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WOW!! good question.i think yes but best give the question the thought it deserves.so i will give my final answer later,ok?

in my heart i say yes but in reality it's not a question i can answer without doubt until i am faced with the situation.thanks now you have given me something to ponder.

I think guys need money
and women need sex too! :D

in general - yes, but still there are a lot of women who don't want sex that much as men, and they have to refuse, escape it if possible, pretend they have orgasm or just to bear with sex as a necessity to keep their family.
And there are many men who can't live without sex, they dream about passionate partner, who turns them on so easy and ready to make love at any time :D

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Do you mean that simply she can't have orgasm? Or that it hurts her pussy to have sex? Or that she is emotionally empty and won't even hug you? Does she love me? To me it depends the why and how.

let's say so: she is frigid the worst way that turns u off :D

If she turns me off why am I marrying her?

she turns u off sexually, but all the rest is just super....in short an angel :D
i guess u will say no again :( ....oh well, life is a bitch :D

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then she becomes a dear friend and godmother to the children i have with a woman who wants me sexually AND socially

If I didn't find a better girl after 20 years then yes I'd marry her. At least I'd have someone to make my dinner, clean my house and do my ironing :D

yeah but affection is as important and on a cold night at least hugs and kisses are needed

Life shows that a person who choose himself a partner for those stuff like ironing, cooking and cleaning, usually find another partner at the same time just for sex :D ...agree?

Oh I never mentioned about the other gf for sex as I assumed that was already understood :P

u didnt mention that, but as i said "life shows" it happens almost always. U gotta be very brave to claim u would NEVER want to be with another girl just for sex, no matter for how much - once or thousands ...no offence pls, but i dont believe u are saint :)

....or maybe u are, but er.......wtf are u doing at this porno site then? =))

No you misunderstand me. I meant that I never mentioned a girl for sex as I just assumed that it was already understood that I could have one and so there was no need to mention it :P

I marry the frigid girl and have a sexy hotty from cc as my girl for sex :)

and may i ask, would u tell your frigid wife u have a hotty from CC to have "some fun" together? :D ....im just being curious again.

No I would not tell her because I am a loving, kind man and would not want to hurt her feelings :P

But now you have got me curious. Are you

1. A Host ?
2. Female ?
3. A hotty ?

Actually if the answer to number 2 is yes you've got the job as my lover :D

"...sexy hotty from CC.." as your girl for sex? I know you're joking here, but I would hope if you were going to have a mistress, it would not be a virtual one. To settle for the ersatz---or at best surrogate---satisfaction a site like this provides, would be to add insult to injury indeed!

Melomane sorry I should have made myself more clear. I meant a hotty from cc as my real lover for sex rather than as a 'virtual' lover.

I'm already looking for a flat for her haha.

Am I stupid to think that each gut only needs one girl? I don't want to try to deceive two girls and try to keep my lies straight. If I really need two I'll just become a poligamist.

....the question was: would u marry a frigid girl if she is your soulmate ...and this is normal to think each guy needs only one girl to be with as well as it is normal for girls to look for the only guy for the rest of life. That's why there are so many people have been looking their soulmates for years. It's not that easy, because usually a person wish him or her to be a prince or a princess :D

No doubt this sometimes is the case, what 'shrinks' refer to as the "Princess & Prostitute Syndrome." There are many men who idealize their wives (princesses), thinking them "pure" and not given to doing "dirty" things, like sex. As a result, they are often impotent with their wives, but can always get it up with a "dirty" whore. It's clearly the guy's hangup, not his wife's. Such men have a pathological hangup that equates sexual intimacy with something dirty and wrong. So, the wife cleans his clothes and the ho cleans his pipe. But his wife's sexual frustration will likewise seek a remedy. So, while he is at work, she will be serviced by Mr. Clean.

Yes It can also happen when the hot sexy wife who he had no problem having sex with becomes a mother and then the Princess part kicks in.

<<If ur partner is a great person, kind, clever, cute, etc....BUT frigid ( doctors cant help, everything is useless) ...would u marry her then?>>

No, because that person is not a lover, but a friend.

like they care if shes frigid or not, or she cums or not phewwww

by the word "partner" i meant someone with whom u have a close relation. (or just try to have it) anyway, even if u have such a great person only as your friend and if u both are free, sooner or later u will look for or dream about love with her, am i right? ....or do u think u won't, because she will tell u about her "little problem" before u go to bed? :D

i married her 33 years ago

do u regret about your choice?

