I spent time in the Slavic speaking world (and learned a Slavic language), I’m sure I would be able to differentiate one Slavic tongue from another.

Every language has its poetry, but the sound of some languages irritates people, and I think it is not unfair, chauvinistic, or ethno-centric to say some languages are more attractive (not superior) than others. But even this, in the final analysis, breaks down, because when one spends a great deal of time away from the land of one’s mother tongue, there is no language that sounds sweeter than your---as the French put it---“langue maternelle.”

I think it would be quite interesting to study a Non-Indo-European tongue, such as Hungarian or Finnish. And I’m sure studying an idiographic language, like Chinese, in which there is no alphabet, would prove even more ‘eye opening.’ As the French say, “Apprendre une langue est vivre de nouveau.” (“To learn a language is to live anew.”) Less poetically, Goethe said, “Wer fremde Sprachen nicht kennt, weiss nichts von seiner eigenen. (“He that does not know a foreign language, knows nothing of his own.”)

I know hosts here are more than familiar with the American, Brit, Aussi or Kiwi who berates you for having a less than thorough command of English. I would hope that this is the exception rather than the rule for my fellow Anglophones, but I know in the States, foreign language education is a joke. As such, much of the Anglophone world is mono-lingual and has never enjoyed the fruits of knowing a language apart from the native tongue. So, there is a great irony at hand when some guy arrogantly criticizes a host’s less-than-perfect command of English, while he speaks but one language! Such guys would do better to ask the host for help than the other way around!

If you are a language lover, a great website is: omniglot.com.

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Lol very true)) Totally agree:P

Dear Patriot,

I am amused that my post would provoke in you a "patriotic" or "nationalistic" response. My sole aim was to answer Gorty's question and to share a few thoughts about languages in general. I was not trying to "assure" people of anything. I said I was grateful for having English as my mother tongue. I did not say I thought it was the "BEST"---as you would put it, simply that it is a rich language.

As regards your CAPITAL boast that Russian is the "best," language I have no response. However, I know Russian is a very rich and nuanced language. I love Russian literature (which I read in translation) and I'm sure it would be gratifying to read Pushkin in the original Russian.

I have visited Russia and I have an abiding respect for Russian culture and the contributions Russians have made in nearly every field of human endeavor. Russians have for hundreds of years---and especially since Peter the Great--- distinguished themselves in the Arts & Sciences.

So, Patriot, take a chill pill and return to lower case letters. I'm not criticizing Russia or promoting some rank American jingoism. I'm not waiving a flag here, just expressing some thoughts about language. :))

Alwyas a pleasure to read your posts that make so much more sense than the short typed in all caps ones..

I can recognize most of the languages.. well, thing so.. Didn't have the opportunity to hear Finnish, or other alike, but I think I can make the clear difference between Dutch and German.
For the Russian, Polish.. and the ones alike it's really hard and I wonder if I ever got them right :)) Well, Russian is easy to recognize, it sounds a bit harsh, I think, don't know.

Trying to learn ( well.. sort of, because I stopped) Japanese.. it sounds nice and the topic of a sentence is keeping my ears wide open when watching some anime :))

Charlotte was saying about her own language sounding the sweetest.. Honestly, I don't miss any romanian speakers here.. heard some the past days and they're all having some strange accent and I hate the way it sounds. The thought of me having an accent scares me.. badly.

Thank you Psy. The feeling is mutual. Since your native tongue and French are both Romance languages and English principally a Germanic one, I’m not surprised to hear you have essentially the same problem as I do in differentiating one Slavic tongue from another. But I posed the question to Russian speakers on the assumption that they can readily distinguish one Slavic tongue from another just as you can distinguish one Romance language from another. (By comparison, I wonder if speakers of Slavic tongues would have difficulty differentiating Spanish from Italian, just as non-Slavic speakers would have difficulty differentiating Russian from Serbo-Croatian?)

My exposure to Japanese is confined to watching Kurosawa movies! Lol! However, I have frequently been struck by, what sounds to me like a huge discrepancy between the sound or tone of the language and the meaning. For example, a screen actor might utter sounds that sound decidedly angry, but the subtitle reads, “I have always loved you father.” !! lol!

