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Being anonymous can be pretty lonely, though.

Agree with you, minus the safe sex, because I can't see how masturbating in front of your computer can be called that. Self-gratification is safe by definition, since you're the only one involved, cam sites or not.

No STD's is safe sex and with a naked lady chatting with you can be very stimulating....

Safe sex? Try empty, unfulfilled sex.

Sex is meant to be an interaction between two people, not a mutual wank in front of a PC monitor.

The problem with cam sites is it becomes a poor substitute for the real thing, it's easier because it doesn't involve intimacy. It doesn't involve having to go beyond the sexual encounter with real day to day life. It doesn't have to put up with a partners idiosyncracies which make him or her unique but which also can test a relationship to the fullest. It doesn't require respect, and truly seeking to satisfy the partner, only oneself. It doesn't require truly knowing, and being known, with all of our zits, warts, moles, both physical and personally. And by its nature -- quick and immediate -- it can rob one of the desire and/or the ability to have lasting sexual gratification with a spouse or partner, which requires time, sensitivity, foreplay and a desire to please as well as be pleased.

Camsite sex is okay as far as it goes, for a short-term fix, but if the virtual fantasy is becoming your reality, then you have definite problems. And, if that is all you have, then you are to be pitied. And Real life, with real person in person, is where it's at, not on the other side of a computer screen.

Camsite sex is lazy sex for the person who can't or won't put forth effort in real life relationship; uncommitted, impersonal sex, that doesn't require the investment of oneself in a relationship.

It's okay for occasionial fun, but not for a lifestyle.

-- Submitted by one who knows he spends way too much time on sites like this

Oh BBY!!! Your Heart Is Mine :))))

Nope, sorry, my heart is someone else's

Very good insight. Having befriended a very popular host from another site (but also on here) I asked her what she thought about guys paying money to see them. She replied that she can't believe they do it (women just really aren't interested on this) but she's glad they do it!

Yankees all the way, its a safe bet

Yankees has only one good pitcher, good luck, but i won't can't them out

Yankees played AAA players vs Tampa while Phillies played first team vs Atlanta ...... yankees are a NO CLASS group I hope Phillies win it all ...Respect to Philly in how the games should be played season is 162 games ! YANKEES SUCK

red sux fan?)))))))))))

of course he is , so am i , but the sox blew it all on there own

You sound like a true blue TMM fan

make that two: ivan nova is no pushover

Wouldn't it just be the coolest to be able play a little kids' game for a living? And to make millions doing it?
Man, oh man, kind of makes a person wonder a little bit about society's values.

no problem, just tell them to pay their fair share......jeez, no one can say anything anymore about anything without some one making a political bunch of shit out of it

Welcome to the internet.

I bet you say the same thing about your favorite left wing actor when you pay your $15 to see some bad movie they made with the help of generous tax breaks............easy answer to all the mone either of them make....don't buy tickets

damn, i forgot to mention how much money they get paid to make those wretched movies

But really, why do adults, adult males in particular, follow sports at all? Beyond a certain age, the kind of hero worship displayed for other guys chasing around balls has to speak to a certain kind of latent homosexual thrill, doesn't it?

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh! you're a shrink too. Guess you never played the game as kid. Too busy in the library? I suppose the only fun you get in life is watching girls in cc vids. How sad is that?

So you follow professional sports now precisely because they play the same games you played as a child. I ask you, what could be any more sad than a broken old man getting some kind of vicarious thrill from watching a group of grown over-paid men playing a game he played back when he was ten years old?

You!

how about a man looking at naked women 30 years younger hoping to relive his youth .

personally i don't do it to relive my youth, i do it to jack off

I pick Tampa Bay to win in World Series

could be ice, if they can out pitch the phillies

That is too bad that you are leaving and now all we have are the unhappy viewers that complain constantly ;) Wish you well!

how much did they charge for 121 ?

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Happy to see you post ... many on site were sincerely worried about the reasons for your absence ... glad you are back and spirited with your "Touche" ...

reasons for her absence? she is usually on ever day apart from the weekends (sometimes she comes on) so what "absence" are you talking about?

what was that truism in response to?????

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i agree , now back to the fine ladies .

the worse thing about boxing is you see your favorite maybe once a year in a match.

and as in all sports boxing is nothing more than a showbiz circus. The champion is not really the best fighter, instead is the chose one by big people in the showbiz to be the marketing puppet.

+1

if this is even close to the truth, boxing is doing a terrible job picking a puppet , since its been going down hill since the the great middleweights of the 80s.

Your favorite host, Thomas? LOL

no i see them twice a year , on a good year.

Oh BBY!!!

I don't really care, I just enjoy watching people incur brain damage.

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Not for me, I've lost many a load of baby batter here, teen girls, older women, athletic girls, larger girls, big titties, bee sting titties, even muscly girls here, all mean the same result for me, any type of women for any type of perv, Brilliant

dont let the door hit ur ass on the way out

Nope, that's not been my experience.

Oh BBY!!!!......

Well, I see your maturity level hasn't improved while I was away. Nice to know that some things in life never change.

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LOL right

I think the main draw is youth and everything that being young entials...soft beautiful hair, bright eyes, flawless skin, a lean tight body, a nice smile, a degree of innocence and naivete. Youth is so fleeting and as many members are not as young as they once were it is precious. In real life if an older member were to approach a young woman they would get nowhere...perhaps jail if they are too forward. Here...they can chat with a host, pretend to seduce her and have her tease him and excite him to orgasm. Impossible in the real world...here...it happens all the time. So sure..members come here for other reasons but most I think it is the certainty that a young woman will entertain you regardless of your age, appearance or personal life and that is the magic of CC.

