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You could well be right with your ps but I think it is s a different kind of "sadness" that most hosts feel. It is the same sadness I feel whenever I get my credit card statement :P

The only time a host will feel truly sad if a member leaves is when, just like me, that member is a legend and a stud muffin who can provide them with hours and hours of jungle sex.

Pershaps Chathosts would prefer jingle sex INYF?
Well...credit cards don't jingle though. :D

The jingling comes from the few coins that are left in my pocket topaz :(

You should take the coins out of your pockets when in a vid session ..... that rhythmic jingling will make the next door neighbours' kids think Christmas is coming again :)

Viewers are sad when their favorite host leaves Camcontacts.

By far.

Hosts will miss viewer only if he spend massive amounts of money for chatting with them. Otherwise, they hardly notice he's not around anymore.

instant action will full fill ur needs ;)

Always against viewers.

yeah i am when they say absolutely pathetic things

Thank you....well said!!

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from Wikipedia

Softcore pornography is a form of filmic or photographic pornography or erotica that is less sexually explicit than hardcore pornography. Softcore pornography depicts nude and semi-nude performers engaging in casual social nudity or non-graphic representations of sexual intercourse or masturbation. Softcore porn precludes explicit depictions of vaginal or anal penetration, cunnilingus, fellatio and ejaculation. Visual representations of genitalia (full nudity) are typically permissible in a softcore context in printed media,[1] and increasingly so in film[2] and television.[3] Erections of the penis may not be allowed (see Mull of Kintyre Test), although attitudes towards this are changing.[4]

Portions of images which are considered too explicit may be obscured (censored) through various means. These techniques include the use of draped hair or clothing, carefully positioned hands or other body parts, carefully positioned foreground elements in the scene (often plants or drapery), and carefully chosen camera angles.

In most cases the sexual acts depicted in softcore pornography are entirely simulated by the actors; no actual penetration occurs. Often the actors wear latex genital covers to prevent physical contact. Film directors go to great lengths to obscure such covers on screen, but often fail to completely hide them. The comedian Pablo Francisco joked about this "facade" during one of his routines: "The reason they call it soft porn [is] 'cause it doesn't get you hard."[5]

Hardcore film makers will sometimes make edited softcore versions of their films for the hotel pay-per-view market, cutting in less explicit angles of the sex scenes.[6]

You are definitely an IA sorta guy Vince. Not So Shy could also fit your needs and desires if you give them a chance to get undressed.
You are NOT a softcore guy so don't try to think that simple words will make the hosts meet your wishes. Try changing your category Mr. Quickie :)

I guess here is another person I need to give a big stick to and point in the direction of the dead horse. Maybe one day it will be beaten to a pulp and the topic will finally die.

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Very charming, Chase! Welcome back!

keep up the day job and forget the music.

don't worry,i'll cc mail you my thoughts :--)

Boring.....!
Getting rid of the forums is the least concern, getting rid of wingers and beggars though, now that would be better :)

Don't see your point at all, I think it's a really good way for chit chat, and another way for hosts to advertise themselves.

Profile are all very well and good, but a little personality amongst others publicly shows nicely.
If it wasn't for this the general forum i wouldn't have ever come across Monikababe, if it wasn't for the new year home page, i wouldn't have found Inotanangel, Chanel... etc etc.

It's all good advertising, and chit chat.
Quit winging! :p

advertising in here now, wo now that makes me wont to quit reading forums now. i read them just to see what the trend is, but host advertising now in here, give us a break-stick to your profiles for that

You're addicted like all of us...hehe. You will say this and you might not even miss it for awhile .....then some morning you will wake up and pour the coffee and you'll be bored to death.....the next thing...you'll be reading and posting in the forums again :) We've all been there and look where we are now :)) You'll be back!

what makes you so sure-maybe he was serious

Blah

who is this INYF

The best known stud muffin in the history of cc and a legend in his own mind.

LMAO-good one, by the way has anyone seen cherry lately--hotttttttttttttttttt

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for me my most from cc would be chester

jungle sex-LMAO, by the way how any times have you had jungle sex

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I just love the fact that men are paying to see me and talk to me. Boosts my ego so much! That lone thing would keep me here forever :)

Yes I've actually learned a lot. Do I crave the attention no but I feel much better about my natural breasts, realize when a woman is naked men don't see any flaws and now know that the past men in my life weren't lying about my looks to just get me in bed...lol...they do it here to get me naked :) As far as changing my life...oh yes...now I have my friends and family wondering why I enjoy staying at home alone on weekends and they can't come over.
As far as jungle sex and INYF....I can't put those in the same thought unless we are talking two different jungles :)

Ouch !!! lol

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member: tisme
host: tisme

would you still think he's the best if you knew he doesn't use his fingers or toes to type but another pointed protruberance? but have to agree though thomasS77 is clever in the way he can type while changing feet in his mouth! :--)
p.s the body was cool but not as good as macho man,ricky steamboat,ultimate warrior or the greastest stone cold!

opps-by bad--I meant
member: thomass777
host: host

But Jesse was Governor of Minnesota for one term.

and arnie was governor of california for 2 terms.think that says more about universal sufferage than the important pursuit of mastery of the grapple :--)

Actually was less than 2 terms. He served the remainder of Gray Davis's 2nd term. And now they have Governor Moonbeam back for his 3rd.

And speaking as a Californian, Heaven help us now. Governor Moonbeam ran for office saying Arnold did a crappy job with the state budget (the truth being the State legislature would never let Arnold cut a single thing like he always wanted)...then Moonbeam said Meg Whitman (his opponent) didn't know squat about balancing budgets (even though she was CEO of eBay and a self-made millionaire) and he even promised he wouldn't raise taxes. So the morons in California elected him. But now that's he's facing a $30 BILLION state deficit, of course the first thing Moonbeam says is "Guess I'll have to raise all of your taxes after all." Ah, you gotta love politics where you can say anything to get elected and still get away with it.

Governor Moonbeam?! Who is his father...Frank Zappa!

The late Edmund G. Brown who defeated Tricky Dick Nixon for Governor in 1962

and for romania too

Just from a business point of view -- what would be the point of having a Russian chat room or a Romanian one? That would only serve to separate people into little groups, when the whole point of having a CC chat room is to bring people together, so everyone can mingle in one place and you have a much better opportunity to meet new people.

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or alternatively realise that, in the grand scheme of things, it is no big deal and learn to live with it.

we talking chatroon or your postman's whistle friend? :--)

I couldn't disagree more. My russian and romanian has improved no end thanks to the presence of these wonderful girls in the chat room. Personally I'd rather ban english.

report them to cc.

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I agree, if they cant type English, they need to get a new translator, but really who cares, I only visit and chat with Asian Host and they type pretty good English

I love the ideal they can type any language they want, helps me to learn some new language. I think CC needs to do away with the English speaking in chat room let anyone type anything they want to, as long as it's not rude toward others.

the way war & i(& assorted others)type,it's like we're speaking foreign languages anyway :--)

I love the ignore button a lot when this happens, they don't have a problem doing that to me so I do it to.

viewer103 i really wanted to read your post,but it you're on iggy :--)

what I didn't see that

I doubt there would be much communication then....;) It could be called the community no chat room....