I assume when you speak of hearing Romanians speaking on the streets of Paris, you mean the Romanian itself sounded “strange,” not that Romanians were speaking French with a bad accent, right? I remember how strange it was for me, upon settling in Paris, to hear nothing but French spoken, but after the first year it was English that sounded strange. Still, I agree with our friend Charlotte, one’s native tongue will always be---in the end---the sweetest sounding and the one in which we feel most at home. I think the only exception to this is with people who are truly bilingual---not just fluent. But bilingualism is frankly rather rare and people often misuse the term because they do not understand this. True bilingualism means being perfectly at home in two languages, not preferring one over the other. One can read, write, speak and dream in both. One can just as easily express a subtle thought in one as in the other. One of my professors in college was a Dutch guy who spoke nine languages. (The Dutch are great polyglots. I've never met anyone from Holland who did not speak at least four languages--usually Dutch, German, English and French). Talking one evening over a few beers, he said, "After speaking English all day, I get quite tired and always look forward to speaking my native Dutch with my wife when I go home."

Voila! C'est tout pour l'instant! :)

Speaking English for about 5 years, fluently (more or less) and using it daily with my husband and with a friend, it became pretty natural to me to think in English, but there are words I don't know, so Romanian or French, depends to who I'm speaking, comes in handy.
I hope I'll never forget Romanian.. I'd be ashamed of myself..

And you're probably right, it's the fact I hear so much French that makes Romanian sound odd, but as well, I'm not having any kind of accent ( guess it will be easy for romanians to know where I'm from :P) unlike all the other areas of Romania, so it may be another reason for which it sounds weird..

Psy, You need not worry about "forgetting" Romanian. If you were 12 years old or younger, you could forget it, but not at your age.!

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Gorty, my question was between Spanish and Italian (both Romance languages), not Spanish and Finnish. As I'm sure you know, Finnish is not a Romance language, indeed like Hungarian and Estonian, Finnish is not even in the Indo-European language group.

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English is germanic ;)

Yes, in origin and basic structure, but with a Latin infusion. And that is what makes it rich. It's rather like an uptight Danish girl being seduced by a worldly Italian guy! :) The end result is greater than the sum of the two parts!

Gorty, You answer my question in part, because, for example, you say you can easily distinguish Russian from Ukrainian. I cannot. For me all Slavic tongues have a kindred sound. By way of comparison, can you distinguish the difference between Spanish and Italian?

Is your first tongue the Turkic language you allude to? In any case, is it Tartar? If so, do you have occasion to hear Turkish spoken, and if so, do you hear or recognize vocabulary or similar verb constructions?

Difference between Spanish and Italian? Can't be nothing easier that that :D Though I speak only russian and english.

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Gorty, I understood you in the first place. I said "Turkic" language not Turkish. So, what "turkic" tongue is your first language?

Bacchant, Thank you for your kind words. As regards my question, you disprove my theory. I assumed speakers of a Slavic tongue could more easily distinguish one Slavic tongue from another, than non-Slavic speakers.

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Cybill, When you say we should listen to the "music" of the languages I quite agree and that is what I meant by saying every language has its poetry. I like listening to languages even if I do not understand.

Don't misunderstand, I recognize the Scandinavian tongues as Germanic languages. I just can't differentiate one from another. As regards the Danish/Turkish connection, I can't see it, because---among other reasons---Turkish is not even in the Indo-European language group.

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I love the tonal qualities of the Thai language. It is very soothing to listen to people speak Thai. No harsh sounds just smoot and melodic.

Out of all the Romance languages, French has always stuck out in my mind as being something special. Not flowery and emotional and feminine-seeming like Spanish, Italian, etc... French just seems so something else.... refined, sophisticated... just so damn cool.

I like sign language, It works all over the world, you just point at what you want..

Okay, UrTurn, you mean THAT kind of sign language, not the sign language used by the deaf, right?

I am by no means an expert but I did have some exposure to sign language and I don't think it's the same in every country. One gesture in USA means something completly different in Korea.

You are right. I lived in France and someone familiar with "signing" told me the French system is not the same as the American one.

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Barney, I've heard Welch spoken because a friend of a colleague did his PhD on the Welch language. He's now unemployed! lol!

Joe, To my ear neither Italian nor Spanish strike me as inherently feminine sounding, but I wholeheartedly agree with your opinion that French is "special," not so much because of the aesthetic quality of its sound, but moreso because it has played a "special" role in European history.

After Latin gave way to the unique Romance languages and European principalities evolved in the direction of "nationhood," French became---and remains to some extent---the language of diplomacy and commerce. (Even today I believe most passports identify the holder, not only in his native tongue, but in French as well.) The French are bothered, to some extent, that their language has been usurped by English as the 'lingua franca' for the world. ...Tant pis! (=too bad) :)

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ET, If you want to study Chinese you better get started. As we get older learning a foreign language grows more and more difficult. Plus, learning a non-Indo-European language that is at the same time ideographic and having no alphabet, is extraordinarily challenging.

