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I understand what you say but then why speak to me virtually every day outside CC for so long if there is no interest or motivation. as for the boyfriend theory well it could be the case but if so, why not just say? meanwhile where do I go from here?

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I made no attempt to hide the fact that I want to be more than just friends and with all the flirting and encouragement coming from her as well I figured it was what she wanted to. certainly from my perspective if you speak to someone virtually every day (and I do mean every day) outside cc, speak on the phone with them, you form a very close relationship with that person, if this conversation also include flirting in both directions then...how does it follow with the flat refusal to meet and the comment of I want no type of relationship with youI my opinion speaking confidentially with someone like that for so long means you already have established a relationship and it just make sense to see if the feeling you have and share online transfer in real life. Meanwhile whats with the I want to remain friends comment, again how does that work? I'm at a loss to understand all this..... and it is getting me down.

Ah, mutual flirting:) Well that changes the problem a bit.
As long as your relationship was mostly outside CC as you describe it, it sounds like she really enjoyed your company and liked you (assuming there were no real material benefits for her during all this time, and only the occasional "sexy time" on CC when you both felt like it. Occasional, not frequent!;) ).
If that's the case, perhaps she liked flirting because it was an innocent flirt with no strings attached, but when she realized you truly wanted to meet hoping for more, she started to feel insecure and simply said no.
If I were a guy and wanted to meet a girl I knew from the web, I would cut the flirting a few months in advance:)) I wouldn't talk about relationships, I wouldn't tell her how much I like her. I would simply have conversations about topics I know she enjoys, joke a lot, and make sure she's never bored talking to me. After all that I would go ahead and ask her out for dinner.
You know both men and women like a challenge, if you show too much interest then it's a sure shot, so no challenge there. Hence, not too much interest either.

Maybe you should have made your play far earlier? It sounds like you let it become a safe and comfortable online friendship ... asking directly earlier would have got you an answer earlier and any awkwardness would have been dealt with by now .... whether that meant no more relationship or a relationship where you both knew the boundaries ... who knows? You will just have to decide now how much the friendship means to you .... your friend has shown her cards - now its your call.

You maybe have built up slowly to the boil and got enjoyment from the flirting and the cameraderie .. it's gotta hurt to feel let down but at least your friend was honest with you and didn't try to spin you some sort of stalling story .... you have to respect that ... yes?

Good call by Sepethrea btw ..... hold back on the gifts to see how that affects things in the next few months ...

Sorry to hear your situation. Seems like she used you. Another bad story bout a host who lied to get money. That blows and gets me mad. Maybe Reality Check can throw up a post here. That guy always nails things in a well written way. Reality Check come give this dude some advice!

I was subtle and only pointed that out in a few words:)) Sugar coating hell I guess.
He knows best how much he spent and how profitable all the flirting and chatting outside CC was for her.
If it was more profitable than he made it sound, then yes, definitely used.
Seriously now, if you want to see how genuine a host who pretends to be a friend really is, just stop visiting her on CC. And no gifts either. If she still asks you how your day was and chats with you for another few months, then you know.

in terms of how profitable it was for her I got no I dea what people make an a site like this but she has probably had about $2k(used to see her once an month looking back) in work and say 1500 in gifts which doesn't sound much. I haven't seen her in cc now since early march but we still talked all the time,flirted all the time, had good conversations about this and that, enjoyed it, so i figured it was time to bring up meeting up, and you know the response....I was so shocked to have got everything so wrong, any very confused and miserable now...

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Always remember this:
A member says to a host: It is a pleasure doing business with you.
A host says to a member: It is a business doing pleasure with you.

Never, ever expect or desire anything beyond a business relationship here and you won't be disappointed and you won't get hurt.

I think Sepethrea has the right idea on this... I would suggest now you ease off the pressure for a while, reduce the volume level, and see what happens. Your "friendship" may in fact wither and fade, which it may have been destined to do anyway, and in fact, your host friend may be doing you a favor. Or you rethink the whole relationship, and go on. Or she misses the old you terribly and agrees to meet you (yeah, right).

In any case, the ground underneath you is not as solid as you think. It rarely is, when you invest yourself emotionally in a relationship on CC. My humble opinion only, of course... informed by experience.

Sorry to hear that. Well, I had almost the same experience. I knew a girl for a
long time we only talked outside CC - even videochat and we saw each other twice
and we came closer to each other, when she suddenly told me,that she has a bf....
you can imagine how I felt, especially because she never told me although I asked.
The following weeks were the worst I got since years.

Anyway, nobody can tell you what you should do. You have to decide what you want
and what's the best for you. If you want to maintain virtual friendship, even if
you know that she doesn't want to meet you, then you should do it. If you think,
this is a waste of time, then you should quit the friendship.

IMHO Sepethrea gave you a good advice, just reduce the contact and no presents and
see what happens. If she notices that and miss you, maybe she will agree to meet you.
If not, well at least you know then, how much you ment for her...maybe she judges
friendship on a different way than you.

