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her bday was yday...but better late than never :)

Happy b-day...!have a blast!kissss!

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Happy bday.

I loved meeting you on your bday. Lovely time.

It's nice to share another one. :o i am getting old!!

have a lovely year. :) And enjoy every moment, don't wish for tomorrow to be better. tomorrow never comes.

kisses.

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EMO - Extended Missions Orbiter= Way OUT THERE
Fits the description of my one 17 yo daughter and her 17 yo bf that are EMO

The EMO are the kind of people who cry while they masturbate.

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I cry when I masturabate and use the tears as a lubricant...waaaaaaa...ooohhhh...waa...ohh..aaahhh

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yes seems 1 in Tomsk too

just a very few,, seems dont allow yahoo either

stopped me seeing a few girls now- i would have seen much more.
Hope they realise they loose business ..

I prefer cam to cam but CC version still cannot load or run so i use yahoo
many girls ask for that,
many seems prefer yahoo too.

Hope those bosses see they loose return business for their girls doing this.
I will not go back to them

I charge $1.25 per minute fo perform in video -$2.50 if she requires nudity. Most hosts won't pay it.

im still getting

cam to cam software - temp unavailable try in a few days
but thats been the same for months now.

so we have to use yahoo

then a very few dont have -like those few Russian girls
sorry for them. i will not use them.

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its because i iike russian girls i have a problem

i have only found this problem with 2 places - both russian

no prob found yet anywhere else

but CC
is not allowing download of cam 2 cam software ?
dont know why ??

Maybe technical reason. Studio has slow connection or they pay by volume. Or studio boss wants to protect his innocent :-b girls from seeing strange things. I heard from a few girls what weird things some guys do with their dick. :-b And that wasn't in dungeon or fetish...

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Thanks, Ive been looking for this for months.

Greedy bosses, dear. Seeing you on cam eats some traffic so they just try to save money on everything. You never know how far ppl's greed can go. Of course if they looked farther, they would see that this just ruins their business, but they are not smart enough to be good in business. So just forgive them and don't blame the girls, it's not them.

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I know how far people's greed can go, I've heard of people charging their friends and family money just to chat with htem..sheezzz

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I enjoy cam2cam shows 10 times more than a regular one. Some girls or studios pay by volume of "download" and have unlimited "upload". And trust me, some of these fares are rather exhorbitant per each MB over your monthly download limit.

didnt see it online, so cant reply

Send it ;);P)

No problem if it's genunine. Unfortunately most times it isn't here. Don't know of any men here who like to be told bullshit.

my answer is this - the love and feelings you will receive from a host here is directly rated to the amount of time and money she will get from you. When those gifts are gone so is the love. i believe friendship is possible and most common. but love... only if the price is right

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I think we ought to ask the census taker if he (or she?) has the data though I do believe, being gullible myself, chances are the odds would be for the viewers to be fooled with than the hosts...

But to refer back to the originator of this thread, I dont think "SEX ONLY PLS!" would be the theme for chats nor would matters pertaining to the heart (though the earlier would be fine with me!). There are gazillion other stuffs to talk about, and being the professionals here (it is a job btw for the hosts) the onus would be on the service providers (i.e hosts) to entice their viewers on the topics....

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Hey, stop giving me bad press!!!

I'm a nice guy really :-)

Love you all,
Nick the Bubble
(bubble and squeak - Greek)

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You were lied to and misled by a member?

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Are you always totally honest with members?

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Is that my "interesting" messages or has everyone been sending them?

And what did he do anyway?

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Ofc its not all about the money and vids. Love can happen here and it happened to me but if it happens - 98% that it will end nowhere. Cuz long distance relationships suck)) Ive had enoguh, and now- no thx:)

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Usually all the girls here talk to members about love when they just want to get the member to spend hours and hours drooling at them in their video. The member (an idiot that has never seen a woman and spends all his free time seating behind a pc) ends up believing and gets hurt when he finds out it was all a game.... It happened to me... Once!

so you are an idiot who has never seen a woman :--))

Yep. You wouldn't be here if you had a life. ;-)

don't paint everyone with your brush.in my case it's,i wouldn't be here if i had a wife,not a life.still if i had a wife i guess i wouldn't have a life :--))

Of course, affection can grow here, but do not take it too serious unless there is a real meeting and there is chemistry. Then you can both begin to think about how it might develop.