Many young members here, I even think most of the members about 25-40 y.o. they can have young women in real, the reasons why they come here different.

Maybe there...but a man 30 or over who tries to hit on an 18-19 year old girl in the USA generally gets laughed at. Once you get too old to go clubbing the source of hot young woman dries up. But...like everything...I am sure there are a lot of reasons why people do things including coming to CC.

30+ men so need to date 18-20 girls? lol 25-30 yo girls look the same in now days but much more interesting to have relationship...no problems here

ahhhh .... the conversation evolves ... a host has joined ... thank you

i have found young girls the world over to be most open to the gifts an older man may bring into her life .... and of course it is a mutual giving

indeed !

"Many young members here, I even think most of the members about 25-40 y.o. they can have young women in real"

Sorry but I disagree. If they could get young women in real world , they would not be here!

ahhh so agreed ... i might add i've been blessed with several wonderful in-the-real-world relationships with our cc host beauties ... Life Is Good !

there are some nice looking females on here that are 30+ and 40+ that still look good and some do not even look their age. that are independent, do not look at a man for what he can buy her...plus they can hold a conversation. But unfortunately the mature/older men tend to look for the younger age and looks...if the age does not show under 30 then those females are not wanted....I am more attracted to a older/mature man.

But then there are also more and more younger men that are wanting older females...is a strange world we live in....lool

I get both young and older members and I have no problem having my room very busy so I guess it depends on who is experiencing. I also get some women who come to my video's and couples too so there is a very large crowd that is very diverse.
I think older men that come to this site assume that all are looking for younger girls like he might be thinking but it certainly is not the case. Enjoy all there is something for all!

Do you often have these conversations with yourself?

That is purely from your perspective as most guys proclaim when they post here for the simple reason that it is their interest. Believe it or not there are many different interests for what draws to CC or other similar sites.
I think it would be nice instead of members proclaiming to be experts in their personal knowledge to simple say what their personal reasons are. The hosts know best what her audience is attracted to and there are many different scenarios and it is not just old men looking for young flesh...lol

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"...there is my favorite group of intellectual members in late thrities till old age who come to have a nice conversation. those become my friends..."

Exactly!! thank you! It's not like I don't want to have fun, but I've met some extremely bright women on CC, anywhere from 20 to early 30's in my case. Do I turn off my brain? NO!

There are intelligent women here beyond 30's too from your limited experience that is what you have experienced :)

So you stop at the early 30's age and beyond that you have no interest right ? lol

Pfffft... you're only interested in picking words apart. I do not practice age discrimination, if that is your point. That is simply the age range of the hosts I have visited. YMMV

No I was not picking words apart, was just asking...sorry if I offended you with my question. I will not say anything any more in this forum, again sorry for offending by asking a question...

Ah, no, please don't stop posting because of me... it's difficult to judge the tone of a question sometimes, and I got a bit prickly lol. Especially because I have no idea who you are! That is just the nature of this kind of discourse, anonymous or partially so...

No offense intended, and none taken.

wonderful, caring response! APPLAUSE

misunderstandings occur all the time when there is not an active real time back and forth conversation.... please do not feel any blame or need to withdraw from this conversation ... obviously .... and for myself I had no idea ... that age is a big issue .... so it's worth discussing this way = openly

"intellectual members", I kinda like that)))

yes, yes i get much more from one sharing what they absolutely know about themselves, their needs and wants than from someone's 'expert' opinion on the world-at-large

How wonderfully and honestly written ... for myself it what i was hoping from another guest ... an intelligent, self-reflective assessment of how cc serves us ... i hope hosts will also respond as candidly and sensitively what brings them to cc ... needs or wants ... hopes or fantasies ... do they surprise themselves that it is not just money that they gain from their hosting ... is it self revealing or exciting or an invaluable classroom .. and if so ... what does it teach ... ideally what could it teach ...are the profile statements about 'looking for a soulmate' true or just good copy .... hmmmmmn

I have learned a lot from being on here...both good and bad...

I have learned that there are some very cold, cruel, mean, vengeful people on here (both male and female)

I have also learned that there are some very warm, caring, thoughtful people on here..as well as lonely people...

I have learned that you have to be very careful with your heart..and what you say and how you say it.....

I have learned that there are some very smart intelligent people on here..I have learned that not all men see us as trash and street walkers....

I have learned that on here it is possible to actually enjoy the pleasure...and that one does not have to pretend to enjoy....not that I would win any awards at it anyway...lol....

I have learned that it is ok to be different...I have learned that it is ok to speak my mind, even when I do get shot down.....

I learned that taking that time to lend and ear and listen to someone who needs it, makes a big difference...

I already knew that money was not everything, yes it pays the bills and puts food on the table...but it will never take the place of loving caring people....

One thing I did learn is that after my world fell apart and not wanting to let anyone else in...iI learned that to love someone again is a very special and wonderful thing....

I learned to let someone in and to trust them and for 5+ yrs only one person on this whole site was willing to accept me the way I am.. no matter what mood I am in...

I learned that it is ok to be human and that it is ok to cry...and that I do not always have to laugh...I learned that there are good qualities about me...sometimes they even out weigh my flaws...lool...

I learned that one minute you can have many and in a blink of the eye..you they can be gone......