I broke tie. No contact anymore, as I don't accept to be number 2 or a "friend on demand"
Cheer up! Life will go on, even without the cute CC-girls :)

i would bet she has a bf in real life and so enjoys chatting and flirting with you online but doesn't want more than that. She wants to continue as friends online because it helps pass her time pleasantly when she is working but not busy and because she finds you interesting to talk to and maybe helpful in advise when she needs it.
If you feel you have pinned too much hope on her being your future gf and feel too emotional about her then you had better walk away, if you can step back and look at the situation and realise you enjoy your time with her for what it was then continue on that basis.

All the time she been online chatting you she probably chating with lots others to. Its her way of buikding a customer base and just business in many cases.

What to do next? Run!!! If your apartment is on fire, would you sit on the sofa hoping the fire will change direction when it gets near the sofa? Maybe the firemen will arrive and put out the fire before you get burned!! Don’t get burned again by this girl!! She said she didn’t want to meet you! You will probably never know the reason. Move on!! If she contacts you because she misses you, be friendly, but cautious. Don’t let your feelings run ahead of reality; you already let that happen once, don’t do it again. My bet is that she won’ t contact you and if she does, it only will be because she feels guilty, not because she is going to change her mind.

I had a similar shock a couple of years ago. First met a host in St Pt (not her home city) and we had a great time. Two years after we met, she wanted me to come to her home city in Russia. I thought our friendship had grown since our first meeting, so I traveled to meet her again. I couldn’t return home without knowing what she was thinking. So I asked if our friendship was going to grow beyond an online friendship. Without hesitation, she told me she had no feelings for me. Wow, was I ever confused by that unexpected answer. It’s been a few years since she broke my heart. For months, I was like a dead-man-walking to my own execution. In the years since, I think about her less and less, but I still haven’t forgotten her and probably never will.

I was invited to her home city, met her family & met her friends. I still can’t reconcile the weeks I spent with her to the words she clearly spoke that killed our relationship. The girl you are talking about won’t let you near her real world. Did I mention earlier how fast you should run away from her?

What is the age difference between you two? I don’t want to speculate but I think it’s pretty big, I would say the same thing: thank you but no thank you.
You are so frustrated just because she told you the truth? If I were you, I would thank the poor girl, did you read the posts about the lies on CC, you should say thank you, I appreciate your sincerity, and I would love to remain friends. But I guess your man ego is bigger and is bad because you just lost a good friend, I’m sad for you.
What was your expectation from this “meeting”? Don’t tell me you just wanted to hold hands and talk about the time when you’ll introduce her to your relatives and friends.
And why is all about you, what about her? How is she feeling? Maybe she needs you now, but unfortunately I think you already deserted.
How to remain online friends? It's easy, you already have the experience.
Good luck to you!

seems that not only did you manage to miss the whole point of my post you also decided to have a dig at me personally based on what you have read... your no help..

Whole point???? U are a meanie. I will never talk to you again =))
Now :
Question: “I don't see how you can maintain a friendship on the web with someone when you know the person you are talking to have no interest in ever meeting you?”
Answer: “all the time talking to her outside of here nearly every night” “flirted all the time, had good conversations about this and that, enjoyed it”

It’s called online relationship my mean member, we are in 2009, we are falling in love on the internet (and the person can be at the other side of the world), you are wanking looking at a pretty girl on the internet :P, you can do anything and everything in here, you don’t have rules, you are free. I think 99% of people who come to this site are interested to earn money or to live a fantasy, news flash for you it’s a porn site not a dating site, the rest of 1% maybe they will accept to date you.

To don’t miss the whole point again the beauty of internet are the buttons like ignore, invisible, block, u can disappear in 2 seconds. Take a break, think about the whole situation if u can past over the rejection u can continue the relation from the same point that u left it, if u cannot past over the rejection u have 3 choices: find one of the girls from that 1% or use a dating site to find someone who is really looking and hopefully is from the same city as you or find someone in real life. Regarding your relation if u cannot past over the rejection your relation will die no matter how hard u’ll try to keep it alive.

And I know I’m missing the whole point again =)) but is the last time, I promise :d

Glad you liked it, Alice (if it's u). Maybe you'll show me some of your discoveries next time we chat? :-)

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Post your impressions again in 6 months....

I am a man over 40 and fully understand your frustration. We are lucky at most ages that women find us attractive at all. Not me of course. I'm good looking and in good shape still and i feel like I'm 25 as i look at myself in my pink glasses. Seriously though, at a site such as this, we men are looking to relive a youth that we feel we have lost. Youth and beauty are the thing that draws us and we sometimes forget to be kind to others who are suffering the same natural ravages of time that we are trying to pretend we are immune to. We want to pretend that the women here are interested in us and find us attractive. Most young women play the game and sometimes we errantly believe it is real. It is unfortunate that we can sometimes be rude to those who do not fit our fantasy. I hope you can see the bad behavioir for what it is, fear of aging ourselves.

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i think guys age better cuz they aren't subject to the same constant hormonal turbulance that ladies are.
just be sure to make your next few years really count :)
and you could cut out the boozing and smoking - those things don't exactly help a lady age any less quickly :)
good luck!