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I apologize for my poor spelling

It's okay... Just don't type so fast next time.

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You used the word "legerdemain"... wow, I think I'm in love.

Move over, Romeo.

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+1

Glam+1(monikaBabe=GlamBabe? :--)

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lol Glam :--)

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Its a cam sex site, that cc doesnt mind if it gets confused with a cam dating site ;)

What does it matter and who can decide who they will have chemistry with in this huge world and when?? You could do e-harmony for 10 years and come here and two people are perfect for each other. Who can say what can happen. I doubt too many girls here would turn down someone that seemed Mr. Perfect for her honestly unless she is already in a relationship and happy. I think there is much more room for fantasy here when guys are looking through the selection. Each one looking their sexiest and at their best with minimal clothing ...what guy wouldn't want to wake up to one of them. In reality that is just one small portion of a hosts life and it seems like guests that might be a consideration are never close in distance but only in cam life. Never say never it has happened here. I also think with any long distance relationships that there are fantasy's of what you want to believe but in reality it can be totally different when 2 people finally meet.
I think it is a mistake in the way that no matter how much you communicate long distance it's nothing like being around a person and learning things as you go opposed to what they tell you..

I agree. So having a long term marriage category is completely disingenuous?

The funny part is they never find a partner and they are eternally in that category. I think it is happening all over the site and why not? There are plenty to choose from :)

Well, hmmm---all I can say a date can happen from anywhere or at any place, it be here or there or anywhere, it can happen, I know, but if a host here doesn't want to date a member and visa-versa that is cool and okie, just keep in mind have fun here and let people ask and get use to be turning down like me, it doesn't bother me that much to get upset or bend out of line if a host doesn't wont to date a member on here, beside's it's their life.

I have to agree with the post above, can happen and has happen and if host not interested thats OK, now can we let this topic go away, it makes me nervous because i'm afraid i'm going to fall in love here at cc.

I was hoping no one would agree with me--now I take that back what I said above--to begin why would a host want to meet a pervert like us, give me a break and lets have some fun around here-you people are getting way to serious

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Viewers Home Alone: Host Makes Money
Viewers Home Alone: Host has someone to pervert with
Viewers Home Alone: Host Not Alone
Viewers Home Alone: have to Read these silly forums

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viewer pretending to have a big dick (no cam supplied)

you forgot: Viewer Home Not Alone, hoping wife does not catch him!

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4, 5, 7, 8 or 9. Which one to choose.

I would like to add a few to the list:
Non-Adult
10. Viewer Home Alone with no Money Looking for a Date
Adult Soft-Core
11. Viewer Home Alone with some Money-Party Time, get naked fast
Adult Hardcore
12. Viewer Home Alone with Lots of Money-looking for Trip on Fantasy Island. ( yes I know this one already exist for most categories, but lets cut to the chase and get it over with and know up front what is expecting).

are we the viewers going to get pay by host now or get discounts

yes & no :--)

you don't have 2 choose 1,feel 3 to choose more(4) :--)

I've observed the same and it doesn't make sense. I assume it is a cultural thing. I'm told the cost to do so is very low. The curves are great when clothes are on but maybe it's a personal thing but man I HATE the look of fake boobs when they are naked. Unless they are malformed, or aged badly or from kids I see no reason to get implants. Just my personal opinion.

I'm also noticed a lot of Latin hosts with implants.

I hope I'm not offending Colombian's by linking them with Brazilians, but I remember news stories back in the 80's about a boom in implants in Brazil where most women are usually naturally small.

There are even "impant vacations" to Brazil because they're so many plastic surgeons. I assume the cultural acceptance of implants has started to spread to Colombia.

South America is a mecca for cheap plastic surgery and dental work. It is somewhat expensive for the locals but very cheap compared to the US and Europe. You can get a dental implant for around $600....you can barely get a couple of fillings for that in the US. Columbia is also a little different than other South American countries..their men like that look so the girls do it...and make some money on the side because of it....Argentina, Chile and Uruguay...less into the surgery on the boobs...face...yes...they want eternal youth. But they like their look lean and sophisticated. Oh yeah you can get weight loss surgery (lapband or RNY) for a fraction of the cost in the US>

why does this make you so curious, nothing wrong with implants, if I was a woman (Brazil or from where ever) I would want the biggest boobs that a person could have.

I have to say all of the Columbian girls I have seen on this site and others have implants, all appear to be in a studio, all are quite attractive and all have a hard time getting undressed in pvt.

We must be visiting different Columbian girls as I have seen 6 or 7 and every one got naked.

Maybe they have hard time getting undressed in prvt because the boob implants are so big, it's hard to get clothes over and off them ;)

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The breast implants is a cultural thing in Colombia. There's even a book called "without tits there is no paradise" about a girl who has "normal" breasts and wants to have BIG ones to get the rich drug dealing guys.

Colombian guys expect girls to have great tits and amazing asses. So girls go into the plastic surgery as some other girls go to hair dresser.

I saw a while ago a host that was from colombia and had a nice natural body, and after a while, she got HUGE breast implants and maybe some butt enhancement.

I liked more the real her. Now i think she is gone, maybe she got a fake-boob-loving bf

I do not want to see the same stereotypes again and again that there are a thousand times and bores me. whether the model is thick or thin, does not matter, they must be sexy, the photos need to express something vivid, I do not like when a girl too much throws in pose, its cold and not natural

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Be more original in your posting name....I have been using that for some time :) Also I think it was very obvious what lizard was saying.
I personally think there is so much photo shop that their faces look like cartoon characters and not like girls.

sorry for bad english, i partially used google translator.
i found better word: exaggerated pose

i would like to see new girls. only if they are not worse than last..

Thin is in

Well I now have read it all-real or photoshop.Only difference is the for me is I love seeing photoshop photos and girls it gets my sexual feelings in a high mode before a video, then when I get into the video and see the real, well all I can say, go back to the photoshop pictures and ask myself, does this makes sense why i am here

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I like to see slim supermodels and curvy but only if they look really good and special, i have in the past moaned about seeing the same old covergirls and asked for some new girls...but mentioning no names, i think some of the new girls chosen did not come up to expectations. However there were a few new stars discovered.
The standards should be kept high to reflect a good image of the site and the hosts that work here and the covergirls should be rewarded enough to make it worth their time and expense in what is after all a gamble for them. Photoshop or not doesn't bother me, if i want to visit a host i will judge her by her archives not by covergirl photos, i do find it a little strange that the rules (as i understand) say no photoshop allowed but it appears obvious most do use it, why not say photoshop is allowed but any photos that no longer resemble the host will not be chosen.
Finally i think the two tier format is a good one, ie. covergirls and angels.

thanks for the memories-brings me back to thinking, why did I do it

thanks for instant action i never get bored

Thanks (hmm-all I can think of now)

"and the most thankful memory I had was a 1 hour private with a host that I didn't know I had..."lmao aus,you mean there was not even any tell-tale sticky,used tissues about?sounds like thge immaculate interception! either that or you had alaskan frostbite :--)

souldnt it be thx for the mammaries ladies :P

i udderly agree :--)

Don't know about Canada, but I know a lot went to the United States, around California, Nevada and Florida areas and a few became well know in the industry made tons of money and even knew one who became a Playboy model living in Texas now and made even more

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Sounds more like trafficing...