I learned that both men and women are good at leading you to believe you matter, when they only care about the money they can get from you (that would be many of the females on here) and that all that matters is if you are young enough and under a certain age (that would be a number of male viewers on here)..

I have learned just how many look at that age rather than the person and that for many age really does matter.....

I came here because I really did not have any other choice nor option for the situation I was in at the time...and my time here has taught me soooooo much...

Thank you to everyone on here hat I have come in contact with in one way or another has taught me something....

what an interesting, very real world we have all co-created in this cc space ... it seems that when you take the two strongest pulls ... sex and money ... and you put people with more than enough of both to offer each other ... a learning comes possible for all ... that shows that nakedness in all forms, sex, sensuality, intimacies ... given ... received/ paid for ... in abundance ... brings about interactions ... that are as interesting, as painful, as joyful, as informing, wounding and healing ... as i ever imagined a human community to be .... it really makes one recall those "60's In America" simple truths we've ... some of us ... heard/know of ... like "Make Love Not War" ... and see /feel in cc... what a universe ... a world ... mainly mainly focused on sexual pleasure for mutual pleasure and individual security gained ... can be ... cc ... i like it

""Make Love Not War"

I was one of those that was required to "make war". I didn't burn my draft card and flee to Canada like so many cowards did.

ahhh how some old slogans carry such mixed feelings .... i was not making an anti war statement ... i lost two marine brothers in that hell ... i was simply wanting to talk about the effects of a love-sex-based site ... and i obviously chose a poor cliche to make my point .... i would hope you agree that the nature of cc is far more nurturing to all of us ... those that served in action or did not or served other causes or in other ways ... the needs served on cc seem simply far more satisfying to the heart and soul as well as the body than those served by war = my only point

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Oh it's just a riotous conflagrational joyous excess here with hosts waving their knickers in the air and members their cocks. So, what's to discuss?

your wonderfully humorous depiction for one .... thanks :)))))

Amen, brother!!

Sorry but the word Knickers sounds like something I would never wear...I visualize something white and fluffy made of cotton with ruffles down to my knees kinda like what my great great granny would wear. Isn't panties a global word? Seems that all members know what to say to get the panties off...hehe

knickers is a British term for panties....I find it gets a laugh when I tell a male not to get his man knickers in a knott....lol...

many words mean different things to different people...depending on where they are from...

So to a British person knickers does not only mean nor always mean something your granny would wear.... lol

have a great weekend everyone ... :)

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Great post. Thanks for all the laughs you provide all of us.

Sure , I was thinking to shave ......my legs :)

A member who does not politely ask what to expect from a show...in my opinion...has to accept what he gets. And trust me...hosts are well aware of the difference between a member who asks up front and committs them to a particular type of show and those who don't. You don't ask...if things are not particularly clear...she will often take advantage of that and keep the meter running while you are waiting for a nude show that is never going to happen. So ask...and define what nude is....that term differs from host to host.

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I agree completely. That is the appeal of Glamour. The girl next door is shy and eventually begins to tease you ending in nudity and sexual behavior. I love it. But again...without it being clear...what you expect and you both understand you will be disappointed often. Not always. Most host know the drill and perform as they know the member expects. Some you get this...."Strip? Sorry baby I don't strip. I just do this sexy dance"...... "Strip? I did strip baby...down to my lingerie"....."Nude? Honey let me give you more 1.3 second flash of my breasts"......"I am topless baby...that is nude...I never take off my panties"....and so on. I love the tease...love the build up...but there has to be a big finish or I might as well hang out at the mall and get equally frustrated.

Sorry that isn't enough for you. The majority of guys that come into my Glam room are very satisfied (meaning they cum) and are very pleasured by the tease. For many men nudity is not the big bang but the sexual tease. They like the talk, tease and sensuality.... It's easy to get naked but it takes much more skill to pleasure without getting nude...In fact it is a very sensual personality. Obviously not for all. Sometimes it's not about taking any clothes off but the tease of no panties underneath. To each his own. There are plenty that provide something for everyone. :)) Enjoy finding what makes your tick tock...lol

it takes much more skill to pleasure without getting nude...In fact it is a very sensual personality. Obviously not for all."

Obviously.

I have had a few hosts and only a few do that for me...but I got to know the host in free chat before I went to video...fully knowing that I would not see nudity. Also it was accompanied by a phone call...that add to the intimacy immensely and make the sexuality very real and personal.

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if he was clear in text of what he wanted, and did not bark orders then to me it does not matter how short a time he is in video, of course I would undress for him. I do not feel obligated to do things, I do them because I want to for that person because he was upfront and took the time to say what he wanted and was polite.

Polite members that take the time to say what they want and do not bark orders and are respectful are few and far between so when they show up then I have no problem undressing for them in a closed session.

For me it is not always the amount of time, it is what happens in that time, as long as it is fun and both are smiling that is what matters. :)

sorry I forgot to add that... the time to say your not going to do it is before the video not during the video....the only category that has a rule of not being nude is the nonadult. so in any other category when a host say rules does not allow it, then find another host, because that host is handing you a lot of BS..... enjoy your time on here :)

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There is no need to snap and bite... I answered his question and only added that other than non adult, there is no rule in the soft-core categories that says she must undress. so I fail to see why you would snap at me for saying something that is correct. Like anyone else, I am allowed to answer as well as add to my answer. Have a nice day. :)

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you are very lucky to say what you say, but you do not have the right to accuse or assume that all us other hosts have done our profiles that will confuse or mislead a member,

I for one took a great deal of time to do my profile. and to make sure it was not misleading in any way. when a member comes to my room and makes his request, I let him know upfront if it is something I do or not.