Let me conclude.
I didnt notice many guys who would marry a frigid girl without intention to be honest with her and love only her in spite of any sex problems.
I didn't notice many girls as well, who would marry a poor guy who cant earn enough for their future family.
IMO it all is normal for a person who is pretty young, because in the old age u neither need much money nor sex, but u are desperate for the soulmate who would love u (u, an old fart :D) ...and u would care about each other coz he or she is your only treasure then, u dont need anything else in your life.

"....with* intention to be honest..."
sorry

take care :)

Yeah, a "frigid girl" should find a guy with a (relatively) low sex drive.

We are not medical professionals here so I wonder what people mean by "frigid."

Is it:
the girl is sick at the thought of spreading her legs for a guy?
the girl is sick at the thought of a naked penis?
it hurts to have sex?
she is a lesbian?
she hates you, but loves your money?
she simply is not so interested?

Here is an interesting link: http://www.savethemales.ca/000441.html

It seems if she loves you she will occasionally accomodate sex, even if it is not thrilling for her.

TC, I realize you are posing a hypothetical question, but I would think two such people would have come to terms with this problem long before the question of marriage was even on the radar screen.

thinking"aren't those thoughts of yours hypothetical?" hehe...

Of course, my thoughts too, but I was attempting to describe what might more likely be the case in reality. One can pose any hypothetical situation, but it hardly means that every hypothetical admits of the same degree of liklihood.

hi! i didnt read the whole post but i tell you this:
not 100% sure but if your perfect! and your the most adorable person but frigid in a sexual way that turns your partner off then... Most people will still marry you, probably even have a happy relationship. But! if a person is very sexually active and loves sex, he/she might cheat! - because sex is also like a drug if u love it u need it....
Many married people have good relationships but 1 ends up cheating, in statistics most cases of cheating is because 1 partner is not as sexually active as the other, or 1 is not adventurous in sex as the other... also many other examples and reasons :)...

Hope this helps

take care,

Thinking a bit more about your interesting question, several things occur to me. First off, I agree it is a widely held belief regarding the politics of sexual relationships---especially marriage---that women are more concerned about money and men about sex. However, it is easy to see how this view developed given the historical realities of relations between the sexes. Up until relatively recently, a woman was regarded as a man’s property, mere chattel, an asset like cattle (from which, btw, the word “chattel” derives.) The idea of a woman having political rights is a very recent development (and still the exception in most non-Western societies), corresponding to the novel romantic notion of a man and a woman marrying for love, i.e. against the practice of arranged marriages and/or the patriarch of a tribe promising his daughter to a member of another tribe, with the understanding that a “bride price” will be paid to the girl’s family. That price is negotiated between the fathers of the prospective couple. The men will quibble over whether the girl is worth two cows or three, for example.

Even as women acquired more political power, they were still largely economically dependent on men. American women got a taste of economic independence during WWII when they worked in the factories (“Rosie the Riveter” is a well known figure to the WWII generation) while their husbands were off to war. But after the war, women again largely assumed the “stay-at-home” mom role. (Indeed the Nazi’s were intent on discouraging women from seeking more political & economic independence with their propaganda campaign of “Kirche, Kuche, Kinde,” [“Church, Kitchen, Children”]). Only in the 60’s did things begin to change as regards women entering the work force in large numbers.

So, it’s understandable why women have placed a high premium on men having money, since little economic opportunities were open to them. (My grandmother left my grandfather in 1929 and went to work in a sewing factory for $12 a week—10 hr days/M-F. It was no picnic!) Thus women’s focus was/is on money and men’s focus, or so the perception goes, was/is on sex. No doubt there is the vestige of belief among men that if they are paying a woman’s way, they are entitled to repayment in the form of sexual gratification.

But it’s not that simple, because this political/economic explanation doesn’t take the biological element into account, even if---as some believe---the economic and political developments are ultimately rooted in the biological differences (of size, strength, mentality) between the sexes. The fact that the males are the pursuers and the females the pursued no doubt contributes to the perception that men are more interested in sex. Among the mammals it is undeniable that the males compete over who will win (or less delicately “mount”) the females in heat. We human beings may be “a little lower than the angels,” (Proverbs), but we have an animal nature as well. Perhaps that’s why most women complain that “All men are beasts,” even if they wouldn’t have it any other way!! Thus the humorous, but hardly complimentary remark I heard made by a woman who said, “Men think with their dicks!”