I am 40 and I look like a 28 year old man, not a gray hair and great shape. I still get young chicks when I go out. I just use this site for instant satisfaction as I call it, but basically I have no need for it. I just enjoy its practicality, the variety of girls and the disease free action. But i do know younger men that look twice their ages with tired faces and beer bellies that look similar to my grandfather's when he was 79 years old. Well, I constantly see talks in comm. chat girls drinking beers, staying out late in loud parties, eat fatty things, and not sleeping enough. I understand you are young and you want to live life to its fullest, but that's exactly what makes you get older faster. Take care of your health, sleep well, and forget all that alcohol. Live clean, its worth it. You only have 1 life to live and you dont want to waste it.

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ha ha you sound so bitter. I'm 42 and do you know why I date women 30 or younger? Because I can! Some girls prefer an older man because there is less drama, we don't cheat, and we have the money to treat them right. Sure there is a bit less hair and a few more pounds, but we also go to NYC on a long weekend, and the Bahamas for vacation. Hey, if you prefer the dimwitted young stallion, go for it, but there will always be enough pretty young girls who enjoy the finer things in life! But if you are over 30, no thanks, I can do better.

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Im over 25 and thank god I am; btw im model- woman; u r right hun, man are funny when comes to age and money and proving their manhood:D; but what makes me sad is that - if you "big man" didnt notice - man over 30 all of the sudden age rapidly, in their body and mind - it must be hormones or is it the fact that woman take batter care off themselves?
and hun, dont get upset, many man stay immature till the day they die - MAYBE COUSE THEY ARE AFRAID OF WOMAN THINKING THEY CANT COMPETE:p; but, there are also many man that no matter of looks, over the age grow into real man - allowing themselves to be sensetive, to see, to learn, to .....; live is not all that BLACK AND WHITE, so man are not also- keep the faith:P

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"As if they dont snore and make sounds in the toilet!" ... lool :D

If you don't like the heat, get out of the kitchen .... (or at least turn the TV volume up! :) )

I'd just like to point out some older guys do happen to respect the age difference and are maybe just grateful for the attention or your personality. But please remember where you are and expect the rough as well as the smooth.

If its any consolation, I'd say most guys over 40 know damn well that, if they get too involved, the one who is likely to be the most hurt in the end is themselves.

If you're a guy over 40 and can see a different personality in your younger partner when she talks with others more her own age then you should kind of know that you're perhaps 'keeping a caged bird' ...... if you get to the point where you are physically beside someone and not just peering through a cam, then admire the beauty and body certainly ..... but respect the personality too!!

The older guy that degrades a girl because she's getting 'older' is not just being immature but also mean, delusional and most importantly ...... insecure.

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I'm just thankful that I'm in a culture where I don't have to face being pushed out on an ice flow or left to be eaten by hyenas after growing too old to contribute to society. Hell, I don't even do anything to contribute now and I'm nowhere near dying.
Seriously, don't you people feel privileged to live in this day and age? It's odd, however cushy our existence becomes, it always seems we feel a need to bitch and make a fuss about something.

The number one appeal of CC is the youth of its hosts. To young people being young is taken for granted. To older men it is elusive and desired more than anything. Most older men, my self included, are hooked on seeing young women who if I approached in real life just to say hi...I would be looked at as a wierdo or dirty old man (which is true). Here an older man can drink in the freshness and appeal of youth without judgement. A man will always gravitate toward a younger woman...it is called survival and it is encoded in our genes. And in our jeans as well.

i dont agree that girls older than 25 are old and ugly, i am 22 and my gf who is currently working on cc is 27 and i can say i would never dream of changing her with a younger one because she is the best for me and i also cannot say that i look bad and cannot find younger but love doesnt have age

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All the time. There are so many beautiful hosts here that the primitive brain is shouting "visit, visit, visit"; then the logical brain butts in and shouts equally loudly "overdraft, overdraft, overdraft". At the moment it's about 50/50 which brain prevails!

Every time. And my logical brain loses.

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Any host who says she finds me charming :D

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I'll be your £girl" anytime :D

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Damn I know my "member" isn't perfect but the funniest :(

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Very good advice. Unless of course it's me that's getting close :P

and Olimpiya welcome to cc

not all, if u think so then u r more fake

But clearly she doesn't mean "all"...which is why she used the word "most"!

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i will help you with both english and greek PPP , We can work out a compensation plan )))

...it's always easier not to let yourself feel anything.

DTA

Austin im blond - what DTA means?

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Don't trust anyone

IMHO, it's not civilized to go around calling anybody names. We should judge ourselves before judging anybody else. We are all full of faults. Our faults is usually what's stands out greatly than our virtues before the common eye.
Those that call others losers, nerds, lame, stupid, and idiots, aren't perfect. They are just childish. I have seen people talk crap of someone else and later hear from others same or worse about those that ealier tried to diminished someone else.
It's the law of life; "Do onto others as you would wish them do onto you." You do bad to others then they will do bad to you. Simple as that. It always work.

Yes I saw a person write in a post in viewer only forum recently that the new girl he found in glamour was:
“A breath of fresh air in the harbor of boring old models”…lol..
My opinion is that this is a very nasty and ugly thing to say, whatever he mean it or not.
It is a sign of bad manners and behaviour, and a serious lack of respect or sympathy for other human beings.
It also tells me that persons of that kind are probably not satisfied with their own lives and maybe what are boring them most of all are them selves.
..from a satisfied viewer..