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I like Italian most :) The way it sounds.....

Spanish language is very popular and beautiful:P

It has the Combined sound of french and russian. Also česky (Czech) has the unique sound of ř , all which make it very melodic and takes the best qualities of French and Russian.

"it's only words,but words are all i have to take your love away..."

Oops should of been heart not love.must be all those years of wearing tight pants.

Lol! Barry. I guess you know first hand the medical complications that can result in wearing your pants too tight. Some years ago I heard a comedian say, "Singer Tom Jones underwent surgery today. He had his pants removed!" lol!

As far as what I understand lucid dreaming to be, yeah, I have them.
Dealing with nightmares when I was little, I was somehow able to learn to remind myself that I'm only dreaming while in a dream. Ever since, I've been able to nudge a dream one way or the other pretty much at will.

If I concentrate on the time before going to bed, I can also wake up within 5 minutes of the exact time I want to get up without the aid of an alarm clock too.
How crazy is that?

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I guess that is partly to do with ur body clock being used to waking up at a certain time. Also partly to do with the fact that your brain is powerful enough to 'program' you as you see fit. Waking up before your alarm goes off is possible even at different times. I have done it although not as regularly as you do. It's sounds as though you have a pretty impressive ability. An ability that most people should have but most people cannot use.

Gave up smoking July 6 last year, on at least two occasions have dreamt I took a cigarette from full- colour packet, lit it and could taste it. If that ain't lucid, then nothing is!!!

its not. my understanding of the meaning of lucid dream is one where you know it is a dream and can affect it to your will ... change it purposefully.

I used to have them, sometimes. I hardly ever dream at all now. Maybe once every month or two, and never lucid ones.

We all dream ;) we just don't remember.

yes, that is true. i should have been more precise.

i expected more from Psy,
i didnt ask about normal dreams
thx tho :$

It was late and I was tired.

I'm rarely having lucid dreams.. I'm usually having nightmares, dreams that happen again and again. I remember most of my dreams, but as images that can't always put in words, or they're just missing the impact they had as a dream.

I think I had a lucid nightmare once :)) and was concious that whatever will happen, I'll be ok.. meh, from so many dreams, hard to pick one :)

it was late for me when i saw yours, i didnt meen to sound rude , i too was tired , when i want to be rude i normally do better:p
i havent had any in awhile myself, i use to often have them.

a lucid one if you just drept it, it is lucid if you know your dreaming and for example take the cigarette from the box and think, hey in here(meening in dreamworld) i dont need a match, and use your fingertip to light is with or without a flame..

that is what i said

no but my nights are filled with lurid dreams.

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how much money you spend in her video per week ?
if you stop paid video will she love you as much ?

...just give it some time and it will soon fizzle.

No, I only saw her once in video about 4 months ago. She told me she doesn't want to see me as a member. We see each other cam to cam from her home.

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im only 37, ask me in a few years. if your happy and she is happy and more importanty her family approves, then fuk the world and be happy dude. good luck.

i am member number 825 out of thousands here, you people kill me with all this love stuff here, how can you be truely in-love with someone you havent met in real, not even spending time together in real life, doing things together in real life, knowing all the things about each other, instead of this video chatting with each other and talking about fantasy and love you call it, get real and go out more on real dates

dude, im tired of going out and meet sticky drunk ladies at bars and clubs. I don't have a problem meeting women. Love is not a matter of choosing, it just happens and you can feel it when it's true. I have been a member of cc for 4 years and I was always skeptical to love here. Also true that new and younger hosts use the I love you phrase to hook members for video, but they stop talking to u after 1 week if u never came back to their video. Also, I found out that you get to know the real person here rather than in real life. Here u have chances to develop a conversation more in depth. In real life there are always things around u that distract your senses and most of the times you are either dinning, dancing, making out or having sex and you really never get to know your couple's inner feelings.