In sum, these roles and stereotypes are deeply rooted in our evolution as a species. Our consciousness is formed by these developments, hence our perceptions. To what extent all of these things bear on pathologies such as frigidity or impotence seen in individuals is a complicated matter and admittedly is somewhat tangential—but not altogether unrelated---to your question of whether a man would marry a frigid woman. It is not unrelated insofar as your question is premised on the assumption that men are primarily interested in sex and therefore would not marry a frigid woman who is ideal in every other regard. Of course the complimentary and equally prejudiced question is to ask a woman if she would marry a man with no money. The unfortunate result of both these questions is that they fail to question the forces that give rise to them. The questions themselves are a function of the underlying dynamic that goes unexamined. The forces are real, true, but there are more fundamental forces at work. Looking at the question of economic security and sexual desire without the prejudicial overlay simplifies somewhat the whole “Love or Money” question.

The matter of economic security is the easiest to answer because there is no ambiguity. We all need to survive. Who, after all, isn’t motivated in a primary way by this need? If mankind was, by some unforeseen calamity, suddenly reduced to his original primitive state and all the economic inequities were stripped away and rendered irrelevant, would not men and women cooperate in an effort to insure their survival? Would each not do what would most likely guarantee their survival and that of their offspring? Would the women not stay put, care for the children, plant a garden and create some sense of home and hearth? (Surely we don’t think she would apply for a job as an “Employee Benefits Coordinator!”) And would the men not go out to hunt and gather to insure that his wife and children would be provided for? And would he not do everything in his power to repel any aggressor that would threaten his person or property? Different roles? Yes, but roles largely determined by biology. These roles Marx described as the “first division of labor.” Roles that have evolved into undeniable inequities were originally a matter of biological necessity. Bottom line: men and women both desire economic security. However, it is an ironic mark of latter day civilization that men and women alike often show a pathological desire for money independent of any concern for their economic security!

The matter of love of sex is a bit more complicated and subject to greater debate. However, it seems clear that the stereotype of men being more interested in it distorts the truth as much as the stereotype of women liking money more. Adding to this prejudice is the aforementioned assumption that men are sexual beasts and women the innocent objects of sexual desire who have no such desire themselves. (This idealization of women is not unrelated to the humorous quip that women don’t fart! I recall—imperfectly---a line from Dylan Thomas, something like, “O Celia, O Celia/ She shits.”) However, when men and women get to know each other this myth is shattered, for men often discover that their woman has a more voracious sexual appetite than their own. Some might even say women like sex more than men. This claim is the subject of an interesting story from Greek Mythology.

The story concerns an argument between Zeus and his wife Hera concerning who enjoys sex more, men or women. Zeus claimed women enjoyed it more and Hera claimed men did. To settle the dispute they summoned Teiresias, (who was born a man, changed into a woman, and back into a man) since only he experienced both. Upon his arrival at Mt. Olympus, he told the feuding couple that women enjoy sex more by saying, “If the parts of love-pleasure be counted as ten, / Thrice three go to women, one only to men.” Hera was outraged and blinded Teiresias, who then was granted inward vision and became a well-known seer.

Whether women enjoy sex more than men, who can say. I suspect some women do, others not. My gut feeling and experience tell me it’s largely a matter of individual passion, not a question of which sex likes sex more.

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Good: I met the girl i love here.
Bad: I have to find a way my heart does not break in a million pieces when other guys see her... I have to survive just until i can offer her the means so she has not to work here (or anywhere else) anymore...

Good, I met a girl I lust after here and we jack-off together
Bad; she has some guy that thinks he is her bf and gets bent out of shape when we get naked together

hahahaha

Hmmm. I can relate strongly to that, but jealousy is not allowed.

and why not?

coz jealousy is for wussies.

that mean i am a wussie for being jealous of u helpful

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and how well do u handlee that?

Not very well at all. It is down to love and trust. At times it is really really hard to do.

it is interesting to communicate with you peopleand the mindless chats and the pictures of beautiful bodies.
dislike..endless floodings and hosts that do not understand
what '' No '' means.