I am in little shy and NOT all hosts are misleading. So in future I would very much appreciate if you would not make such a general assumption.

all hosts are different and yes there are those that do mislead, there are days that I get mostly nice members, there are days that I get mostly very not nice members, and there are days that I get both.

Happy hosting to all and much enjoyment to everyone.

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I apologize, I misinterpreted what you were saying. you are very correct, I too see some hosts in little shy category that do not exactly show shy pics next to their name and the bluntness ie: wet and ready, or ready to cum for you.. other advertising you have also seen, might lead a member to expect her to do as she is advertising, as well as create problems for herself.....and yes if I was a member and saw that then I would most definitely expect such a show....I am sure you have read on here members that say be specific in the profiles. If I am a member reading a profile and I go talk to the host and then she starts listing the things that she not have in her profile, the I am going to get annoyed and say why did you not say that in your profile and save the me the time.....lol

Yes you are very correct, the language barrier can also create misunderstandings, and those phrases seem to be the universal language that many understand...lol....

Personally I would see the turn offs not as her being negative or not being fun, but simply letting me know if this is what you are looking for at that moment..it is best you find another host..or the member may decide to go and talk to the host anyway...so what you see as a negative, I see as a positive, as well as a time and money saver for the member reading it.

Again I apologize very much for misinterpreting what you said and thank you for explaining, it makes much more sense and shows me that I was reading it wrong.

I hope all enjoy their time on here both members and hosts.. :)

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for one new member I would never undress in a first meeting even if is polite even if he is not, he must become a good regular if he want to see more, 121 in softcore doesn't mean nudity, means that the viewer will have the full attention of the host but she will decide what kind of content will provide

Like many posts in this forum, it just goes to show how little we guys really understand about women. Not a criticism, just an observation.

P.S. I'm sure joe or INYF could say this much better. ;-)

Actually it is a very good example of how misunderstandings can happen simply by how we interpret what we read....

at least they admit when they are wrong and apologize for it....

This is the sort of question that you wil get different answers from different hosts. Firstly there are some softcore hosts who do not strip partially or completely for anyone (or maybe just a very select few) even in 121. I am sure the majority of softcore hosts who do strip in 121 would eventually strip. However if you have gone to 121 video straight from free text chat even a "polite" please get undressed for me is a bit abrupt and direct. You have to understand that softcore 121 is not the same as instant action. It works better if the member says things like "You have a lovely figure but those loose clothes hide so much of it, please could you take ....off". Softcore hosts need a bit of seduction which also keeps the meter running. They generally respond better if you are willing to play along rather than effectively forcing them to stall. And to all those who say "we are paying so the host should do what we ask" my reply is "stick to hardcore"

It is true many hosts say in their profile they do not do naked shows in their room and many others will tell you in text chat they do not. When a host tells me no, I never question her. However there have been many posts in the viewer forum by members claiming to have gotten hosts that say no to say yes after an effort on their part. I tend to believe the hosts. I know all guys lie like a rug when it comes to talking about girls, on line or in the real world.

So is it fair to say that if a host says no nudity on her profile or tells you in free chat no nudity, that there is no way she will strip for me or any other viewer?

believing what members claim can be a health hazard

Yes I would take "no" for "no" :)) Especially if she has taken the time to make her point in her profile or when you ask her in chat and she says "no" Good Luck and Enjoy! :))

If a host says "no nudity" in her profile then I think this is generally correct. The story with free chat can be different. If a host says in free text chat that she strips she is obliged to strip when the member goes to video. For some hosts whether or not they strip really does depend on how they feel after chatting with the member in video, how much time (and of course money) he is spending with them. They do not want to commit to stripping after a fquick five or 10 minute chat in free text.

Most often yes with majority of hosts that have said no in profile and text..

but then it will depend on the individual host as well as the member who is doing that asking....there are times when a member might get some hosts say yes to nude...but most often if she says no in text then it will be a no...especially if the member keeps pushing and or if he starts to use guilt or manipulation, or is rude or mean..then the door will be shut tight and the host might not be stay nice about her no...

some members will say a host got nude for them when actually all she did was flash a body part or moved the material in a way that showed for a minute or two...and to some members flashing will have them saying yes she got nude for me because to them seeing the part means nude as it did not stay covered up....even tho all she did was flash....

so can not really say that every host that says no in text to nude, will say no to every member...

to those members that say they are paying and she has to do what I say....well yes you are correct ....you are paying ....but...you ave paying a host that agrees and has said yes to being nude or what ever else you asked for while in text chat,...and for those that jump right into video without even checking in text ....then that does not count as a host saying yes ....unless u in the hard core categories.....

Be well everyone and have fun.....

I emailed cc and asked what categories on site require nudity in pvt. They replied Strip Hi Lo, Not So Shy and Instant Action. I repeat the only categories on the entire site that require nudity are Strip Hi Lo, Not So Shy and Instant Action.

So that means to me that a member has to have a verbal commitment in free chat from all other hosts in all other categories except the ones mentioned.

That can lead to some confusion. For example many hosts have rooms in Little Shy or Glamour and also in Not so Shy or IA. So technically, a host can say no to nude in her softcore room and be forced to do nude show in her hardcore room.

Am I correct hosts, or have I missed something?

yes correct....hosts are not required to be nude in non adult category and little shy category....