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Yes they get there and it's not exactly the wonderful career of modeling that they expected and they are stuck there working as strippers....

yes-a few-why again

I remember about one girl who got a student visa for USA and did some extra-curricular exotic dancing in a NYC club.

She's long gone from cc now. :(

Men and women have always had different ideas when it came to romance. It has been that way since there have been humans on earth and it is not going to change any time soon. And when I say men, I am referring to straight men. On this site it is fair to say you can find almost any kind of man on the planet.

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For me, romance is...
Candlelight dinners, a meal that I have prepared for her, with wine to drink, fire in the fireplace, soft music;
Coming up behind her, putting my arms around her waist, kissing her neck from behind, and whispering "I love you" in her ear;
Quiet walks in the park,
Loving adoration of my partner, affectionate words, pet names, tender and respectful of her;
Flowers for no reason, just to surprise her;
Brief notes reminding her that I love her, tucked in her coat pocket for her to discover later;
Listening to her with my full attention, trying to understand her feelings;
Being with her whenever is possible;
Never forgetting her special days -- birthdays, anniversaries of the day that we met, and so on
--- this is some of what romance means to me.

Bravo....that is a great explanation of romance.

leaving those little romantic love messages on the phone when apart, leaving them love notes around the house you to find, a smile and the look in the eyes when talking to each other and when she goes to bed wearing your flannel shirt and longjohns.

you mean like(in deep,husky,panting voice"what are you wearing?i'm here buck naked with a smoking gun,thinking of your holster." :--)

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like always? do i know you? don't you think i speak in general terms of romantic moments? don't you think that with a real, individual relationship, I could be more specific, answering according to the person I know? every person is different, as are their needs, desires, wants, and dreams. How can I possibly understand what you need, since I do not know you?

How about this for my idea of romance... being able to read your mind?

Or how about this as my idea of foreplay: "Baby, brace yourself!" (a line from movie Mrs. Doubtfire)

So why, if I respond to your question honestly and sincerely, do you slam me for what I write? Can anybody please you? Is anybody perfect enough to meet your standards of romance?

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well obviously it is not me, whoever you are. So (assuming you are Elegance40 (Julia) ) why bother to post your initial post? You already have your "perfect" romantic lover. I have not read Bronte. So I am unenlightened as to what you "need".

I would add, now I feel so stupid for thinking your initial post was a genuine sincere post, and worthy of a reply.

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Please, then accept my apologies for my wrong assumption.

I would have thought it self evident that "..." with her U's and 4's was clearly not the same person as Julia, who writes as does an adult not a child; and is far too good to be involved in forum squabbles.

no it wasn't evident, as I don't know her at all, nor seen much if anything of her posts in the forums.. However, I am quite sorry that I wrongly assumed it was her.

I'm big on romance, i really like this stuff alot.

Nothing makes me feel better than buying a girl flowers, at the petrol filling station.
Romantic meal at home, light some candles... maybe unwrap the macdonalds; put it on a plate.
Walks in the park, great; if she takes the dog with her.
I like to leave notes too, although they look like reminders a lot of the time.
Sharing moments together; like holding her hair back from her face when she's being sick in the toilet.

Lots of things like this...

Mostly i don't care about being 'Romantic',
Anyone be 'romantic'.
can do the right things, like take someone special places, do things 'romantic'...
Anyone can tell a girl 'I love you' it's just three simple words...

But to actually make a girl feel like she is loved is a concept most men don't even seem to understand even exists.
That's the hard part, it don't take any romantic, any cash, anything.
Just to make someone feel truly loved...

It's the most romantic thing of all :p

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Ahhh, reality sets in! LOL

but don't you think, maybe one reason love seems to luster in marriages or long-term relationships, is because we forget the little "romantic things"? Yes, the everyday, hang-in-there, reality things are important (I liked your holding her hair back while she vomits in the toilet! LOL). But maybe we forget too quickly the special things, the little niceties, the spontaneous gestures of affection. How much better might a marriage or long-term relationship be if we continued to "woo" or "court" them like we did when we first fell in love? Yes, anyone can do it, but how many forget and neglect it, and love grows cold or we begin to take one another for granted?

I hope I never forget the "romantic things" in my special relationship. And when we are eighty and have been together for 50 years or more, I hope we will still be just as much in love, and still just as excited about each other, as when we were young.

It is the lingering times of intimacy that seems to fade and is the most important aspect of a relationship. Sex becomes a bedroom thing instead of letting the intimacy linger through the day to create the desire and keeping it exciting always. Keeping that and the passion alive is the key to any long term happy relationship.

I could list things like walking on a beach at sunset or taking my lover to a candlelit dinner as things I'd arrange. But if you want my opinion (as a guy) the most romantic things are the little things that really show you care. Because while they might not be big and expensive, they are usually the most sincere and heartfelt. Which means they become the moments you'll remember for a lifetime.

So romantic (to me) is running an errand and being focused on yourself, but then you see a bouquet of flowers in the store. And that's when you realize you should be thinking of SOMEONE ELSE instead. Because as you look at the flowers, you're reminded that true love is putting THEM first at all times. So you buy the flowers and bring them to her...or arrange for them or candy or a giant teddy bear to be delivered to her...at home or work or wherever...just to make her smile. Or in the middle of your day...even if you're in a business meeting...you slip your cell phone under the table and send a text message that says "I'm thinking of you" so she'll know she's in your heart.

One of the best romantic lines I ever heard -- and this more than anything sums up romance for me -- was in the movie "As Good As It Gets" where Jack Nicholson plays a grumpy guy who falls in love with Helen Hunt. He takes her out to dinner, but says something stupid and offends her. To salvage the date, she challenges him to give her one nice compliment. He then tells a story about some pills he is taking to help him be less grumpy and other things. At first it seems like a totally pointless story. So Helen Hunt asks "I don't get how that's a compliment to me." And Jack Nicholson looks at her and softly says "I take them because you make me want to be a better man."

And I think that's what true romance is. It's when you meet that one special person who inspires you so much that it actually changes your life. And you start to do things that you didn't even think you had in you. All because you now want to be MORE than you were before, FOR that one special person. I know someone like that. I tend to drive her crazy or make her mad at times...and she gets under my skin too...but I can't help loving her. We may never get together...in fact, lately we've been fighting which makes me sad...but I know one thing for sure. Not a day goes by where I don't get up and think of her and miss her and love her -- so I try to be better any way I can just for her.

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We all come here for our own reasons. I like the forum because there are interesting opinions to read. Seems silly to ask someone why they are here when you are here to. Do you think you are more special than the rest of us?

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What are you talking about? Who's flaws did I see?
Your reply makes no sense.

No they weren't really asking a question of Big Dumb Ape. They were making a statement. A judgmental statement.

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she posted she was in love with a member and left soon after . wasnt me :(

so some bloke from this site actually got hold of those fantastic tits in real...I remember she was in girl on girl for short while....I bet there aint a thing she don't do....nudge nudge wink wink...

but did anyone get any photos of those huge tits????