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I would have no problem with the age difference, Just don't run out of Viagra.

cool, just give them a bike ride across country once and then they will decide your to old-cool, but hey, what ever floats you and her boat man, go for it, for you take one day at a time, because, well you know, and for her ask her does she know what it's going to be like when your 60 and she 40, hmmm, now that don't sound so bad as age differences,-cool

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Member, It may not be the convention in the US, but your "dilemma"----as you call it---is hardly rare. She's a grown woman! Why feel "awful?" As W.C. Fields put it more than a half century ago, "I'd rather have two women of 21 than one of 42." lol! (The late, great Spanish cellist, Pablo Casals, married a woman in her early 20's when he was in his late 80's! )

Relax. Meet her, see how it goes and take it from there. You're driving yourself mad, more concerned about what everyone else thinks. Right now it's only about you and her. Leave everyone else out of the equation for now. When you meet and see each other a few times, then you can think about the larger circle. If it works out, great. If not, all that other crap you're worried about will be moot. Bon courage!

Oh yes, ever since I turned 40. Don't worry about it - let the woman decide - they're more intelligent about such things and have a different agenda to us guys.

I questioned 2 women who married men 30 years older than themselves. Both said the age difference didn't matter, he was the one they wanted.

On the other hand, a 30 year old woman I know worried about the age of her boyfriend aged 60.

The most successful couple I've ever known married when in their early 20s, the same age as each other. They have now been very happily married for 40 years :-). For me, that is the still best solution for a young woman at least, find the love of your life around the same age group and grow old together.

My much younger women friends I treat more like daughters - I am more comfortable with it that way. Would be stupid to demand an exclusive relationship as I want them to find a young guy someday...marriage...kids.

without ever meeting? lmao.... it's called Lust mate!

I mean real life meetings, not virtual ones - both my posts are about that - you are sarcastic for the sake of it - make you feel good?

Yeah buddy, I see nothing wrong with a near 40 year old "falling in love" with someone half his age and even though you never met in real life I'm sure you have so much in common. Nevermind those that say you are going through a mid-life crisis trying to re-capture your youth, I say go for it nad let me know if she has a younger sister.

I believe that there are those of us that have been in the reading comprehension of post in the www setting that are quite ableto tell from what'itis we read the difference between lies and truths! Until recently I did not believe one could genuinely fall in love with someone they've met on the internet, but after what I've been through in the last month and a half, plus the extreme feelings of endearment for the beauty mentioned that I say go for it! If you do not feel as if you want to follow thru with it, put her in touch with me if she's near East Texas, and I'll gladly converse with her to see if the spark could also be there for me! She sounds as if she's a strongwilled woman, that is mature enough to know what she wants!

It's sneering for the sake of it with you isn't it? I'm not talking about life-long relationships necessarily - a quick fuck is nice too so stuff the age difference. lool

Why do you tuncs read everything so literally? But wtf, it's a sex site.............;-)

i know a very nice family who had a very twisted awfull life (and unlike most stories where many dont agree i know on my story they would)
Anyway!

The mother didnt live happy for a very long time, they have 2 kids...
The mother and father lived together for about 18 years, but the reason they did live for 18 years less or more was all because of the kids! The Mother wasnt felt that she was treated well, but she was a very loyal woman, and she is a very nice kind lady and shes the type of person who would never go to someones house without a present or anything... basically the kids adored her and many people respected her because she had a good heart! But the Father was pretty abusive and treated her not well and long time ago The mother thought she had a true love, and in those times they were both very poor, now the father is one of the richest and as the family believe he got too much money and lost his head...

But my main point of this story is the Update!
The mother was a good person but not a happy woman!
But! right now she did find happyness!

She has someone who loves her dearly, who has another child with her, he treats her good, he is a good man of the house, he is a good handy man and he is older just by few years then her older son!
His parents don't like the fact he married with a much older woman, but he is happy himself because he thinks he gets the best treatment, he loves her, she loves him... One is older then 40 the other is half the age!
People will always will talk rubbish and always will find something to hate about... Sometimes it's jealousy, sometimes it's ignorance But most of the time it's because us people thinking we more clever then anyone else and the fact that we so clever we think we can predict future!
The way i look at it is: I see them, they look happy, i can't help but be happy for them...
And remember most young girls do love older because they more experienced in life and know how to treat them better, it's not a fact but it's what they think, they half wrong half right (because every story is different)
Also the family now is not rich, but they working together and everything is ok!
And it doesnt matter whether the Man or the Woman is older, it's whats in the heart...
p.s. It's a true life story and got nothing to do with the internet :)
Peace

sorry i said "day" instead of "say"

Thanks for the story. It's nice that happiness finally showed up to the great lady.

welcome and goodluck :)

**And remember most young girls do love older because they more experienced in life and know how to treat them better**
Just out of curiousity, why do you think "most" older men love younger ladies?