But,,, if they are playing the strip hi lo game then while playing the game they are required to remove the clothing as they loose each hand .....

if the host is in instant action category or not so shy category..then she is required to undress when asked....

so yes if you are asking a host in little shy category, then make sure she says yes she will get nude before entering her video.

YOU GOT IT :) The only exception to saying yes in chat would be if she advertises nudity in her profile. I guess the sure thing is read the profile if you are in Softcore and if it says nudity or more then count on it being in 121.
As far as IA and Not so Shy, they actually are expected to strip in open. It does get confusing for the viewer because the girls like to have more than one room so you'll find the combination you explained fairly often anymore because they can't have two rooms in the same category open at the same time. More than likely they will follow the guidelines for which category they are in (not all by any means) so best to read the profiles or ask.
Good Luck in your quest for nudity there is plenty here....

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Great thanks to all hosts who replied.

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3) Tell them that the chemistry or attraction wasn't there but not
specific reasons. (To avoid their embarrassment)
Here is the best excuse for my opinion. You cant make yourself love anyone. Just say that you dont feel any chemistry from your side, any normal person will admit it and move on.

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I am newer at this and rather naive to meeting via internet. I was growing very fond of the person I that I thought I knew and discussed plans into the future. The person I met was like the alter ego or opposite of the virtual person. The behavior was very aggressive and distant. I came away feeling disappointed, deceived and disinterested. Their experience was just the opposite.
The lesson learned is don't assume that who a person perceives themselves as is the person that they actually are.

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Do not obligated, if they were really sincere, they would have been the real them to begin with. You do not owe them anything other than being honest that it will not work out. Maybe in future this person will learn to be who they are rather than who they want to be. You sound like a good person, the right one for you will come along. Keep your chin up, a smile and gentle huggggg comes your way.... :)

better tell him/her which are that things that turned you off, even if this will hurt that person, me personally I prerfer if somebody have a reason to not want me to tell me the truth instead of lie me only to not feel embarased

if the things that turn you off are changeble then tell the truth, if not then still tell the truth, either way someone will be hurt...

but if your honest and say what the problem is then the person might be able to change those things so they not turn someone else off

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or become a stalker LOL

You are right on about that one....biggest fear!!

Just tell him to come here and read your post. Say it is him and all 1,2,3,4 apply. Thank him and say bye bye.

That was very funny....thanks! I think I would need to disappear from the face of the earth then.

why don't you put yourself in that situation and think how you'd like to be treated. would you like some silly excuses or the truth? why is being honest about it out of the question? quit being such a poof

I have had relationships that ended without a major explanation or a lot of detail and I have accepted that it is what it is. Unlike in person dating there was a lot of build up before we actually met in person and to me I felt disappointment and lack of interest. I don't want a confrontation or to go into alot of detail like many feel because I don't want to work it out or have that person tell me lies to cover up the lies they already told. So honestly I think minimal is better in this situation. Someone else might feel totally different about that person so maybe they don't need to learn or change but it just wasn't what I was expecting through the 4 month distant relationship that we had.
Personally I would feel okay with it if it was their decision to just not pursue it. No one totally shows their true colors until you meet in person is what I have learned.

"No one totally shows their true colors until you meet in person is what I have learned."
Hosts here to make you feel nice and of course we try to show our best, real person sometimes have nothing common with image we show off here, guys should understand it.

"No one totally shows their true colors until you meet in person is what I have learned."

On line dating is a complete waste of time and energy

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Just curious why they didn't work? Did you feel like it was different when you met them? Thanks!

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Tell her (him) what you told us. Be honest.

Yesssss, Yesssssssssss, oh BBY!!!

I think you still have some feelings for this person since you are concerned about hurting the person. Honesty is always good policy even if it hurts. But so does walking away and saying nothing. But this is as you said an internet relationship and its hard really to be certain of what another person's feelings really are. I would say let the other person know how you feel if you really think their feelings are true. Otherwise chalk it up to a virtual fantasy relationship and move on.

Don't be a pussy. Don't be a dick. Be honest, be forthright, but be compassionate.

Thanks everyone that contributed with their thoughts!

I think it can be very complicated with meeting someone other than in person and being around them to actually feel the chemistry and how ones habits, expressions, how they live and look in everyday life. Of course on line we look and act our best and the other person can assume certain things from what we see and hear. I think my experience has taught me that shortly after I am attracted to a person that we should meet in person so that a false sense of attraction does not occur and avoid the disappointments for both. Meeting soon would answer the most important questions similar to dating someone close by.
I also think that it is important for both parties to keep an open mind until that happens and afterwards if it doesn't go somewhere. I think most people here and in life accept it when a relationship doesn't work out of course with some disappointments and hurt but the sooner that they accept it and go forward the better it is for them. It doesn't need to be blame and a hateful reaction when it happens it is just life. I'd much rather someone be up front with me that they just weren't feeling it than to have little interest and try and make it work. Most certainly I did try to make the best of the situation while I was there but the disappointment was immediate and I didn't want a confrontation especially since feeling that person would not take it well. I am not a liar and did mean what I said prior to actually meeting in person. So best to all that think they have met someone special online....it won't discourage me when I am attracted again. I will just do things differently.

That is something I do not understand, yes on here we hosts are to look our best at all times and we are to portray ourselves as that perfect host that does not have off days. Well I am sorry to say that I have always believed in being myself. I too have fallen for members, believe them when they said really liked me and wanted to persue a relationship and then only to find out it was not true and that they were saying the same things to other hosts.Or if I did not answer the way they wanted me to (in other words lie and say I felt things when I was not ready to say them) and boom they would run to another, only to come back saying they made a mistake and wanted to continue. Yes I went so far as to meet them in person and found out again that things were not as they led me to believe and things did not work out. We are all human, and the true us comes out eventually. So I figure why pretend to be someone I am not, if a person does not like me the way I am then ok, be upset with me for being upfront rather than being twice as angry with me for lying about it.