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yes....most of them...fakes are the exception not the rule...nuff said

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You are having a hard time finding real boobs on a site with 1000's of ladies? wow.

monikababe safina ;)

U must be kidding - hehehehehe

Well, a 6 year member ‎, Why did u have them done in the first place?..

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SolitarySoul.. she is the most wonderful you can find..

This site has some of the best boobs...if you like smaller ones. Tons of great B and small C cups. Firm, uplifted, perky....priceless.

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oh...so nice a new girl also knows about boobs of other hosts...r u sure u r new?
and why tell everyone that u r new? is it so important??????????

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i like small boobs or big boobs.....as long as they belong to a girl named pam....

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The simple answer for you is yourlady4u. 36ddd and natural. Tight little ass and good legs too.

first book I read was "I had a dream", after reading it wasnt the dream I had so your right dont judge a book my its cover. I made add If the host would type and chat more in their rooms or chat room it would open up some interesting conversation or topics that might just result in more videos, try it

I think I know what you mean in food for thought I bought this book one time and it wasn't what I thought it be like, just like a video I had. Makes you feel like, why did i read that book

reminds me of the first book i read"Don't Book A Judge By His Covers." :--)

dont judge a host by her bed-covers?

lmao lj,good one :--)

not sure,, if you already tried her room, phone, house, maybe you should fly out there and find-good luck, its good to see lovers still alive here at cc

primary amoebic meningoencephalitis?

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pamlover is the host name

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i have 3 of thems after i fall down from window 3 floor,im not shy it,there are visible.but nobody asking me about.i think that its not polite to ask it .im not care of it.and even dont c myself,u can do lazer therapy to delete thems.kiss.

wow...poor you

huh?

just like tattoos, scars can be really cool :)

I agree. I have a few scars on myself and I have no problem whatsover. I und. ur concern being a woman is a little more complicated, but as someone else mentioned it; there are several solutions nowadays. I wouldn't worry if i were you. hugs!

why u care?i think it impolite from guys asking'have u children or not'and u do not need exsplain what happens with you!of course flat normal stomath without any problem always better but in your stomath nothing ugly...we all peoples and do not need be ideal doll!cheers!

What's so impolite about asking if a host has kids? It's one of the first questions they usually ask me. So it's ok for them to ask and not ok for the members? Anyway, getting back to the topic, I've seen many, many hosts with scars on their lower right abdomen and I always wonder what it is. So, what is it? Cesarean section scar, appendectomy scar, scar from other surgery...what? Someone please tell me, I am curious. I just find it interesting that so many have it in the exact same spot.

It is for our imperfections for which we are loved; it is part of you, part of the whole package which makes you the person you are. If someone loves you, they also love the scar...and everything else

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a friend in need,is a friend indeed

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I agree to a certain extent. I don't like lending money, therefore i never ask for any. Money lending can ruin a friendship!

neither a borrower or lender be but there are exceptions to every rule.i hope it never happens for you,but if that exception arises i'm guessing it would be a true friend.

I lent some to my parents to buy an off-plan property, it took them 1 year to give back. Felt very weird asking for it. And it was my parents lol, imagine if it was anybody else.

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The answer is simple -- a GOOD friend is someone who will always make a little time for you.

I know we all get caught up in things. I know we all have things to do in our daily lives. We have work... we have errands to run... groceries to do... the list goes on and on. And it's always easy to point to those things and use them to make all sorts of excuses. But a REAL friend is someone who stops -- even if its only for a few minutes -- to say that they were thinking of you. Or that they were missing you. Or they take a moment out of the day to ask how YOU are doing. They show their friendship by actually being a friend and making some time to show you that they genuinely care about YOU.

That's it. It really is that simple.

Now take all of that and reverse it. A person who just stays focused only on themselves or who uses their daily life as an excuse for why they don't do nice things or stay in touch...a person who doesn't bother to ask how you are doing or what is new in your life...or a person who can't even be bothered to take a few moments every so often to say that they miss you even when you both are running around and busy -- that's a BAD friend for sure. Because like I said, a good friend is the person who finds or makes the time to be a true friend.

I always appreciate what you write, how true and accurate. Can't say my name as I've closed my account, but still read these sometimes. Thanks

You always appreciate what I write? I have a fan for my writing?
Well, in that case, thanks for your thanks -- and for the kind words!

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I agree with what you say about good and bad friends

Are you male or female?

LOL That's an interesting question.
I'm male. Why do you ask?

...A real friend is a person who knows everything about you and still be able to like you..... and im so lucky I have a couple of those...

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Well I usually don't pass on e-mails like this, but it seems relevent to your question:

A simple friend, when visiting, acts like a guest.
A real friend opens your refrigerator and helps himself and doesn'tfeel even the least bit weird shutting your 'Pepsi drawer' with herfoot!

A simple friend has never seen you cry.
A real friend shoulder is soggy from your tears..

A simple friend brings a bottle of wine to yourparty.
A real friend comes early to help you cook andstays late to help you clean.