That was just advertising. She married, her place stats say she could be back. Hopefully not a flop.

she was advertising to get married? hahaha ...I think she needed two men to handle those pair of beauties ;)

let start a campaign to get her to come back to CC and grace us with those amazing breasts. They were almost perfect ! Who was the lucky guy on CC who got hold of them?

ladylikely was a great host but dont forget natruallybusty xextaxyx and other very beautiful ladies who are still here ;)

i will look into your recommendations...but there is something about long dark hair, and an innocent face and huge tits on slim body that makes my hormones go crazy...when she warmed up ladylikelily loved to show her taste in anal and it was quite surprising... from such an angelic one ...made it even more orgasmic!

" dont forget natruallybusty xextasyx"??? dude they r implants and she doesnt hide the fact they are either, you need to think before you post

thanks someone... i dont like implants...ladylike lily was all natural - as far i know... but you never know with these russian beauties...they do anything it takes ;)

naturallybusty's breasts are natural .

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indeed casablanca is in my top 5 all time ... and ive been on cc a long long time...but ladylikelily is no longer here and i pine for what I cant have!

r xextasyx boobs real? she never does shows to see.

read my post,NO they r not real, they r implants,and as i stated,she doesnt lie and hide the fact they r fake, even if u dont "like implants" she is certainly worth a visit,highly intelligent and extremely beautiful

well, ladylike lily was like all the other russian girls here...tell you what you want to hear, take your $$$, then go fuck some mafia (or several mafia) fellas who are spoilt for choice...

yes, another, but what a lovely way to spend your hard earned money....ladylike lily had amazing tits...and i am sure a number of very dubious moscow-types would concur....difference they (and i am sure its a large plural) got to suck them for real!

...or just leave her.

I've been through what you have and more. And no matter what others have posted, you are yourself being judgmental. There are many that come to this site and others for things I think are sick and depraved, but how someone spends his own money is his business. Case closed.

Yeah, that's life. Life is 50% of marriages fail, for reasons that are not always foreseeable to the partners in a marriage. You can find yourself in a loveless marriage 10 or 15 or 20 years in, and do you then simply throw your hands up and give up on a possibility of happiness for the rest of your life? I don't consider breaking a commitment lightly; I'm not trying to "justify" anything. It happens. Some of us find strength in the marriage (so far, I have). Some of us don't.

My parents were married for nearly 50 years before my mother passed away, and, yes, my father was heartbroken. At the same time, my mother considered leaving him half a dozen times that I know of, because he can be a real jerk at times. She was never in a position to be able to do that. I couldn't tell you if she regretted that, or not.

I hope you find a suitable mate, Big Dumb Ape.

Why cant i find a man like u :(((

This is why I love the CC message boards. Every so often there is a post that cuts though the garbage and someone will say something from the heart that is brutally honest. Bravo Ape. When I read that person's response I had the same bad reaction when he used his kids as a justification for being here. Congrats on having the courage to call him out for it. Your views on marriage might seem old fashioned but I'm sure there are many here who share your idealism for what a loving and committed relationship should be like.

not matters bbw or mature ? we must have some fun.

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I like them young and slim.

me too but sadly i'm like a magnet for old and fat viewers :(

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latest i think about sex permamently:))

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whem im awake

Wow to all the above....

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I think about sex several times a day. As for having sex...my first thought is to say daily though I know in reality that generally doesn't happen in real life. Even in a new relationship when it is all about the sex...after a few weeks...things calm down...so I would guess 3-4 times a week would suit me fine...but I would think about it every day.

with or without viagara?

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Must be a female....:)

LOL

Viagra does not work. Its just snake oil for Big Pharma to pad their excessive profits.

Hmm, methinks someone didn't lay a place at the dinner table for Mr Objectivity.

Oh trust me Viagra works...even the cheap knockoff stuff from India. I can get an erection no problem but sustaining it over a long period of time can be a struggle for anyone over the age of 16. Viagra keeps it up and frankly keeps it harder and consequently a bit longer. Win win

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Nothing wrong with a healthy sex drive....but your bf might need something to keep up with you :))

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i'd tell you but the hosts are always in 121 i can't even see how much they charge :P .

So the sheeps theory is true.....everyone goes in the same place :)))) when u see a girl always in private u want the same thing..

yes, but seems it is video with a same member,couse 121 is never over.just going and going. everyday.when i tryed to come to one other host who is non stop open session.this host in open video just ignore all others. just talk phone with someone in open video.like no one even come in. in 2 minuts she replyed " im busy"..was same in 2 hours.. 4 hour... and next day. and in a week.month.. seems some hosts here have a real rich fans..

Sounds like one fan or a bf that wants her all to himself...that would be the ideal member for any host ;)

i have doubts that just one rich person, they cam communicate off site very easy if so.

Why would she want to ? Silly!

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It could be not good for cc of course...but if they get almost in relationship, and like each other, so keep treat him as a client...hmm...i really don't know. Never happen with me so far.

Maybe its not a rich fan at all. Maybe she's talking to a guy she's actually interested in, whether he's just a good friend or she's become romantically involved with him for real. Seems pretty obvious that a host is going to give a guy like that more of her attention and time than a total stranger who just wants to talk silly sex shit to her or jerk off.

Not rich, but ready to spend thousands $ for abilty to see a girl he likes? Should it be true for every men? If yes I can expect much more from those who keep telling me I am so beutiful and they get addicted and bla bla...Thank you "reality check".:)

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lol. "sheeps theory."

I don't know if that's fair. I think it's more an instinctual act of self preservation. If you see a restaurant that's always busy, you can infer that the food is both safe and tasty. If you see a restaurant that's empty all the time, it's easy to imagine that there's something wrong.

That doesn't make you a sheep following the herd like a mindless moron - it makes you a smart and discerning consumer by letting others do the "taste testing" for you.

CC is obviously not the same thing, but I can see the mentality being similar.

im with you. so hard to get to be with some hosts. i literally feel like i need to throw some elbows just to talk to someone.

hmm--I'm no host and no fan of any host here, but can tell you after a million hours of videos, I would be on a host fan list

I agree totally. Not shy and instant action host, please stick to the show more and less talk.

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I hear what you are saying because
some chathosts chat or make excuses
too much. Instead of doing what they promise
in their profile and what they should be doing
for the category they are in.
If you see someone has a chathost in open,
THEN YOU COME BACK LATER OR TAKE YOUR
CHANCES.
I know you hope to time it right and come in when
the good stuff is happening and at a lower price too.
Hey you know what? If you come in and the chathost is
chatting with someone, guess what? You missed an
amazing show and they are chatting after it. Too bad for you!
First viewer calls the shots. No one is forcing you to go in.
If you want things your way, then be smart and come back later!

You are most likely wrong under the rules since it is a hard core category and EVERY viewer has the right to nudity. There is no clause that say, the host has to get naked unless the first guy doesn't want her to.

You are taking things with this first come, first served notion too far. To say that a host, especially an Instant Action host, can refuse to give a show just because someone wants just to chat is contrary to the intent of the category. And while I don't know for sure, I am confident CC would issue a credit in such a case.