Good I get to see beautiful women showing me their sext little bottoms.

Bad it costs money :(

beautiful ^_^

sniff...sniff...

beautiful ^_^

sniff...sniff...

Listen,why do u think,u have a right to say about ALL russians?Men and women? If one girl has offended u,it doesnt mean all of russian girls like her. And u cant,really,say about russian men coz as i understand u r not a russian. If u lived in Russia u would have a right to say about russian character and people,not in other way. And u would like to say other girls not russians want only true love?lol Really it would be very funny if it were true lol And also,believe in love and it will find u.

you silly western tool. we have trained out women to suck not only the schlongs but the wallets of western stupid man. soon all your euros and dollars will be in Mother Russia !!!!HEEEEEEEHHHEEEEEE!!!

mmm, another story of a sucker....I mean member sending moeny to someone far far away and then getting what he deserves...nothing in return. Say good-bye to your money and your diginity.

its not the sending of money or gifts that looses you your dignity.it is the reason for doing it that can cause it,in my opinion. it. i'm happy & proud i have done it :--))

spoken like a true sucker waiting for his money to be taken from him...gladly giving it away

that is your problem.you don't understand.i can't be taken if i am giving. no strings,no expectations just the satisfaction i have in my heart.oh by the way it is not only here,it is in life.

ur very modest.

sorry,wasn't saying it to be"modest"as you put it.stated it so was understood its not just a"host thing",more a people thing :--))

This would happen just as easily in the America's, Europe or anywhere.
Certainly more easily where you live and see the person every day!
Makes no difference if it is a man or woman.
Probably she did nothing wrong.
It was your unrealistic expectations!
My Mother met my Father when she was visitying his country.
So anything is possible.
But it is hard to have a love relationship and not being able to be
there for each other.

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ok, I will give him that right. Go ahead and blame the whole country.

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...happy birthday xSunnyGirlX:D

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absolutely agree with u:)

I have not sent money, although I have received strong hints, but I have sent gifts, willingly and will do so again. I expect nothing in return, they are given with the heart.

I was in love with a russian woman..

we also met, spent time together , in russia and also in Uk.. i even bought another flight ticket, but when she could not make it, because of family problems , she returned the money , even on a non refund ticket.. That is a russian woman , with pride and honesty, we met again a few months later. I have known a few russian ladies , and always had the best examples of honesty and they have been the kindest of hosts when I visited ,,met family and friends too, beautiful country and lovely people..
I have a better opinion now than before i met and visited .. SO please dont say ALL russians ..OK ..happy Valentines ..

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If you met her through a marriage broker then it's possible she was looking at you as a meal ticket and you may have over-blown your worth to impress her. A hint is if she asks for money before you are married. She survived before she met you and she can survive without your money until she commits to you. And in that time you can get to know her character.

I am not Russian..my husband spent a lot of money on them though..and I was happy to mention to him that they didn´t remember his birthday, at least.LOL
One day, a new handsome French guy came to me and he paid and he paid..and we talked..and we liked each other.I was able to see when he is online and I found out that my polite French is not addicted, which made me very happy.
I offered him to see me for free and he invited me for dinner in real, for Valentine´s Day, even we have met one month ago..my heart is flying and I should thank my husband for sharing the experience with Russians to me..it helps me to behave to win the heart of the man I want to be with

So you are married, still hosting, your husband still pays for vids and you meet guys in person that you met in your room ?
Wow, and who says CC marriages won't last?

lol......and old frenchie knew that she was married, yet invited her for a valentine's dinner too? yeah, he sounds much better:p

so strange:) how could i live here in my country for 23 years?:) Russia is full of greedy and hypocritical women and poor, week men.:) My dear ''that who knows'' , maybe you live on Mars and you havent met such people in your country or other?Then cool-i am proud of my country coz it is unique -only we have bad people.So I advice our Putin to set Russia as a museum:) Open the map of our world and look how big it is.billions of people..chose one and love her.And stop thinking of Russia.It is not for tunnel visioned viewers who judge the whole nation knowing only one person

well spoken NOCHKA!!