A simple friend hates it when you call afterthey've gone to bed.
A real friend asks you why you took so long tocall.

A simple friend seeks to talk with you about yourproblems.
A real friend seeks to help you with your problems.

A simple friend wonders about your romantichistory.
A real friend could blackmail you with it!

A simple friend thinks the friendship is over whenyou have an argument.
A real friend calls you after you had a fight.

A simple friend expects you to always be there forthem.
A real friend expects to always be there for you!

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a friend is who doubles ur joy and divides ur grief...

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Since the question was for Hosts and Guests, I'll say something from a Guest point of view. You Hosts seem to believe that every guy wants to add you to his Yahoo messenger to get a free show or to have long chats that will eat up your time. But all we really want is for you to be a friend. After all, isn't that why we keep coming back to see you? Because we like spending some time with you? So, girls, what's wrong with throwing us guys a bone once in awhile and giving us a few minutes of your time? To just chat a little bit and be a real friend?

I met a host online and we traded Yahoo IDs. I saw her for months and spent more money than I want to even think about. Every time she would come on Yahoo she would say hi and instantly shift to saying "I feel horny, baby. Come see me and let's play" or "I have a new outfit, baby. I want to show it to you now." And like most guys I would think with my little brain and pay to see her.

One day we were both on messenger when she wasn't working. So I threw her my cam to say hello, but she wouldn't turn hers on. I said "Can't I see you for a minute?" and she said "You can see me at work." I said "Why can't I see you now for a few moments while we chat? Why does it always have to be about money?" She got mad and tried to turn it on me and said "Don't you want to help me make money? You can see me when I'm working. I thought you were my friend."

That's when I realized that's all she ever did. She would come on messenger and ask me to pay to spend time with her. And that's when I realized she never asked about my job or how it was going -- even though I'd always ask how her day had been, dealing with her guests. She never asked about my family or friends -- even though I asked about hers. She never took a real interest in my life. And that's when I realized our friendship was one-sided.

A few days later she got a new outfit and tried her usual trick. She came on messenger and asked me to come see her. I said "If you want me to see it that bad just turn on your cam and show me now." But she wouldn't do it. So I asked her to take a picture and email it, but she wouldn't do that. She said if I wanted to see it, I had to pay to see it. So I told her I was busy and I'd come see it later...and then I deleted her off my messenger and blocked her. I realized the only reason we were messenger buddies was so she could drum up business, not because she wanted to be my friend.

Now when a host offers me her Yahoo ID, I give her two tries to start a nice chat and show that she's really interested in being a friend. But if she only plays the same old game of "Come see me, baby" then it's three strikes and your out. That's when I will delete and block her too. A tip to the Hosts -- guys like friends that aren't only after our wallets!

I have a very similar situation. You expressed it very well. Best wishes to the hosts and guests, please be decent to each other.

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why i give yahoo often?just because 4 me hard offend someone:)

It's almost like you don't even realize where you are.

Hey heh...why bother to give out ur yahoo? You must like to have any friends!

Good friends are in each others heart, while others may never be allowed to enter.

Since character and values are not always shared, there are times
when friends may do bad things. As in all relationships, the time may come when the friendship may be tested. It is then one discovers whether the bond is strong and shared.

"Keep your friends close and your enemies closer" Sun-Tzu 400 B.C.

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A true friend is there for you when you want or need to share good and bad things with him/her, support you when you need help. A true friend understands you and don't judge you before he/she is very sure about what happenes. A true friend understands your life and don't take things personaly every time. What happenes when a friend gets romanticaly involved and the other one can't answer with the same feelings? Especially when its a host. Every person is important and everyone should understand friend's responsabilities and priorities. I myself miss my friends when they are away or don't talk with them for some time. But am I a bad friend if I don't call them the second day? Am I a bad friend if I call them after a week? Maybe I wait and see if he/she is calling me...or wait untill he/she comes back and discuss instead leaving messages by example. Life can be hard and people can change so I think its better to be a good person in general but be prepared for everything. Have a nice day!

Model, I thought this was actually a very nice answer and well-thought out. And I think you sound very sweet. You seem care about people's feelings -- both the other person and your own. Which means whether you made a good choice or bad in something that you did, you at least tried to put your heart in the right place and do the right thing. And that's the most that anyone can ever do in life.

And I agree you don't have to call or write or IM your friend EVERY day -- on the second day like you mentioned. Everyone deserves time to themselves and friends should respect that of each other. The only thing I would slightly disagree with is when you said "maybe I'll wait a week to see if he/she will call me." When you start turning it into a game...when you start to say "I'll wait them out and see if they contact me first!"...that's when feelings often do get hurt and for a silly reason. I just think if you talk to your friends and come to an understanding...let them know when you're busy or not...let them know when you miss them overall...things just go better because it's two friends actually talking and trusting each other.

And I definitely agree that it's especially hard when a guy falls for a Host and she can't fully return the feelings. There are all sorts of reasons for that. Maybe they live far apart and the host doesn't want to leave her country...or because of her family...or maybe there's some other reason that holds her back or that doesn't allow her to be with the guy (the guest) at that time. Who knows? Maybe she's even scared to take a chance on love and to trust someone she met online since it could change her life in a big way.