It is one thing for the host to defer to the first member in terms of the type of show, such as if he wants to see doggy and the second guy wants to see her lay on her back, she is free to follow the first guy's request and probably should. But not to get naked altogether because she is chatting? I doubt CC would endorse that.

It isn't about taking your chances. It is about the rules. And under the rules, unless you can show me an email from CC that says I am wrong, it seems pretty obvious that hard core hosts need to put on a show for any viewer that wants one and cannot use chatting with another viewer as an excuse.

And by the way, why couldn't she use the second viewer as a reason just to chat even if the first guy wants nudity? Where in the rules under your logic does it say that she must defer to the first guy? Why couldn't she say "well, one guy just wanted to chat so I did that?" The answer is there is nothing about first come, first served in terms of getting naked and putting on a show anywhere in the rules. The only thing that appears are statements indicating hosts need to get naked.

If you want to argue that regardless of the rules, it should be first come, first served, that is one thing. But the rules trump such a notion as far as I can tell since all viewers in hard core have the right to nudity without any type of limitatioin as to the order of entering video.

Did you read what I wrote?
If you want a show done ONLY FOR YOU.
THEN COME BACK LATER, if a chathost is in open.
The number one rule on this site is that
we are all people and that no one should
be treated bad.
Yes chathosts are performers. Still they are
women and the hope is that men do not
forget how to treat a woman, here as well.

"First viewer calls the shots. No one is forcing you to go in.
If you want things your way, then be smart and come back later!"

That led me to believe that you were saying if the first viewer in hard core, open wants to just chat and the second wants nudity, that the second viewer would have to come back. You are most likely wrong if that is what you meant.

It isn't about hosts being people. It is about following the rules that they agreed to. You want respect as a host and as a woman, then follow the rules otherwise you do not deserve any type of respect. End of story!!!

I hear your point and I would agree with you. It would be hard to believe that a member would go to an IA or not so shy host and talk to her in open and then be disappointed if she began performing for other guests that came into the room. I am sure that he would enjoy the goods too.... If she feared he might not like that then she should be considerate of the other guests and ask him to come back and take her 121. In open I perform for all and if the first guest wants to chat with me or exclusively then he should always take me 121 or expect interruptions.

As has been discussed below, you would need to ask CC what is "right" under the rules when the first guy wants to just chat with the hard core host.

I agree with what has been said in another thread, namely that the first guy should go 121 or you can give a password to him if he just wants to chat. And think about it: you are allowing the first guy to get all of your attention at the open price when he really should "man up" and go 121. Sometimes, you might even be able to make more money with 2 or 3 guys in open if you give a show instead of telling them to all come back. Is that fair to you?

The first guy knows it's hard core. He knows guys want action. So if he wants to just chat, he should go 121 or accept that if someone wants nudity, you need to stop chatting and put on a show. After all, there is nothing in the rules that says you can say no to the second viewer just because u are chatting with the first. And if it is a regular of urs, then give him a password sometimes, and other times, he can go 121.

I agree with giving the first guy priority if you are giving a show and the first guy asks for one thing and the second asks for another. But in your category, all viewers have a right to nudity, so if the first guy doesn't want it, but the second does, you should get naked. The first guy knows it is hard core so he shouldn't be upset with this. The second guy has a right to nudity under hard core. And you know it is hard core and have agreed to nudity as you well know. It is fair to everyone, and it might get you more money.

The guy just chatting will probably come back later if he doesn't want the show. He probably likes just talking to u, is a nice guy, and will be happy to return. The guy who wants to just wank is going to be annoyed that yet another hard core host said "sorry, no show" and might never come back. I could be wrong, but I think u will keep more regulars under my way than just deferring to the first guy. Plus, I think the rules don't really allow u to say no to the second guy just because u are chatting with the first since it is hard core but check with CC.

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You are right, you made good points.
I understood your english well.
Wishing you all the best!

I understand your confusion but all viewers in open are equal in there regardless of what order they come in. As a host my attention goes to all but not exclusive to one person. They know this when they come into open and so I perform in general and not meeting one particular guests requests. If someone expects your full attention then 121 is the place and they realize that. You take too much of a risk trying to just please one in open and have the others rate you poorly because you are not doing what is expected for the category. My suggestion is rethink your thinking about putting anyone priority in open. All hosts face this and many times with a regular member that knows to go to 121 from the beginning. Why they don\'t confuses me unless they are testing what your mood might be. Another consideration is if he is coming to 121 then maybe he might be shy and not really know how to ask you to get naked and play and is hoping that someone else will come into open and and egg it on if you are not suggesting it. Hope that makes sense because I do believe that some come in thinking that you will just perform without them having to ask and they might feel awkward. Also keep in mind how many $$ you are throwing away when you have several in open and they are leaving unhappy and report you and lower your ratings. Think business wise :)) Good Luck!

If your point is that some hosts in hardcore categories are reluctant to put on a show, play the old "only in 121" game, and/or stall, I agree 100%. I hate it and often report them to CC. But there are still hosts that I like to just chat with at times in hard core categories.

I think the key is that the hard core host needs to respond to the viewer's mood instead of being a prima donna or acting like she is some dominatrix that gets to dictate things. If it is a hard core category and I am in video and want a show, she has two cholices: get naked or get reported to CC. She has agreed to get naked upon my request when she signed up for the category, so no matter what a host thinks about my attitude, too bad. You don't like it... Switch categories.

When I am in soft core, I am respectful and request nudity and hope I will get it. If I don't get it, too bad for me. When in hard core, I am just as respectful when I request nudity. The difference is, the host in hard core has ZERO right to say no, and she is being disrespectful to me when she fails to comply with rules she agreed to.

One final point to the stallers out there. You never know when a member such as myself that knows the rules very well will be visiting you so if you like working on CC, it is best to comply with them.

I await your responses, hosts, but remember, as I said, I am respectful to hosts so it is YOU who are in the wrong when you fail to comply by the rules. You don't want to strip, go to Glamour and LIttle Shy. I have no problem with that. It is the hard core hosts that jerk guys around that I and others have the problem with. And the original poster is right... I have spent A LOT less money on CC because of that type of nonsense. CC is good about giving credits back, but it is too annoying to keep writing them so I have taken a lot of my business elsewhere.

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Not so shy, yes, but NOT if you're instant action. As others have posted below in some other thread, when the instant action host picks that category, she agrees to the following:

By signing into this category Chathosts commit to:
•Not sharing details such as age, name, country etc. unless initiated by the Viewer.
•No delaying tactics whatsoever. Chathosts MUST be prepared to immediately start their show as soon as a viewer enters

So UNLESS the VIEWER starts with someting other than hi, how r u, you need to strip RIGHT AWAY. Don't like it? Switch categories!!! But some hosts think that they can make more money in a certain category or just like it for whatever reason so they don't want to switch. Unfortunately, you have two choices: 1) switch categories and risk less money or 2) violate the rules and risk getting reported to CC.

The stuff beyond Hi, Hru? is for not so shy. It is there that you can do the name, age, country stuff. And then after a few minutes, it is time for the show if the viewer wants or you risk getting reported. But once again, the instant action host agreed not to do this unless the viewer starts it.