They know how to fuck a guy and they much tighter

1: i was saying it how most girls say it, so i quoted them. i'm not a good writer so i guess not everybody understood that.
2: why ? because probably for many reasons but really dont know i'm still young :)

Falling in love with someone on the internet is not only possible, but today it's not uncommon. And I don't just mean falling in love/lust during online chats, but eventually meeting in reality and the feelings of attraction becoming even stronger. It's happened to me more than once. My most recent g.f. and I met online and dated for almost 4 years. We are still close friends. (we did not meet in CC but I think CC is as good a place as any to meet a potential mate). I've also met several women from other parts of the world and eventually met them in reality. Because we lived in different parts of the world, I didn't end up dating them, but the time we had together was really special. Again, the attraction was just as strong after we met in person. Anyway, anything is possible, and I would not rule out this person either because of her age, or the fact you fell in love online. Good luck!

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roflmfao

was that a backup story to a future scam complaint?

Lol, probably not, since she has already 'tipped her hand.' I agree with your observation, that this would have been a great card to hold for a worthy 'trump.' But such a strategy would make plain a rather advanced case of cynicism (and its usual companion, coniving), which I do not see in this girl.

When i scam hosts i expect her to buy me a car as well as just furniture or how would i be able to get to work (unless she would be paying for all my food and bills too). I hate it when hosts are mean and don't treat me right.

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You're welcome. I can't promise to be all wise when it comes to relationships but I do know that even with the best intentions things can go awry. I just don't think you should judge yourself too harshly for caring. For myself I would always wish to be accused of caring too much than to be accused of not caring at all. It is your choice, I just felt you could do with someone seeing that as a positive trait and not a negative one.

Best of luck and fortune in all else you do, ok? :)

TNTFSHHMY

Because you didn't tell him, he thought the apartment was furnished as part of the deal. It is common to think that unless you talked to him in advance.

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i really think u shld have kept the receipts of everything that u bought and showed them to him and ask for your money back.Or at least u should have asked him initially if he wants u to buy anything for him, maybe the guy wanted the flat as it was, with a bed and fridge, who knows.I am sure its just a matter of misunderstading, try explaining to him how things really are

he asked you to help find an apartment, i didnt read anything about ..
if it is empty can you buy me everything and i meen everything to fill it.

speaking as a guy, a bed and a frigo..what else do we need? oh yea tissues!!
NEVER blame him because he didnt offer to pay you for everything he DID NOT ask for, maybe he has no money to buy things because he just moved there. oh no no that cant be it, can it.
i hope next time i go to my machanic to have him change the oil i will get a new car as well.
i guess you believe in the old saying if you give a gift now the gods will return your generousity ten fold, i bet my left nut he said thank you for finding the apartment tho, didnt he ?!!

Being a guy, I can't imagine someone doing me a solid and then not reciprocating in some way. There's just no way I could, in good conscience, just take from someone without squaring things up by doing something to give something back in return.
I'd feel like such a heel if I didn't.

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men suck. if it were a girl, i bet she would have paid you back in some special way.

yeah a touch of the old john wayne bobbits

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IF you have all the receipts,you can always go and get your stuff back. As long as it's your name on them.Maybe you could get back some of the money you spent. Just a thought ...

Prof, With all due respects, there's nothing in "host's..." post that makes plain just what the "deal" was. Was the guy coming for a brief visit to meet her and expecting the accomodations one might expect at a B & B? Was he staying, or settling in, for an extended sojourn? If so, for how long? She also didn't say what her host country is and as such I'm not sure we can draw any conclusion about the standard convention with such rentals. For example, do Muscovites rent their dachas when they are not occupied?

As you said, you assume she didn't ask the guy if he expected the flat to be furnished, but it would appear he did. But why it would be incumbent upon the host---and not the proprietor of the property---to equip the place, she does not make clear. If she did not broach the subject with the guest upon his arrival, it's hardly fair to assume he was being a tight-fisted ingrate, don't you agree?

...nice to see the tables turned for a change.

not cool to scam, but what do I know......NOTHING,,,, sorry hun to hear about that happening to you, but cheer up and stay cool

Obviously Mr. Switch got scammed. Why else would he make such an insensitive comment? Or maybe he's just one of the amazingly rude viewers all my host friends complain about. I find this story really touching, even if the protagonist was a bit naiive. I've helped out one or two hosts that were in a bind, but never felt I was being scammed. Host in Adult, maybe we're both naiive, but we've managed to survive this far!