Personally, that saddens me because I hate to see people holding themselves back when love could be found. I think love is universal and you find it where you find it -- and, yes, sometimes that means you meet the person of your dreams...the soul mate you wanted to find...completely by accident and online and it turns out they are half a world away. But even if you are "here" and he/she is 'there" that doesn't mean you love them any less. It just means...like a classical love story...that you have to find a way to make things work. And sometimes when time passes and two people overcome several obstacles, that makes for the greatest love of all -- because you never gave up on each other or your love, and when you come together you realize it WAS true love that conquered all.

LOL and if I sound like a hopeless romantic and like someone who once lost his heart to a host -- you'd be right. I never once cared about the distance between us. As far as I'm concerned, that's what planes, trains and cars are for. All I know is I didn't care that she was a Host or what she did for a living. I just wanted to hug her and hold her for the woman she truly is. Which is why I loved her with all of my heart despite the distance between us. And if she's out there and reads this and thinks "Hey, that sounds like so and so," then I hope she'll know that I still have only warm feelings in my heart for her. Because she really was...well, she still is...the greatest woman I've ever known. So a big >muah< to her.

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Real friends - hmm, I think real friendship needs time. I got 3 real friends who I know since 16 years, some more - some less.
I know I can lean on them in every situation and they can lean on my when ever they need me. All other people are more or less
good acquaintances or buddies... and one thing is clear: REAL FRIENDSHIP CAN ONLY BE BETWEEN GUYS :)

Real friends can loose contact for weeks or even months (maybe they live in other cities or even countries) but when they
come back together, everything is like it used to be and none is mad at the other. Both know that the other has his/her
everyday life and also needs some time on his/her own...

Real friends tell each other everything, they trust each other blindly. They would never expoloit a weakness of the other.

Real friends are not selfish. People who try to get any advantage from the other and only call you when they need something,
doesn't matter what, are not friends. You don't hear anything from them for weeks, you call them and sometimes they answer
but most of time not. And finally when they call you, the 3rd or 4th sentence is "can you do me a faviour"....

This brings me to another point: Real friendship is not onesided. If I realize that it's only me who calls the other and he/she
never calls back or initiates a contact...then why should I keep calling that person? I mean, if I won't call him/her, he/she
obviously can easily be without me...

I am talking about people you met in the real world. I'm not sure if real friendship can be established if you meet someone
online - especially CC. This is not a single/dating site. The girls here try to make some money here for their living.
And what kind of friendship can be established if one (host) depends on the other (the member who pays)??? They are
"businesspartners"...
Of course if two like each other they can change to IM or Mail, but even then it is not sure, if that will work.
And the biggest problem is the distance. If you only know a person online and never have met him/her in real life, then you cannot
know how this person is truely. You think you know that person, but there are still parts of the person, character or attitudes
you don't know - and you automatically fill up this gap with your "wishing" - how you would like to be that part.
And when you finally met in real life, then you think this is not the person I met online...and that's the biggest problem...

Maybe my posting sounds to dark and to pessimistic, but I was already through all this. Yepp, I used to be a member here too.
I left and came back more than once and some days ago I quit again, but this time it's different. I quit not because of the
money I spent here (and at the moment I could offer even $5 one2one easily :P), no somehow I woke up, I realized this cannot
work and real friends or love cannot be found at CC. If someone prooves me wrong, glad for you and be happy :) But for me that
did not work, on the contrary - just illusions and disappointment...
Anyway 6-7 years CC cannot be thrown away that easily, that's why I come back sometimes for reading the forum.

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Autumn?!! So far away :(
I hope they will have a summer contest.

i think it will be in july "beach contest" so u can save some more :DDD

There should be a summer beach contest!!!!

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Simon I feel your pain. I have all these favorites who love me but things are tough right now and I am nothing but a loser to them too. I understand this is an adult website that people pay for, but it hurts to be treated like nothing more then a wallet. I also understand the hosts get treated like pieces of meat sometimes too. It is a shame that we cant just have fun and be respectful. But i guess that is a fantasy. and yes this is my real name too.

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1. 'Loser' is a word used by some hosts in Community Chat as a description for members who stay in free chat rather than pay - it's never really said in anger or to cause major offence - most hosts will let you know quite clearly when you *really* are annoying them :)

2. Simple psychology - calling the person that makes the host stop talking to you a 'Loser' makes it seem that they believe you are not a 'Loser', but it's their job, so they must go and talk/vid with them. So it's really a compliment to you in a rough sort of way ....

.... of course once in her room with the 'Loser' I'm sure all the guys she left in Com Chat are described as 'Total Losers' .... oh well .... I ain't proud :p

some members are asking to call thems a "loser""bitch" "slut" etc maybe he is slave and his nickname is" loser"?;)

I dont consider man that comes online loosers no matter in video or free chat - even, slaves or what ever fantasy someone has, this should be the safe place to express it not place which will make you feel as "looser" or what ever negative; if i cant boost your self-esteem - what are you paying me for then?
hun, as i see it, girls here may act as that girl did couse they feel bad for doing this job, not comfortable with themselves= thus, dont get her seriously, so many girls her have respect for memeber, enjoy them
muahaaaaa

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I like Jerri and her humor :)

yeah, she's a big and rude at times, but i like her too.

is she rude ? I like her lipstick :)

"a big mouth" i meant.

but isn't she cool, is she??

me too, totally with you - jerri always makes me laugh, and cum sometimes

I saw her sometime last month. She is too skinny for my taste and has a bad attitude.