Save the "we are people. we don't like to be treated as objects" stuff. I respect you and treat you with respect. But treating me with respect means following the rules, and if you don't like the rules, you can go to another category. That is where my attitude comes from. All you have to do is switch categories, but for some reason, hosts won't do this and end up treating the viewer with disrespect. Well, with this viewer, it will come right back at you in the form of a not so nice email about you to CC.

Amen brother!

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"but someone who spent at least several minutes talking to me, would get a MUCH better show just because there would be personal interaction between us. Just saying ;)"

That is your opinion. You have no idea how a viewer thinks.

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Legally it is NOT adultery and not grounds for divorce in my state. I checked. Any man married over 20 years knows this is an easy answer.

yes I think it isw cheating, but as long as I don't get caught by my wife, I'm ok with it and I don't feel guilty. I been married to the same woman 30 years and it doesnt hurt to play on the side. Now if I only been marry for a few years like 5 or less years. i wouldn't be here. I still be spending a lot of time with my wife.

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I am a host and I don't really care if members are married or not. But I certainly feel sorry for their wives!
I don't mind my husband watching porn and masturbating with or without me, but I make sure his wage comes into our bank account and is spent wisely.

I'd be interested to hear what the hosts think from a woman's point of view. But speaking as a guy, I don't mind that married men come online to play...up to a point. For example, I could argue that since this is all takes place online where there's no contact or touching, its no different than being a married man and going to a friend's bachelor party and having some fun. So a part of me can think of it that way and just see this as innocent fun. On the other hand, I have to admit it pisses me when a married guy will push hard to meet a host, because they're looking for a real hook-up or some kind of romance on the side. Which means they are looking to cross the line and cheat on their wife. I also don't think it's right when a host leads a guy on and breaks his heart. So fair is fair -- I likewise don't think its right for a married guy to come here and pretend to be single...to lead a host on and get her romantic hopes up...just so he can get his sick kicks by breaking her heart in the end.

I said this in an earlier post -- I'm a single guy, which means I can be here and play freely, 100% guilt free. But the irony is I'd love to be married and spend my time focused on one woman and partner in life. So maybe this is just one of those "the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence" sort of things. Because if I was married, I sure as hell wouldn't be here. I'd be finding all-new ways to romance my wife and keep a smile on her face. But I guess I'm pretty old fashioned that way.

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I don't mind married men. Meaning that it is interesting to chat to them and they are mostly somehow more relaxed, understanding and know what they want. They have life experience and are ready to share it- I respect it when they honestly say they are married. I mean it is fun to chat with them about life and have a nice sexy show, if they have healthy attitude- if I can understand what brought them here.
But if it goes into the direction of meeting and romance- it is somehow pervert in my view. Also if they want unrealistically pervert things...disgusting! Then I have to think of a man with trembling hands, looking around and hidding somewhere in the basement to have video :)) creepy

try to think is your husband doing that :)))

I actually deeply love my bf. So tell me he does that- that will be very helpful.

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Oh then we could come together online and gain new experience.
As you may imagine I know about many male fantasies and I am extremely loyal to them:P
Honesty and trust is decisive in a relationship.

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Yes you are right :(( I would not agree on him visiting another girls if we were married.
Maybe I am bad and possessive but I have extensive chathost experience, I am attractive and smart...why would he want to visit other chathosts? I would also probably seek divorce then... Just cannot imagine my husband as a pleasure addict.

I think for men it's the same as stroking his cock watching a porn movie with your own plot...so no serious crime... but I don't want my husband to do that :)

I agree with Big Dumb Ape and Just a host. They split it the right way. If a married man is only here for fun that is acceptable. But if a married man is looking to arrange a real meeting he is a pervert. If he is only here to fantasy chat that is acceptable. But if he is trying to chat up a host and romance her that is sick too. I think cheaters deserve to get caught by their wives and pay a price for cheating.

I actually think I'd rather see a married man here and playing out his fantasies than having an affair. When it bothers me is when we talk about his marriage and I see him online nightly while his wife is in bed and he is there playing with me. Then when he tells me the problems with the marriage and finances is one of their stresses. It tells me that he is escaping the problems in his marriage and making the problems worse and I now have increased his problems. That breaks my heart and I feel bad then. Other than that I feel it is a healthy way for a man to explore his fantasies that his wife chooses not to be part of or can't. Obviously his marriage is still important for the right reasons but he is staying content too. I actually respect married men for that and personally if I was the spouse I would see it that way unless I wanted to fulfill his desires. Unfortunately I think most women would take it personally that she was inadequate and not really understanding how sexual men really are. I think men regardless of age have very strong sexual desires that women can't always keep up with and just don't understand the importance. I think that this can be a healthy addition to a happy marriage....but like all things when it's kept in moderation :)

I feel bad for the wife too. I think that is the general conclusion that "Sorting Things Out" was pushing people towards when he posed his question. Married men will justify visiting a cam site and playing with a sexy host because no real contact is involved. But as others have noted, including yourself, when that same married man keeps returning day after day, it sends a strong signal that something is wrong in his home life. When a married man starts to tell a host how much he's fallen for her or wants to have an online romance with her that is when it becomes creepy. That is when you can tell he's hoping to turn an online fantasy into reality. It also means he's willing to cross the line and have a real affair or he's thinking about actually leaving his wife because he's hoping to become romantically involved with the host. Married men who carry on like this are distasteful to me and I do feel bad for the wife at home.

I wonder whether there can be a kind of friendship between a host and a married man who is in a troubled marriage...
Can hosts really somehow help him to sort things out in his head listening to him and maybe voicing their opinions based on their (perhaps extensive) experince with men? With a host on the internet you can speak more freely about such thing sand maybe live out a couple of fantasies you always dreamed of. Would that help him to make the right decision about his life?
Or will it always be destructive since hosts are attractive women and not psychologists...

have no problem with a married guy becoming friends with other women the same way I have no problem with a married woman having a few male friends. Everyone has friends in life that are of the opposite sex. I don't think people need to be locked away in a box or anything like that. We're human beings and social interaction is a healthy thing.

BUT -- there's always a but! -- problems start when a married guy starts doing things TOO much. Someone else said it best. A married guy chatting with a host is okay...so long as its done in moderation and any real feelings are kept in check. If he's coming online and chatting with a host to talk things out -- to sort of work through his emotional problems -- that's okay. If that were the case, I could argue that the host is actually helping him a bit. But if he's constantly coming online and taking a host private because he's gotten hooked on the sex play and now he's become romantically interested -- which means he's now neglecting his wife because he's become TOO infatuated with a host -- that's NOT okay. Then again, I keep saying this. I don't understand why married guys act this way. If I was lucky enough to be married, I'd be doing everything I could to make my wife smile and have a happy home. Isn't that why you got married in the first place???

Talk to me after you've been married a few years, had kids & cleaned up their v*mit and sh*t; struggled with boredom, depression, stress at work; lived with your spouse's personal quirks that you might think are cute now but just wait a few years, when they drive you up the wall. Marriage ain't so easy, for either party. What's easy is to criticize (and that can be part of the problem, believe me).

"are distasteful to me". All lawyers and especially those on Wall Street are distasteful to me and most other working folks.

A wise person once said, "If you think it is sin, then it is sin for you." (Saint Paul).