Anything else is only cyber-fantasy. I recognize that and I make no demands and have no jealous feelings concerning any of the hosts I am friendly with.

I have several cyber-relationships here. Some are VERY sensual and some are only simply friendly. Sometimes we have imaginary dates and even talk about meeting in reality.

With those plans for reality I am being absolutely honest and schedule/budget permitting such meeting are entirely possible. However, I am also the realist and I know that no matter how hot our words may have been I intend the meetings to be completely plutonic. I am certainly not one you would expect to see with a hot young honey and I don't intend to force anything on anyone..

If a host agreed to a meeting I don't believe she owes me anything beyond an afternoon tea and maybe a short walk around the block. That, and a fairwell hug, would suffice unless there was a different meeting of the minds.

P.S. It seems the greatest danger is if any of my cyber-friends work in the same studio and compare notes. Some of the hosts are incredibly territorial even if there are no promises/committments from the member.

Sure, but knowing the member is 40+ years old and actually seeing a guy sitting across from you who is old enough to be your father is quite different. And the western streets are not paved with gold, there is as much sadness and frustration there as anywhere else.

I agree with u. there are many members here much older than my father adn its not posible for a very young girl to fall in love with someone so old....

damn! i'm one of those 40+ guys. guess none of the young girls here will never fall in love with me now. :(

come here bb i will love you paco (((hugs)))

not after last night johnny.you went to deep and now I am barely able to take a crap without pains:(

Im 23 and im inlove with 50 yrs.old:)...age doesn't have limits in the matters of heart!

Ah. nice to hear, woman in love. I am a little in the middle ... not so young, still not 50. :) But wish for meeting someone nice.

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I do think it's better to talk about sex rather than love and feelings :)

just been ready some of the posts and replys to this topic, love can exist anywhere if two people truely want it to occur, love just dose not have to be a meet in the local pub or in a bar it can happen even on the internet and even on here, the thing is some of you use love as just a word but do some of you truely understand what the power of love is, i watched and have this movie on dvd aswell and i find that within this particular movie is the true bottom meaning of love, if any of you have not watched it then i suggest you give it a try if you like these typoes of movies, the name of the film is captain corelli's mandolin, now during the film there is a explaintion said about love, basically the bottom part is love is not what you feel when the first attraction to that special somone is there but is the left over part after all the general part and attraction has passed over, people can find love on here no matter what just both parties have to feel that mutal bond, good luck and take care people

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thats a true statement in my opinion. also saw the movie. love can spring from places you never thought of. however the persons involved have to be receptive to these feelings.. its not bad to express those feelings here but only if u are sincere. love is a powerful thing and should never be repressed. even in these chatrooms

There is an infallible sign at which we can recognize that we love somebody : ...it's when his face inspire more physical desire than any other part of his body.

My grandparents celebrated their 40th anniversary just yesterday.... Putting your definition of love in the context of my nana and gramps, all i gotta say is... eww.

hmmm dont know about that one

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So true.. But not only face-brains too:)And his heart)

Don't know much about tennis but as far as the wombles go Orinoco would be King and Madam Cholet would be Queen

Federer and Henin will both prevail... you heard it here first.

Most important? i dont even know which players i can choose from...
I really have to start showing some interrest in sport instead of chatting here.

Hey wait - what are a sports question actually doing here?

thought this was a post about pearly king and queens.
Mauresmo will win mens and henman will win ladies titles, more interesting would be which hosts from here do u think would win the cc tennis championship.
i wouldn't mind teaming up with xextasyx for the mixed doubles but i'd spend too much time looking at her ass and we'd lose in straight sets...early shower it is then :p

if queen of CC tennis i think nobody could beat schoolgirlX19. Why? coz she definitely looks like MS! ha ha

grass is for ninnies.