To those who say this site is not a place to come for such things, well that is all fine and dandy to say and great if you are the type of person that never gets attached to someone on here and so this will not really matter to you. But it does happen to others even if we are not looking for it and even if we do not try. It is always possible to fall for someone.

I know you will find the right person for you, be it on here or somewhere else Curious One.. All the best to you. :)

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i agree it is important to meet as soon as it is possible to trust that person enough. We do appear different online, i certainly appear funnier and more chatty simply becos i find i have more time to compose my replies and i'm less self conscious and more self confident online. It is a constant source of disappointment to me that i'm not more like my online personality when i'm offline.

beaker or animal :--)

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A host's favourite muppet is the one that thinks she is genuinely in love with him.

Cookie Monster!!!!!!!!!!!!

see? that's the problem : sometimes, the host is in love with him, as unreal as it seems. but if his brain can't accept that, then he is a muppet for sure.

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Statler & Waldorf

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I prefer Animal..don`t know why..lol

Mr. Snuffleupagus, gotta be

Not a host but I have to say I like the Swedish Chef, oh and the two guys up in the balcony.

Or Fozzy Bear (aka Yoda, just listen to the voice) though technically he is by Frank Oz and not Jim Henson.

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Yesssssssss, Yessssssssss BB!!!

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Guess they slipped down a bit....that's what happens to hosts that started out Angels and have been on CC for awhile...

was it a happy marriage....:)

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must have been, they both where not addicted to each other and could do their own

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"I have a strong stomach"

Good to have in your business

I have never heard of a host being able to disable a members cam...as far as I know the only way to stop a member from using his cam is to either ask him to turn it off or close the room ....

No she can not a host can not do anything to a viewer's cam....if she does not see him it is because there is a problem with his cam connecting.

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Yes I see that available on my screen when I have viewers with cams but have never tried it.

i have never been able to pause a members cam, heck i cant even pause my own room when i am in a video....lol

"No she can not a host can not do anything to a viewer's cam"
"we can pause the cam of the viewer, ull see a gray screen then"
"Yes I see that available on my screen"
"i have never been able to pause a members cam"

I said disable his cam feed not his cam

Why would she need to disable it? She can cover that region with another window or even a piece of paper. The member would never know except for her lack of reactions.

Why would she need to disable it? because he's hideous (lol)

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Kira, we need more hosts like you :)

I mostly look at my video then on viewers if I am honest. ))

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as long as she's not pretending to be a chick,i'm with you 100% dummy :--)

I think you're both faked out technologically incredible edible dummies. So from here on out just fake it and dummy down ok? Thank you.

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Fake payment for Fake performance! ! !

I have been told by many hosts that they do not look at some member's orgasms by focusing on a different area of the screen. Another puts a post it note over the window. On the other hand others have told me it has become so routine to see it that it certainly doesn't turn them on or interest them in any sexual context but...if it makes the member happy and he keeps coming back...then oh yes baby...yes yes yes....

I think being a mistress would be very exciting, but it is not easy to do on here so I would much prefer being one in person .....

What do you mean by a simple Ladyboy?

im guessing a ts

damn thom,so glad you didn't put an i in between those 2 consonants :--)

Neither

Is there a connection between the two? I don't get your question.

Connection, mmmmmmmm BB!!!

no ladyboy is simple,from what ally tells me...of course :--)

when you say "Ladyboy" what do you mean please?

"Ladyboy" is the term which refers to a Transsexual person, male to female. Most commonly used as a term in Thailand and other Asian countries. Also called TS, Shemale.

Oh ok thank you TSaddicted. :)

You are quite welcome.

Yes I think that would be a good ideas I have been in the situation where a girl I was going to visit has gone off line and I have wondered if she has left for the day or will she be back and I can wait for her.

Only a good idea if it also prevents members from entering videochat while she is away.

yes when showing offline one is not suppose to be able to enter a video and same with when paused.....but when on pause sometimes a member is able to go into the text chat which is a bit odd....but that is how cc has it set up....

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Or Member chat? Oh better not say that. It comes from another site. And we don't want to be clones of other sites.

that was a bit cheeky....loool

Very cheeky....

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Seems pretty simple to me that if you aren't at your computer then you shouldn't be advertising that you are. I agree with how it works now. Otherwise a viewer is at your room staring to an empty chair, bed whatever and you aren't there.

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agree :--)

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was thinking more for when you get a drink or something, and away for 5 mins...or less

If you're not there then you're not there. Seems that CC did the simple thing and shows you as not there when you are away from your computer rather than many options to fit everyones desires such as:
Getting Coffee
Taking Break
BRB
In the Shower
Dressing
Feeding Baby
On Phone
In the Kitchen
Time out for real sex
Walking the dog
In another host room
etc., etc., etc.
What if you don't come back and forget to change your status and someone is waiting for you. Knowing how all hosts take things and turn it into convenience and $$ for themselves then I am sure that this would happen or just be forgetful. Therefore a host that is being shown with a temporary status is getting full-time advertising against the ones that are actually available at the time.
Things might appear so simple from a very thought but when you think of all the scenarios there are definitely good reasons to not change it.

nooo because after a while on pause it disconnects you...and not saying to have it with options. it is simple if your on pause for a few mins only then having the status showing pause. one simple word...instead of off line...there are even members that say if it said pause instead of offline they would have waited those 5 mins....you are making it sound like we want all kinds of choices. but that is not so.....