I'm sure there are good arguments on both sides of this issue, making it a gray area for everyone except those who have strong feelings about one way or the other, who see it as black and white. Which is to say, I have no idea what I'm talking about! LOL

Personally, I feel guitly. In my mind, it is cheating. And I know for certain that if my wife knew about "my little secret", she too would feel I am cheating, and be very disappointed, hurt, angry, and maybe ready to have done with me.

Now the rationalization. My wife and I do not have a good relationship, no intimacy, no closeness, no sex, no deep, personal communication, no affection. I've "crossed the line" where I am sure the old relationship cannot be recaptured. It's gone. Why not divorce? Multiple reasons, which I care not to go into here, but good reasons, so we stay in an unhappy relationship. And also, multiple reasons why I do not feel at liberty to pursue another real-life relationship, and have my needs met in a real physical one-on-one relationship.

Some may call me sleaze, others a fool, some will look down their nose in disgust -- while others may say I'm doing the right thing using this place to satisfy feelings and needs that aren't being met elsewhere, I'm not hurting anyone, and since no physical sex it's just fantasy.

Probably neither argument will change my being here. And I will still feel guilt, and I will still come here to have some needs met. And things will continue as they are at home. And maybe eventually, I will feel the freedom to get out of an unhealthy, unfulfilling relationship, and discover one that is real, healthy and fulfills me.

Thumbs up for your honesty! I think it is much harder on men than it is women to not have sex in their lives. It is also hard to understand what creates that wall between two people that were very happy and in love at some point. When a woman shuts down sexually it is usually because emotionally her needs aren't met. Women need the intimacy outside of the bedroom to stay active in the bed. My opinion :)
I think what you are doing is healthy at this point. Many guys come here when they are in very happy relationships too and even newly weds!! If it is coming here that they quit appreciating the woman that they are with then I think it becomes a problem. A lot of times I think it is a solution to mens infidelity. It keeps them from having affairs.
Good luck to you....I'd rather be alone any day than be in a miserable relationship and if this gives you relief from that....it is a good thing.

I think it is right not to say to your wife about that.

And I hope you will see an opening one day to resolve it all to the satisfaction of all parties involved.
I know it is very HARD. hihi

hm why don't you find a lover?
Are your moral standards high or is there no opportunity to find such?
You seem to be under considerable pressure.

I respect your strength.

How you spend your time and money is your business. How you conduct your life is your business. Judgmental people are hypocrits and losers. Do what you think is best for you and your family.

Definitely children and money are the reason. Maybe also the social status and someone's sickness. Sounds sad.
But if you realise what your situation is- you can change it.
Another wise guy said something like "This is given to you because you have the strength to deal with it". Or someone has to kick you out of that circle.

Thank you for your post.
I hope you won't become a romantic womanizer.

love

Most wives would be hurt and disappointed to discover their huband frequented this site. They would at first blame themselves. They would think..I am not attractive enough or sexy enough. However, in ttime they would turn on you. The fact that this site is all about real, live interpersonal contact is a tough one. If it was a porn site with pics and movies...that's one thing but a site where you develop "relationships" and chat etc. That would be a blow to any woman. Plus the money aspect. Unless you have money coming out your butt the wife would say...you could have spent that money on me, the kids, a vacation...etc. So...it is best you be careful to keep it secret and while it is not legally cheating it is emotionally to the woman...and could lead to marital problems.

Money coming out of my butt? Dangit! That's the ONE place I haven't looked for it!

I think many times too that with the stresses of being a woman and working and caring for the kids, etc. that it might be a solution because she is so damn tired that if you can get relief and she can get her sleep then it's a win win....lol.

That's something I've always wondered about. Married guys will spend money on a host which is good for her. But why aren't they saving that money and spending on their wives or kids to make them happier? I wonder how many married guys screwed around online and then buy their wives flowers out of guilt.

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Its already happening ....

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That's right, give us more details please. What was the lesson?

Let that be the lesson Alice Dont Take Tablets and Drink

What did he do that made him not deserve you? By your choice of song sounds like you are saying you are still available which is contradictory to your post. Don't keep us in suspense in a public forum.....give us the details so that we can be supportive :)

Supportive or Gossiper?

To throw out random words to a group makes no sense. What is the purpose? If you post here there is some need for feedback and how can anyone give you that? If it is a message to a specific person then present it to them. If for the sake of someone just feeling bad for themselves then give information. It is just that simple....

who are you talking to?

I was supporting the comments made by Why to the original poster and commenting back to the ignorant comments made by VM. Why do you care??
The original post was random.

why? ". . . Don't keep us in suspense in a public forum.....give us the details so that we can be supportive :) . . ."

So poster "Why": you wanna be Supportive or your just wanna be nosey GOSSPER?

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Is that "welcome" as you are willing to do them?

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Thats cool and who would you be so i can check you out?

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Worried about?

How about bath videos? or you only want a shower?

Bath video would be ok but would rather shower

To my mind, the best shower photographs on the site are those of HOTWISHES from 30 March 2010. One of the most beautiful, fun hosts here; never mentioned in the forums but a real gem. Don't know if she gives a live shower performance, but you can always ask.

Thanks for the info i will ask her

yes, i agree that time is the most valuable thing a person has. but maybe you would do well to remember that each and every second that you are 'giving' of your time to a member here, they are also 'giving' of their time to you.

to think that you are so above everybody that your time is more precious to give than theirs is simply arrogance.

i hope i have misunderstood your post, otherwise you are very rude to tell us all that your time is more important than ours.

We give u our time....BUT U COME HERE TO HAVE FUN SO WE GIVE U OUR TIME SO U CAN FEEL GOOD NOT VICEVERSA. Yeah realist.....u pay for our time.....thats why i write in the post that i would like ....when we get older we could buy back our time.....you very shallow, i wish that u have all the money in the world .....but also i wish u never to be happy, be loved by anyone ,but im not worryed cuz u have money....u can buy SO MANY THINGS...even fake love 4a short while from a escort....so u gona be ok ...LOL

I don't understand your comment either.....people spend time at their work everyday and they lose time that they could be doing something that they might enjoy better. This is a job that you chose....no one is forcing you to spend your time here. You are making money for your time...it is a job. No one can get the time back that they gave to make money. It is an exchange so that you can live and pay bills. If you are dreaming that some man will find you and take care of you so that you can have your dream.....then I think you should change your dream to more realistic. Find a job where you are working with the public if you think that this job is too lonely for you and it is not exposing you to the man of your dreams. Your life is your choice to make it whatever you want to. No one is stealing your time.
It sounds like you don't like working here or your life and so you should consider doing something different....that is always your choice. Happiness comes from within or else when someone comes into your life you have nothing to give them. Change your life and start being grateful for what you do have and you will get different results. Good Luck!
I think it is totally inappropriate to attack members here for your un happiness.

from your grammar and english usage, I would say you are UK, Canadian, or USA host. And for someone here in these countries, I would say you are right on, about "choice". But not every host here shares your sense of freedom. The economic situations in some countries, or a person's personal situation, and this may seem like the only alternative. They would like to do something else, but feel limited, no other opportunities. Romania, the average income in "regular" work, I heard a while back was something like "$100/month" . In Philippines too, I imagine for some this may seem like the only thing they can do. Not every country has the opportunities, the economy, that we here in the West have. Thank God I live here, and I do have a choice. But I would not presume to think that others in the world have as quality of choices as I have. But even I, because of circumstances, am not able to take hold of the choices that I have available. There's a thing called reality. Mouths to feed, children to clothe, a job market that absolutely sucks, and especially for one my age, almost an impossibility to change to anything even close to the same level I am at (unless I want to work at MacDonalds flipping hamburgers or something, and don't care that I am heading to the poorhouse!)