Does she strip?

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A girl calls one member a loser and you try to say she is calling all members losers: Wow.

What if that member was me or you? I was only trying to see if other hosts think the same way as jerriko.
I don't know what type of education she got, but I think she owes respect to us as we owe respect to them regardless what she thinks. I dont mind how she think or feels, but dont call a member loser just becuase he went in her vid.
Treat others the same way you wish to be treated.

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Not every member here is a gentleman. There are, in fact, a few real jerk members lurking about. Why you seem to choose to generalize that her attitude toward this one member must be the same she has for all, I have no idea. Did it occur to you that, just maybe, she might have a history with this one member and knows him to be something she rightfully should consider a loser?

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You only need worry about her remarks if there is a good reason to place any value in her judgement of others.

I agree, it's horrible to be thought of as a loser. This is my real name too

as my Opinion, Jerr is just cool person, she's not blame someone with bad intend. I think, that reason she told "looser" as pvt on Public chat is, she's quite busy at work. and tried to be nice, and friendly going with U. but she got work with $. so She just simply told you "looser" that just maybe exerrated the way of her saying. but how about visiter her Video? when you will know more of her. just my Opinion is this ;)

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you obviously don't know her.someone who speaks the way she does has no need to hide behind a different name.she says what she says & you can like it or lump it.that's your choice,as speaking her mind is hers.not saying i agree with her or don't,but it's refreshing that someone is confident & open enough to say what they feel,instead of pretending(lying).

The curious case of Benjamin Button :D

Ghost.....

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Oktyabr': Desyat' dney kotorye potryasli mir = October: Ten Days That Shook the World (1927) by Sergei Eisenstein - heavily censored by Stalin.

Dvenadtsat' Stul'ev = The Twelve Chairs (1929) Classic satirical by the Soviet authors Ilf and Petrov.

Aleksandr Nevskiy (1938) Stalin's favorite propoganda film.
Anastasia (1956)(USA) ( youngest daughter of Czar Nicholas II ) with Ingrid Bergman

Letyat Zhuravli = Cranes are Flying (1957) Effects of WWII on a Soviet family of the professional class.

Ballada о soldate = Ballad of a Soldier (1959) Soldier boy - hero granted 6 day leave to see his mother - enroute he helps everyone but himself on the way to a 3 minute final meeting with mother.

Devchata = The Girls (1961) Comedy Romance feature film - a few girls work in Soviet Lumbercamp in Ural Mountans.

Csillagosok Katonák (Hungarian) = The Red and the White (1968) 1918 Civil War "Reds" - vs - "Whites" set in Central Russia in the hills along Volga River.

Ofitsery = Officers (1971) Friendship thru Civil war and WW II (1920 - 1960).

A Zori Zdes Tikhie = The Dawns Here Are Quiet (1972) Female Soviet soldiers struggle against Nazi's in remote forest.

Dzhentlmeny udachi = Gentlemen of Fortune (1972) Comedy, Look-a-like Innocent is mistaken for criminal.

Moskva slezam ne verit = Moscow Distrusts Tears / Moscow Does Not Believe in Tears (1979) Comparative lives of 3 girls looking for their "real man".

Legenda Suramskoy kreposti = The Legend of the Suram Fortress (1984) A well-known Georgian folk-tale. Made after directors release from Soviet prison.




Okno v Parizh = Window to Paris (1994) In depressed life after collapse of USSR a mystery of window is discovered.

Utomlyonnye solntsem = Burnt by the Sun (1994) During Stalin's Great Purge of 1936, an NKVD Secret Police officer - in an effort to win back his former lover, who is now a General's wife, arrests the General who is a decorated hero of the Russian Civil War .
Shirli-Myrli ~ What a Mess! (1995) World's biggest diamond was found in Siberia - Mafia plans to steal the massive gem. Funny.
Kavkazskii plennik = Prisoner of the mountains (1996) Russian Mother tries to free soldier-son held by muslim village.
Enemies at the Gate ( 2001 ) (USA) about sniper and hero of Soviet Union Vassili Zaitsev

Koktebel = Roads to Koktebel (2003) Widower and his son's Journey from Moscow to Krim/Black Sea to make new life.
Vozvrashcheniye = The Return (2003) A suddenly returned father tries make up for lost years to his 2 teenage sons.
Khadzhi-Murat - The White Warrior (2004)(Italian) Based on the novel: Hadji Murad by Leo Tolstoy. Chechen chieftain who led his warriors in a fight against the invading forces of the Russian Czar Nicholas I .

IKONA = Icon (2005)(USA) Political Thriller
Eastern Promises (2007) USA story of the vor v zakone.
1612 (2007) Russian historical fantasy film about the Time of Troubles, however there are unicorns and magic swords in battle. lol
"Twelve" (2007) Nikita Mikhalkov's film about 12 jurors who must decide the fate of a Chechen teenager charged with murdering his stepfather.