If you possess enough reciepts, and other documentation to prove your story, as in the emails asking you to set up the place and such, plus witnesses too. Then start pestering Judge Greg Mathis, and do so until you get a results similar to that you will need to bring your case before him, lay off wise cracks until it's over and you may very well get you compensation. Never can tell, it may work out for you, if you already have the paper work and all, the only thing you can do is try, may get taken well care of in the end!

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Spoken like a true scammer.

instead of buying everything for the house, like furniture, tv and all other stuff.. Why not ask first?
it's a catch 22! You might be thinking you doing somebody a favour and helping them out, but the guy might be thinking your putting the price up and trying to scam HIM! To most people it's strange that a person without asking will buy everything for him, and maybe most of the stuff you bought he didnt want, maybe he wanted his own stuff to buy... If this happened to me and me as a guy, i'd probably give you the money back, but i will be angry at you in a way... well maybe not, depends on the circumstances BUT I woudlnt feel right and fully happy... Infact i would be thinking: Why couldnt you just ask first???
I bet most of his friends told him that the girl is trying to scam him and that she planned this all to make some money off him!

At the end of the day you meeting someone from the internet and before you met in real life, you can't possibly have a full 100% trust in each other! So the person doesnt exactly know what he got himself into.. Thats why in all relationships people preffer not to do out of the ordinary things without the discussion, another good point discussing things is: what you might feel is right, the other might think it's not!
I think your wrong for what you did, BUT! I don't respect the guy neither!

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well said charlotte, now even though we never met or even had a vid together can you lend me some money out of the kindness of your heart? oh wait..that would be stupid of you to do right?

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just said it twice.

no - not translated right. alfonses???????

The fonz?

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"Forget what you give ... never forget what you receive..."

Thos in touch with nature ....

thats the way it is .....

sun coming out ,,,

flowers too..

and the guys getting their swim stuff out ,,(hoping it still fits,,!! )

and doing a few exercises ,,,, buff up a bit for summer hhehehe..

Nature .. wonderful...

Spring = more sun = less clothes on women = more skin = men more horny ;)

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... and more money for us... :p...

But we will come back later... and we will spend more money with you... :))

Me, Perhaps as a remedy you could propose to CC that they introduce a new category: "Live at the Beach," preferably a nudist one! :)

as soon as the ground is thawed an its easier to dig holes, im happy with spring : p

It is very easy for a woman to get money from a man. It's in their nature and men are just gullible. Hence cc.

what a freeloader

I agree, Stung, that women often prove quite adept at getting money from men, but I wholeheartedly disagree that "it is in their NATURE." Rather it is an ancient social convention. In fact, Marx called the economic relationship between the first men and women the first "division of labor." "Money," as such is a relatively recent phenomenon, but men and women have always acknowledged the things that possess economic value. (Btw, the English word "economics" comes from the Greek word, "ekonomia," meaning, quite simply, "household management," in which men and women played vital roles.)

That women in the modern era are stereotyped as being adept at plying money from men is understandable, since they had very little opportunity for earning money in those quarters (e.g. medicine, law, architecture, etc) which were strictly male bastions. So, men gave the women money and there was often, if not always, the expectation of a 'quid pro quo,' (='this for that'....and we all know what the "that" is!..mmm).

So, LaMurrr, I don't "underestimate the intelligence of women," nor of all of mankind, in fact.

Now one could side with H.L. Menckin, who said, "No one has ever gone broke underestimating the intelligence of the general public." On the other hand, one could side with Dostoyevsky who said, "But I do not say mankind is stupid, because if mankind is stupid, then who is smart?!" lol! Just like Dostoyevsky to say something like that!

I believe it was Albert Einstein who said"Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I am not sure about the universe". The big secret that nobody wants to admit is that men are in fact the "weaker" sex., lol

Lol! Einstein also answered someone---a reporter I believe---who asked,"Professor Einstein, what is the most profound theory of the universe,?" with the quip, "The theory of compound interest!" :)

As regards the perennial debate as to which sex is weaker, one must necessarily ask, "Weaker [or stronger] in what regard?" Sexual politics is interesting, but the whole question of "who's on top", so to speak, is---I think---more a matter of individual psychology. Of course, there is also the social and political aspect in the larger arena, but that is a different, if related, matter.

You need to have sex more often. lol ,lol

welcome to the world of CC! enjoy your stay. love the hair in your pics.looks great.you should do just fine here.