Yes, "lonely girl" has a choice, but are her alternatives any better, or are they worse, than what she has here at CC?

I think that if she has a computer to type this message on that it is not that bad. If she only makes $50 a day here she is way ahead of the $100 per month which should give her many choices. Money isn't the issue it is about being unhappy and lonely and that everyone has the choice. If you change your state of mind by being appreciative of what you do have and make a plan to improve what you don't like....that is the first step. She is lonely, unhappy and resenting men here....that is her choice unless she changes her way of thinking. To lash out with the blame that the members are stealing her time.....instead of this is a job is pretty irrational.

where did you get that she is resenting folks here? I heard nothing of that. Except perhaps in her snap remark back to "and of our time?" who launched a tirade against her. $50 /day? So what choices does she have other than to continue here? And for some hosts, I'm sure $50/day is a dream, not reality.

Anyway, i think you have misunderstood what she wrote and her intention in writing it.

Please don't think that all members here are so shallow. Some are just like you which is why they come here, to search for companionship they can't find in real life. Believe it or not there are members who are very appreciative (not for the services) but for the company that hosts provide. Don't be so down on yourself. Have fun! Love is out there and it will find you. (just dont look for it here :P)

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lol you are funny .......JUST A GUY HAS PERFECT RIGHT

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Very strange comment! If you are communicating together...why here and anonymous...strange.

I don't know why it's taken "he" 10 years. I found the perfect girl here and knew it the second I laid eyes on her. And the first time I heard her voice, I knew she'd hold my heart forever. As for the things Lonely Girl said about time and appreciating things, I do. A few years back a car ran a red light doing 100 and tore my car to shred and even bounced it off a tree. I woke up in an emergency room with doctors all over me and spent the better part of a year in physical therapy trying to regain the use of my back and the entire left side of my body. I'm fine now, but not a day goes by that I don't realize how special our time is here on Earth and how suddenly it can all be taken away. So I think it's good to be a dreamer. Because when you really think about it, you have nothing to lose by dreaming big and hoping for the best. And yes, it's good to dream and believe in love because if there's one truly great thing about being a human being, it's our ability to love so much and so unconditionally, if we simply open our hearts and choose to do so.

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Very strange comment

You don't give us your time, we pay for it

And all the "in between" times, when there is no viewer in the room? Are you paying for that time as well, when she must be here? What of all those days, when almost no one comes in video, and she must sit hour to hour never leaving the house, never far from the computer, waiting for someone to come in, because this is her work and she is supporting herself? Where are you then? You pay only for a few moments of her time. And maybe she has many viewers. But still to do well here, requires long hours of commitment. Maybe you pay $1 per minute. After CC's cut what is that which is left? And if she works in a studio? maybe she makes $0.17 to $0.33 per minute. I see some hosts online here 12 to 16 hours a day or more (at least they are logged in and online). Maybe they are sleeping at times, or maybe doing household things, but they aren't far from the PC. How can they have a "life" when that is their existence?

I for one am offended by your reply, and the replies of several others. I am touched by what she said, and feel sorry for her. I could not do what she does. I could not spend the time here that many of the hosts must spend. And whoever she is, I wish her the best.

how can you say you are 'giving' of your time?

let's say for instance that i come home from the hospital and i have to spend a week in bed. you come to my home each day to read me poetry and talk to me to cheer me up. you DO NOT ask for or expect any money. this is giving of your time, and yes i would appreciate if anybody did something like this for me.

but on here, cc, you are getting paid by the minute to spend time with me. chatting, doing a strip, or whatever category you are in. but you ARE GETTING PAID. get this through your rude little head. this is NOT giving. you should apologize to everybody here for being so rude as to say that we are fortunate enough to be able to pay you to spend time with us. get over yourself.

after reading the responses to your post, i imagine you are sorry you posted it. I thought your words made great sense. I thought they were full of sincerity, expressing your feelings. I'm sorry no one else seemed to be able to comprehend what you wrote. I get the sense that some people are so defensive they take things the wrong way, assume something is bad when it isn't.

I hope you will find that special someone to take away your loneliness. And I hope that you will find the time you need beyond this place for that special relationship to be found, and that the time you spend here will not feel like a burden that dominates your life.

i see all these posts here saying why dont you feel sorry for her she is giving of her time. but as one host and several members pointed out, there is one small detail. she is getting paid to work here, like anybody gets paid to be at their job and also loses their time. she is NOT giving her time for free. she is getting PAID. why does this escape so many of you who have posted?

as far as the original poster being lonely or anything, yes i hope she finds happiness.

but stop with the nonsense about her giving her time. if she is giving of her time then everybody who works and gets paid at their job is also giving of their time, and we should just feel sorry for everybody.

I get paid a salary... a set amount for the entire year, broken down into weekly installments. Other people get paid by the hour, 40 hours' work/ 40hours worth of pay/ 52 weeks per year. Most hosts, as I understand it, get paid by the minute -- the minute that a member is in video. If she has members in videochat for 8 hours each day, she gets paid for 8 hours work minus CC's take, minus her studio boss's take (if she is not independent). If she has memers in videochat for only 1 minute out of those 8 hours, she gets 1 minute's pay minus CC minus Studio, yet she has worked 8 hours, just not in videochat session.

So tell me again, what was it you were saying about one small point and not giving of her time?

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I've read her comments several times now. I see no dissatisfaction about members in her comment, only dissatisfaction that her life is not what she wants it to be, and hoping members can understand. I saw no criticisms of members. Only a host venting her loneliness and hoping someone would understand that she is also a person with needs. I see a plea for understanding, not a cry of criticism or a desire for judgment.

Why can't we just express our support without being critical of words spoken from her heart? Or is this place too calloused and impersonal?

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I can see that her statement there could be taken in that way. However, English does not seem to be her native language, and I think that what may sound to some as her attacking members is only her inability to express her feelings in a way that says what she is intending. I understood her statement in a very different light.

The problem phrase, I think is "Pay you back". It is an English idiom often meaning, "to get revenge" or "to give someone the punishment they deserve" . But idioms do not translate well, and are among the hardest of things to understand for a person of another language. The literal meaning of the words is often quite different from its idiomatic meaning. Literally, "pay you back" simply means to return in kind, e.g., if someone does something nice for me, I may "pay them back" by doing something nice for them.

I don't know, maybe I am just an eternal optimist, but that is what I think she was intending to say, and is how I interpreted that statement: that someday they can have an opportunity to return the favor of her investment of time (i.e., her life) for them in this job.

Okay, I just re-read her second post, and I understand her words differently now, but still not as attacking or shallow

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