Paragraf 78 (2007) Sci Fi Future war in the Artic.

Gruz 200 = Freight 200 (2007) In the gloom of the 1984 Soviet Union Crazed Policeman takes woman hostage.

Reviewers (in UK) the other day posted these as favourite films in their own countries that are hardly known, or never seen, internationally. Has anyone seen any of these? -

Mr Bones 2: Back from the past (S africa 2008)
Laskar Pelangi, Ayat-Ayat Cinta (Indonesia 2008)
El Crimen de Padre Amaro (Mexico 2002)
Eskimo Limon (Israel 1978)
Ironiya Sudby:Prodolzhenie (Irony of Fate: the sequel, Russia 2002)
Recep Ivedik & 2, (Turkey 2008)
Kurtlar Vadisi Irak, Valley of the wolves iraq (Turkey 2006)

also faves locally are; Bienvenue Chez les Ch'tis (France)
Michael Collins (Ireland) Mamma Mia (UK)
Titanic (US) Crocodile Dundee (Oz), Manitou's Shoe (Germany)
Ghajini (India, version of Memento?), Red Cliff (China),
Se Eu Fosse Voce 2 (If I were U 2, Brazil) The Others, The Orphanage (Spain)

For me, I'd mention the Korean (?) absolutely terrifying (for men!) revenge horror Audition

Two old school sci- fi classics.
"The Forbidden Planet" and the original " The Day the Earth Stood Still"
Obviously,there are many many movies that are unforgettable and thought provoking.
Be interesting to see the opinions put here.

Original The Day the Eart Stood Still was fantastic, the remake was horrid!

butterfly on a wheel its the best movie ever,room 1408,equilibrium ,derailed ,Mr brooks,Butterfly effect ,Pretty woman ...the list should go on

agree, Room 1408, Motel, Saw 3, Shutter, and Resident Evil 3. those are all horrible movie. I really regret to see after 1408 alone, even though If I had watch with my bf, would be much better though :) saw is really xD omg. Shutter is japanese movie kinda sad. there is a kernel and Resident Evil 3 also nice though kinsa sad, the main actor is died as sacrifice lefting his daughter and other Girl there, so such strange mixing Horror + Sadness :)

Star Trek - still in theaters :D

Terminator Salvation is also still im the theatures and is a good science fiction movie.

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Mulholland Drive.. Get your thinking cap on for this movie !!

Anything done by David Lynch should really only be recommended if you know for sure that you're speaking to someone who has a penchant for disturbing and pointless weirdness.

I agree, Snatch is great, just watched it again this evening.

Ghost !!!!

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The latest StarTrek is terrific. Mullhollanddrinve is one of the best ever. I also like "C'est la vie" (french movie), which is in german theatres now. i also loved slumdog mill.

1.: 9th Roth 2.:Admiral 3.:Teras Bulba

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AMEN!!!! Best story i've heard lately, made my day :) the good luck still exist, and happy people too!

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Nice reply,,,,,but your version left out several important points that men cherish :)

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Reminds me of my 1st (and only) marriage. I told my boss I was thinking of gettng married, he being a married man said " Nooooo, don't do it, I'm married and I'm telling you it's overrated" On the other hand living alone is not that great either, what's the other choices?.

get a hobby,get a pet,go gay,both last 2 or make them your hobby,get neutered,suffer in silence or whinge,moan & complain.

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No thanks

Best one ever I did, one time I had to pick up coffin for a play, we had someone in the coffin in the back of the truck receive the order when we arrived at the window. Was so funny to see the order taker then.

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maybe thats one reason why you work here...

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just lost me!

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"Oh No. Not again!"

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You know he'll be back just to read the responses from this post. Saying you're leaving is easy, staying away is the hard part.

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I've left ages ago ........

aww .... shit!! :p

"The time has come", the Walrus said, "to speak of many things".. and so goes one of my favorite poems. Perhaps in another time, you may wish to speak again. If not, try the oysters, they're delicious. I wish you well. Au revoir ...................................

Don`t forget your towel,,,,see you at the Restauraunt at the End of the Universe . I`ll save you a table with Ford and Zaphod,,,Arthur

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The official first day of summer is June 21.

Presumably only "official" in certain countries, in others 21 June will be the middle of winter

Yeah.. its winter time here in Australia...boo hoo....but not too cold.

here is also still cold 53.6F in the morning

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no, please say it isn't so

so what? would be fun, if you husband or bf finds you here...if he is angry, well just ask him, what he did on this site....:P

U' got the answer

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lol....how do you know that it's me ;)

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u dont speak English or u think German girls are better or you are looking for some romance :D - hope some nice German girl will contact you - then again, u should of leave your nick here:D
think about it - good luck

well, I do speak English
I don't think German girl are better, ask "unknown :))" she knows my type of girl
a romance? here? well, to many disappointments - I am served with that.

No, I am just curious to get to know some from Germany, who are not millions of miles away ...:)

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lol......of course it is not a MUST being German...all hosts from Germany are welcome :D

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so here is my nickname.....forgot to post it :D ...feel free to write me :)

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