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that's just the way she wants it :)

i agree,she knows what she wants

Not important at all.

For me, a chathost doesn't have to be intelligent per se, just well-spoken, and with a sense of humor.

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I just can't get enough of a smart girl. :)

And nooo they don't scare, it's interesting and challenging to gain their love.. and keep it.

But well.. :) haha ido things for the same reason Baudelaire wrote "les fleurs du mal";) a "passionate taste for the difficult".

I'm sure most intelligent guys aren't scared of intelligent women. They just hate the bitchiness and self importance that comes with a certain type of "intelligent woman" who says things like that.

Some women tend to flatter themselves with the "men are scared of me because I'm intelligent" idea. Trust me, it's not that at all. Anyone can be conceited and bitchy - it's easy! Guys get pissed off with the sharp tongue, not the intellect.

if she's smart then she will probably have more fantasies and a sexy brain, i get turned on by sexy text not just a sexy body, so both r required for me

Ultimately, I don't care if she even speaks. The least I want to do is to pay video just to chat. A beautiful body and a pretty face does it for me ;-)

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it depends on what you meen, smart and intel as in if they know how to fix a computer problem or rocket science. or do you meen like they can hold a normal conversation without looking at the translate program on everyother word, or just smart like they know just how long they can take when removing the bra before the member just gives up an ends the session?
in all the above, i'd say it is VERY important !

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No ablond :) We'll take you just the way you are :P

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Gala when you're as ugly as me you learn to cast the net as wide as possible in the hope that one of the fish will bite :P

I think it is MUCH harder to love a girl with few brains. The frustration would be great. A little more brains and a little less beauty, please.

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No, no, no. I take a beautiful girl with less brains. I don't want a girl calling me dumb all the time, LOL.

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Unteresting replies..

for me yes , if a woman is intelligent , then makes the whole experience more enjoyable,, as long as she is not too prudish of course,,
the brain is the biggest sex organ by far,,,

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Yes I know Minibikini I remember the good old days when you could make a post and 10 minutes later it was on page 42 :(

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How about

who has the sexiest shoulders ?

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how about titties and beer

poiltics
sports
envormental standards
law enforcement
hiding the bodies
global warming (i think the envirmental would cover the) (oh also a sub catagory for the hiding bodies)
condom brands and styles
jelly and how to use and apply
and i really need to crap(not related to the above topic)
coffee brands
i really need to sit on the holey chiar
brb

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at least you admit to humiliating men and don't pretend it is anything but business when you do it MissCBT ... but isn't true that your type of customer can also fall in love with a tuna fish sandwich?

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ObOb,

In the main, I agree with your central point, but I don't think resorting to hyperbole will help jar the obtuse into seeing the unvarnished truth. As for those who already 'see it like it IS,' [for the moment let's not tackle the ontological question what that is IS, but agree it is a realistic view of the nature of this site], well you're just preaching to the choir.

I admire Miss CBT’s calm and fair-minded consideration of your point and her counsel that “some attention and less naïveté,” is in order for both hosts and guests alike. But with all due respect, you weaken your argument when you extrapolate from her honest attempt to be fair, and state, “At least you admit to humiliating men.” I find no such admission on her part; the agenda is to make money. To characterize her position this way is unfair and overly cynical. I well understand your cynicism, but a thoroughgoing cynicism has the ironic effect of distorting the very truth that one seeks. Thus the image of the original cynic, Diogenes, who---so legend has it---walked around the agora (marketplace) holding up a lantern in broad daylight, and when asked why, he replied, “I’m looking for an honest man.” Presumably he thought HE was one; then again, maybe not.

You, quite justifiably, call attention to “the host with absurd chat,” whose transparent motive is simply to keep the meter running. But you too resort to absurdity (albeit of a different sort and to a different purpose), when you compare Miss CBT’s remark about the rare and unlikely occurrence of a woman falling in love with her gynecologist to “falling in love with a tuna sandwich.”