I prefer women to wear a little make up as , for me, even a woman who looks good with no make up usually looks even better with a little make up.

In fact just yesterday I was flicking through the tv channels trying to find something to watch and came across a programme that was a tv version of the snog (kiss), marry avoid game. The girl was heavily covered in make up and 80% of the male respondents said they would avoid her. They then toned down her hair and make up and it changed to 50% snog and 50% avoid.

If we are talking just about make up then, again for me, there is no difference between girls on cc and girls I see on the street. Now if only there were no differences at all I could then ask girls on the street to pull down their jeans and show me their sexy naked round bottoms :D

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Now I'll need to spend the next week thinking up a great excuse :P

"Now if only there were no differences at all I could then ask girls on the street to pull down their jeans and show me their sexy naked round bottoms."
Hehe...you are right. I would call the police if someone ask me about it in real life, but in webcam sites.....why not? ;)

On here why not indeed :D

i always like it when we make up inyf! :--)

Just as long as you do not expect an make up sex tisme

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i honestly didn't know there was any other type of sanhez,except dirty :--)

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Well after reading what a Dirty Sanchez was (Yes I am very innocent :P) I sincerely hope not lol. But T, after reading that post, maybe you are the girl to take away my innocence :D

that question is not an easy one to answer. some women look good without make up and some look better with makeup....the amount used will depend on the appearance of the female.

not only that but when a female is happy and feeling good on the inside then she will look good on the outside with or without make up... :)

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I think it all depends on the individual woman. Some women need a little "help" from makeup, to cover blemishes or bad looking skin, or just to enhance otherwise plain features. But I also know several women who are downright just as pretty, if not more so, without their makeup.

Personally, I think whatever a woman does with makeup, it should be done tastefully and only as much as is possible to enhance her natural beauty. I've seen so many women who seem to have no idea how to use makeup appropriately, putting so much on that they look like some clown from the circus. I heard a woman say once that the best makeup is the makeup you don't realize is there. I think what she meant by that is that one should use only enough to enhance her beauty not draw attention to the makeup

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if you don't mind ccmail me your screenname. I like your posts, and think i'd like to visit you

Look like you do in your pictures. If you have glamorous pictures in your profile then look that way before you start your session. If you go natural then your archive pics should reflect that too. I think it's frustrating when you go in a room and the girl looks different than how she looks in her profile. Which is also why I advocate taking more archive pics.

Makes a lot of sense! Good advice!

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huh?! the girl is supposed to look like she is on her profile page? lol you are such a dreamer! never gonna happen. and hosts wonder why we leave as soon as we enter . . .

i agree with everything you said random,but 1 thing confuses me.i always thought advocate was a fruit :--)

avocado is..

Did you mean drink (Advocaat) rather than fruit tisme :P

tisme is a fruit? :--)

Maybe it had nothing to do with make up at all but that low cut top and/or skirt that was showing a little too much! Who knows....sometimes it makes men feel less intimidated and makes you more approachable. I do think when guys are paying money to see a very attractive girl here he expects it to compliment her looks yes too much or poorly applied can detract. Depends on what you alter ego is on here....

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I think it just goes to show that make up is not the be all and end all of beauty. It is only because we are now living in a world where the glamour media dominates our perspective of beauty we quite forget that attractiveness comes from more than just a painted face. It is how someone walks, how they talk, how they dress, how they smile, how they laugh. Make up is a bit of a misnomer as it does not really make anything. Properly applied it should enhance not dominate. Personally I appreciate subtly applied make-up as it give the impression that the person knows their own attractiveness to such a fine degree they are able to just do the minimum necessary to display it. That is not to say heavier make up cannot be very striking but at the same time that is entertainment not attraction. A clowns make up makes you look at them, but I would not call that attractive ( I am not into Coulrophilia ;) )

That's probably right, it goes with our time and with those that most girls look at: stars. Many pictures are photoshoped, so they are far from reality, but still, most dream to look like that.

Thank you for your answer :)

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Then the ones that looked at me have issues...

... or good taste :-)

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Well I am sure that there will be those that will say yes money slave, but personally I do not call them money slaves, it is the viewers choice as to what he asks for in a video. There are some viewers that spend hours in text talking and never or rarely go to video, so it is nice when sometimes they go into a video and talk too. so if a viewer decides to talk in a video instead of asking for undress that is up to him. It can be a nice to change amongst the other videos that say undress and do this do that etc..besides that who knows what a conversation can lead to or not lead to..as long as the viewer is happy and getting what he wants then that is his business. Just enjoy yourself what ever you decide to do with a host.

Yes I enjoy talking in open video. I've had great conversations and met some great guys through chat. Hey it's a great place to ask a host questions about how she views men or situations since we definitely think differently. I enjoy making virtual friends. I do find it rather awkward when I end up asking all the questions so I prefer it be interactive. Seems it also would be great for shy guys to be able to open up a bit.
I am starting to hate the trendy phrase money slaves and it appears to be misused frequently on this site. That would be my furthest thought of someone that comes to my video to chat. Hope that helps! :))

Just call them "lonely men". Nothing wrong with trying not to be lonely.

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If guys who want to chat are "money slaves," then are guys who want an instant show "penis slaves"?

It doesn't have to be all about appetites.