Thank u paco :)

taken hosting classes yet?

Not yet :P can u be my coach please? :D

BTW, I would appreciate any advices from all of u! :)
kisses to all,
Yana

maybe later

welcome to cc world drivedance and if john doesn't want to be your manager, im avaiable--cool. Have fun girl and wish you all the sucess here and have fun and always stay cool

Profile notes very good - you say precisely what you will do, and what you won't, i.e. stripping up to topless. Wish more hosts would do this and thus avoid misunderstandings. I think you are making an excellent start here - good luck! kiss :-)

Thank u ally and chaser :)

well welcome, your life has just changed, remember this date in life.... happy christmas

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Thank you Keana, that is very sweet.. Probably I'll tell him... Don't know how you did it, but you put in words exactly what it is and how I feel, with one minor exception: he loves me too...
Good luck Keana and thank you again. (K)

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wow, daringKeana, you sound sexy, lets have a drink together and let me tell you my story--cool and by the way to a host, hang in there girl or dude, time will tell and stay cool

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hi ho,it's off to work i go.....

lol so we have that selfish git Adam to blame.

if ive already peed in the shower i wouldnt pee on the toilet and floor right after.. i would do that later after a few beers or pee in the sink and wipe my weiner on the missus face towel ....

and boring

I will believe you as I would imagine you are an expert on all things boring.

LMAOOOO:D

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Of course it took longer to read than to actually shower :)

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you should try showering like that:P

my god its me

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and boring

and bigoted and hurtful:(

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i would come out of the dungeon and take a break

...get a life

change my name to"catcher".

Oops i meant:"catch-her".

get out more

id be happy i wasnt johnzhon

chaser if i was you, i would take advice that juhia gave you, get outta the dungeon and take and ju advice about get out more, when i was in dungeon a lot was costing me a lot of money and then I took Ju advice i got out more and it did really save me a lot of money here spending on video's and as for I would advice about get a life, well we all know life is life and I would re-consider your options about your plans and as of johnzhon advice i be happy if i was him either and for as seldom adivce now that makes since catch her-

what in the shit are you talking about (hehe)--cool anyway

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now now pretty witch, don't go and do that, stay cool in the dungeon and watch out for the devil hiden in the closet-cool

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That's one of the funniest things I seen in some time.

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Your question reminded me of a post from some weeks back by a guy who called himself the "UP pity guy." His post about the word "up" was very interesting, so I saved it. Thought those who missed it the first time might enjoy it, so here it is:

: UP pity Guy Reply New Message
What is "UP" 29/Mar/2007 03:24 (GMT)

There is a two-letter word that perhaps has more meanings than any other two-letter word, and that is "UP."

It's easy to understand UP, meaning toward the sky or at the top of the list, but when we awaken in the morning, why do we wake UP? At a meeting, why does a topic come UP? Why do we speak UP and why are the officers UP for election and why is it UP to the secretary to write UP a report ?

We call UP our friends. And we use it to brighten UP a room, polish UP the silver, we warm UP the leftovers and clean UP the kitchen. We lock UP the house and some guys fix UP the old car . At other times the little word has real special meaning. People stir UP trouble, line UP for tickets, work UP an appetite, and think UP excuses. To be dressed is one thing, but to be dressed UP is special .

And this UP is confusing: A drain must be opened UP because it is stopped UP. We open UP a store in the morning but we close it UP at night.

We seem to be pretty mixed UP about UP! To be knowledgeable about the proper uses of UP, look the word UP in the dictionary. In a desk-sized dictionary, it takes UP almost 1/4th of the page and can add UP to about thirty definitions. If you are UP to it, you might try building UP a list of the many ways UP is used. It will take UP a lot of your time, but if you don't give UP , you may wind UP with a hundred or more. When it threatens to rain, we say it is clouding UP! . When the sun comes out we say it is clearing UP

When it rains, it wets the earth and often messes things UP.

When it doesn't rain for awhile, things dry UP .

One could go on and on, but I'll wrap it UP , for now my time is UP , so........... it is time to shut UP .....!

Oh . one more thing:

What is the first thing you do in the morning & the last thing you do at night? U-P


Reply to UP Guy

UP Guy, Thanks for the post. You’ve given me more food for thought and prompted me to look UP the word in my Shorter OED. As I suspected, the word is a part of English’s earlier Germanic roots. It appears as both “up” and “upp” in Old English. It is spelled “up” in Old Scandinavian and “upp” in Old Norsk. It is related to the Old High German “ūf” from which comes the Modern German “auf”, as in “Wachet auf!” (=Wake UP!) This Shorter OED lists 2 ½ pages of entries for “up” and 6 pages of compound words with the prefix “up.”