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Deeperrrrrrrrrrrrrrr happy everyday to you :--))

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hello good morning good afternoon,happy day to all the lovely people here

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Why do u think if members send some money or something like that,its enough for being bf? For hosts its just work not searching for a bf,so where is a problem? But hosts may just talk with members if he is nice person with his own thoughts..Same about girls in general.But,course,if u have nothing only ur money,if u r not interesting person..Yes,then all attempts r empty

You mean I can't buy a girl's affection here? Then all is lost, I have nothing to offer except my money.

U can buy many things with money,but not true affection. Coz its something other,not a thing that u can buy. If u think u can..good luck,but not sure u will be very happy with emotion that u just buy. And really sad when men think about money is only way for affection. But here,yes u can buy all u want and many people would be happy to sell it. But its other question.

Pretend affection will do as long as she's really good at it :P

maybe a girl can buy your affection then.you sound very cheap.might not even have to be a girl.LOL

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happy val's day to you too sweet pie-cool

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deeperfluffydollpieeeeeeeeee...mmmm xxxx :--))

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tisdeeperfluffydollpie? :--))

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Happy Valentines to you Pie, (H)
and to everyone! :D

And the penis is juicer, it goes up & down, round & round and in a few min you have juice all over the place

....only minutes??

one day ago you were bragging about hoe many people you have always in your room, what happened ? did they forget you suddenly ? or maybe you just feel you got in the shadow and nobody pays atention at you and at your new hair cut ? :P
Chill out girl...its just a day like any other day...tomorrow u will wake up and everithing will be the same...so no reason to be sad.
just me.

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sly attempt at sympathy to get more customers...lol
theses girls are funny

so at your work, you don't think of ways to improve business?? wow, you're a real bargain for your employer! if you take a moment to stop and think, it's a great thing to post! but you don't like to take a moment for that, do you?

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wow that alot of harsh words chill out guys and moni your always top notch in my book so dont listen to them and welcome back love the new hair cut you look great :)

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should I judge her on the basis of your thoughts then?

try not judging her,live & let live.LOL

As you appear to have no thoughts of your own I suppose you're going to have to use somebody elses.

if you say so I guess it must be right cuz I am incapable of independent thought. Please tell me more :D

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moniiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii kisss :--))

will just make next valentines day more special :--))

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We all dream of finding that one
special person in our lifes.
For any of us its just not that easy!
A hug and kiss to you on Valentines day, Monika! :)

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Monika

Monika i would love to share my chocolate with you!!! Be Mine!! xoxo

this view you had was you drinking-cool

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chase why you not married ?

good question---are you wanting to get married--cool

cool.cooler.coolest :--))0

DON'T DO DRUGS! Drugs are bad!

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You romantic writings remind me of our lovemaking...pathetic :D

Mondos got a stalker,Mondos got a stalker(not you freeda,i know who you are) :--))

'Bout time you realised, tisyou :-)

(private to cc/mondo47)yes i'm always a little slow on the uptake.better late than never i guess :--))

wow-poor cow--cool

Absolutly. And thanks for the warm wishes. Same to all here.

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my dog loves me.LOL

Thankyou, moya Varen'ka.

Oh I'll be a good little slave for you miss.

dungeon?

I need a real good mistress...to suck my dick.

me too

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She would once she sees this delicious piece of man cock
Open up and say Ahh baby :D

I think they might have picked up on that. How dare these insolent slaves not pay heed to a "Real Mistress!" lol!

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Wonderful wonderful little song. made me all wet and mushy inside.

Reminds me of me and my hot bf Brown Nose Hunter although I think he should be the wife.

great now the troll is absconding with my nickname as well! We are on to you little troll

Oh sweetheart why didn't you say. Of course I'll be the wife tonight my little sexy fruit loop (k).

:DDD LOL

almeaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :--))

don't know who almea is tissue but sounds like fun.hope you don't mind if i join in.LOL

This shoud be the CC theme song

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but while your waiting.....

Im a queen waiting for my prince with excalibur!

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I am a guy! you have something against gays?

yes,
you have something against people that have something against gays?

no, not unless you have something against people who have something against people that have something against gays?

where's your alter ego loserg?:--))

tissue this is getting more fun!!!!!!!!!!! LOL

Wifenextdoor it is the Trolls out playing their childish games again.

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don't let the criticism bother you NightDance, I'm still waiting for my prince also.

almeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :--))

Oh D (blushing), you can still see me (at $1.99 a min).

i know, and i love u too:)........to O. -LOL