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I would call them guys with money,but not money slaves of course.:) Money slaves playing fetish game, they ask hosts to do certain things in video (like dont pay attention on them, being arrogant or even rude with them and etc) and they got exciting from this, in most cases they even dont want to chat. Also they like if host up her price to maximum.
The reasons why some members dont want to see any adult things in host's sessions and prefer to chat instead are many and various. Some of I had experience myself, were cos guys use the site like dating site and searching gfs and they find it rude to to start relationship from strip. Second are viewers who dont need nudity because they are into other things (like smoking, lingerie, pantihose, special outfit, innocence). And third are really shy guys (happen really seldom).

You sure are hung up on this money slave thing aren't you? Worried that you might be one?

Are you a softcore host?

hmmmm, and did you ask the same question of Ted and SeemsReal?

and i hung up on you BB!!!

Sorry, I have no idea what you are spouting on about

Awwww.... Awwww... BBy!!!

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I'm glad to hear that Kerry :)

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Its on my personal forum. Lets play!!

Hurray !!!!!!! I will be able to sleep tonight after all :P

whom are u sleep with?

Unfortunately myself :(

If I wasn't sleeping by myself then, hopefully, I wouldn't be here.

I'll not be able to sleep tonight wondering if her answer was yes or no. Hopefully you'll keep us all updated and these posts from losers to their mistresses will become a regular thing on these forums.

these two actually have fun on this site and not whine throughout the day like a losers :)))

I only called him a loser because that is what he called himself. I also have fun on this site I just do not feel the need to post it on the forums (yeah I know that, in this case, posting it on the forums was probably part of the game and the fun).

Anyway I must dash. I've got an empty toilet roll I need to get rid of :P

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lol okay I will :P

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When your woman is mad at you, she wont give you sex....Men always want sex, even if they are mad at you....

Speak for yourself. When I am angry with a female that last thing I want is to be in bed with her, all I want to do is get away from her until my anger is gone!!!

sorry MeAndMyMember that was meant to go to kab....it's that attention problem we men have...lol

There is no way I wanting to have sex with my woman when mad at her. maybe use her as a dart board yea....lol

No!

I guess so because in your entire post I didn't hear anything about wanting to give, bring smiles to others, to be understanding, to bring cheer to others, love others, make a difference in others lives for the better, to feel internal love, to be there when someone needs, to enjoy yourself enough that you're not afraid to be alone and many other thoughts of bringing good others. I seem to feel that I don't concentrate on your list as you describe it.
Sorry but I think your list describes a needy, fairly insecure human other than a newborn if I expected someone else to supply those things to me. Just my thoughts...

maybe you should read the post again, in my opinion the way I read the list yes in a round about way it is saying that. it is just not worded in the way that you have worded it. but it is good that you are able to find fault and to criticize in an unhealthy way as mentioned in the post. maybe you could have added to the list to make it more clear in words that sound better for you, instead of being so negative and judging the person for not wording it the way that is acceptable to you.

I said what I meant and I do disagree with the original post!

do you find fault in everyone so easily....lol

I've never heard a woman belch the word Arsenal after downing a pint of cider, explain the offside rule, or clear half a tube carriage with a particularly violent trouser cough, so yes, they are really different...

and that would be two of those obvious features ....looool

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Thanks it made me smile :)

I would call nude as having no clothes at all, as in completely naked. Flashing is not nudity

That is simple..in my opinion nude means fully undressed and without clothes... having on a bra and panty and only flashes for a bit, then that is not neither being nude nor does it mean her profile is dishonest. It makes her a flasher and a tease.

For me nude means no clothes on at all (If she was only wearing socks or shoes I might be inclined to call that nude). So I suppose, for me, a host that says she does not get nude in open but who flashes her parts is technically not lying. Having said that if a host said to me she does not get nude in open I would take that to mean that she does not show her bits and bobs (parts) at all in open.

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I'll have to say it has to be the third one. Otherwise, if the first or the second one have to apply, I won't be allowed to describe myself as heterosexual :P

Dear curious, everybody has there own interprutation, being an old fart, if I in session and she like she says she was and shows parts for an instant, then yes that flashing, if she pulls clothing aside and shows herself and leaves clothing where everything is visible, then it more on nudity side. Old fart's opinion. lol.

Thank you for the responses, then if what I call flashing is classed as being nude then I am gravely mistaken and that ends future flashing in an open session.

Flashing is not nudity. A quick glance at breasts by either quickly pulling down a bra or covering the breasts with hair or hands and uncovering them for a second is not nudity. Pulling panties down quickly or pulling them to one side or from the rear is not nudity. Nudity is removal of the clothes...and exposing parts.

This is a great post because it does highlight a semi-scam that goes on with some hosts. What do you want to see...I want to see your breasts...or I want to see your pussy....and wink....there...you saw it.
So again be clear...I want total nudity...I want you to remove your clothing and let me enjoy the view....its all in the negotiation and mutual understanding before the video.

Flashing is how the lights are on the Police car when they catch me doing public mastrubation while in 121 on iphone...... :-o

Good one!

If you are posting in your profile no nudity then I think that is accurate if you just give flashes. Nudity would be without any clothing!
BUT if you had posted in your profile that you do nudity and only did flashes of body parts while wearing under clothes that would not be
accurate. That would be very misleading for the member who would be expecting without any clothes.

I agree with you one hundred percent, too many profiles say one thing and another is thing is done, and too many word a profile in a way that allows the host to not say yes or no that she does something or it confuses a member But the post does say that the profile says no nude in open.