I first had occasion to think about how many ways we use the word “up” in English, as a result of living in France! My French girlfriend, a polyglot and lover of languages, pointed it out to me. One evening, as she was leaving my second floor apartment, I said to her, “Let me walk you down,” whereupon she said, “English speakers use ‘up’ and ‘down’ a lot.” When I thought about it, I realized she was right. It also made me think of how Germanic languages make use of compounds to form new words much more frequently than Romance languages.

“Down” is also frequently used. There are 1 ½ pages of listings for it, plus nearly 2 pages of compounds. “Down” is from the Middle English of the same spelling. It may well be related to “down”, from the Old English “dūn,” meaning hill (hence our word dune). “Dūn,” may ultimately be Celtic in origin (In Old Irish “dūn,” meant a fort built on a hill) and related to the Old English, “tūn,” meaning town. So, if one is leaving a hillside “town”, one is going “down” a hill. In modern English we always say “DOWNtown” (or UPtown) to indicate we are going to a city’s center, whether we are descending or ascending a hill. In French, by comparison, DOWNtown is “centreville,” (i.e. “center city”…although come to think of it, Philadelphians always say they are going to “center city)

Finally, one more amusing “up” story for your portfolio. It is apparently peculiar to the denizens of the Mid-Atlantic US city, Baltimore, to use the expression “to go up” when referring to a car or appliance dying. For example one might say, “My transmission went UP,” or “My refrigerator went UP.” I have not found this usage outside of Baltimore. Perhaps it was adopted from some similar German usage, given that Baltimore had a huge German speaking population in the 19th century and well into the early 20th century. Who knows, maybe I could look it UP! I’m UP for that (or as is said in African-American dialect, I’m DOWN for that! Lol!)

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Bacchant,

You are welcome. I thought it was interesting; that's why I saved it and it seemed apt here with the post, "Wazz UP," so I took the liberty of posting it again. (I hope the UP man doesn't sue for copyright violations! lol!)

Should I take your posting name here to mean you are a devotee to Bacchus, a wine lover, or perhaps more broadly just a Bacchanalian? :)

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...and kick Nelly's butt

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As far as I know bunnies don't crawl on trees ;)
You are as cute as a koala though! :)
Oh! Long toe nails would be hard on the bed sheets!

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hmm interesting question, i will get back to it in a minute my male short attention span
hmm what the other post say? brb

because their brains function differently than ours.
If you read "Why men dont listen and women can't read maps" from Barbara and Allan Pease or "Men are from mars women are from venus" you will be able to answer this and many other questions :))))

does it have lots of pretty pictures?
i like..umm
brb

Milena, I saw these titles along with other best-sellers like "Tuesdays with Mory" and books by that pop psychologist---what's his name...something like "Deep Choke Chicken?" In any case I didn't read the books you cite. It seems self-evident that men and women think differently, but I suspect the differences have just as much to do with social conditioning as with inherent neuro-biological differences. For example, it was always assumed that boys were better at math than girls. However, this is not the case. The observation failed to take into account how our educational institutions tend to encourage girls and boys to pursue different paths. That is why there are more boys than girls in math and science classes.

Conversely, more girls than boys pursue Literary Arts. It has also been observed by many that girls read more than boys. Why? I submit the answer is, once again, social conditioning.

Awwwwwwwww Aarona, they are not noticing you? hug! :D

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I doit because I'm looking for the wildlife channel, I like to see my monkey friends..

It's among the great mysteries of the universe, as is, "Why do women always talk to one another about their hair?"

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Why are you so convinced that you've hit the end of the road?

Very thoughtful and well written, I could not have said it better.It's painful sometimes when someone 'disappears' (see my post under "where is zlenochka"

http://www.allaboutlove.org/love-addiction.htm

good luck

sometimes it's just pride that stops things from being reconciled. swallow it and see what happens

nice website "me", though it doesn't apply for my situation, just kinda miss someone who was nice to chat with

im still here baby, come and give me some lovin'

Cool! I am right over! mmmmmmmmmmmm

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Lay off the juice paco, or you'll pay for in in the morning, lol

paco stay cool--make sure you get a designated driver tonight

wot a shame ur 2 far away 4 me 2 take advantage of u in that pist up state he he

http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org

take care

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