As you say, this site is a business and by its very nature not a wise place to be searching for a wife or girlfriend.* Talk about the proverbial “lookin’ for love in all the wrong places!” Is it possible? Yes. Is it probable? No.

*P.S. I must say, among all the categories here, the most confounding is “Friends & Family. ” The very idea that one should pay for friendship is antithetical to the nature of true friendship. Even more unfathomable is the “Family” part. Since this is a paid site, are we to suppose that hosts’ family members must pay to chat with their relative? Must fathers & mothers of hosts pay to chat with their own daughter? (I suspect most hosts’ parents don’t even know their daughters are working at a site like this). The very idea is an affront not only to normal human customs and conventions, it is an affront to humanity itself where everything is for sale, even the sacred bonds between parents and their children!

its weird how easy some people judge some they never met in their life. And as soon as some people realize that there is a huge difference for most girls what they do here and who they are in real life, we will stop with this long arguiment. Of course there are girls playing with some members feelings, of course there members who play with girl's feelings, in so many people you will find good and bad ones, but don't judge a girl by what she is doing for a living. I wish to all of you to REALLY meet some hosts, even for a coffee and judge after

You talk about experience ???

Yes from experience, as MissCBT's gyno, the second I saw her in the stirrups I was smitten. What a pudendum! what a labia majora! and clean as a whistle!

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Amen brother!

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If I buy you a car, can I be your boyfriend?:D

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yeah, that's weird. it's like sometimes it seems that not all the guys here are of the same mind. it's confusing.

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99%? How did you get this stat? Guessing?
Back in the day when I went to strip clubs, I went home with more than a few strippers and it wasn't a "pay me" kinda thing. Strippers like sex as much as the cashier or waitress.

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not all at once silly. and this was back in the day when I was 20 something. I doubt i could do it at my present age...lol

haha, the jokes on you pal, I dont pay in rubles.

TO THEMESTARTER

And when u log into ladie's video chat and say u r in love, promise to come back and do not come back, and by the way u r havin a wife too..!
So u got only the same what u r.

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Cassy have you bought the wedding dress yet ? I can't wait forever :(

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Oh sorry I am married :P

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I'm already packing the bitch's suitcase :P

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As she only exists in my head she can be whatever I want her to be :P

there's plenty of vacant space in my head for the bitch to move into after you have kicked her out INYF.one thing,will you be paying her rent? :--))

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fine by me.there's enough space for you.lots of room for girly things like pillow fights but not after lights out.oh wait,it's my head,the lights have never been on in there :--))

Now I'm in a bit of a quandary.

I was going to imagine her as what I think, a woman who would marry me, would look like in real life and then send her across to tisme. However if you are going to join her Charlotte I may have to imagine her as how I would love my wife to look like in a fantasy world :)

But then tisme gets two really sexy women living in his head :(

Life is so unfair :P

so you agree to pay the rent INYF.send the fantasy world wife,i have a photographic memory.for a small additional rental cost i'll show you the pillow fight prints :--))

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shame to hear that , about the ****** but any guy asking like that deserves a quick goodbye,
he would get it with any girl Im sure..

I dont understand why guys act so stupid... we are all here for different reasons maybe , but if you want to meet someone , then at least find someone you like, respect and can enjoy time with..

The rest is just a waste of time ..

adult or non adult - all are women, and have lives, and enjoy good company .. surely thats just being polite and decent..

mmmm...a guy who pillages rich members and shares with poor girls? lol

Ok lets start a charity foundation for the poor hosts... But would you ever do something like this to us members?
I think not :P

hey! it was a joke! we are not poor! grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr keep ue charity for really needy people

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if you say that you need a new robinhood, whats a robinhood? Someone who steals from the rich and gives to the poor!
So if i say charity, it means money.. How can you tell me i dont know what you want, this is your job no? You here cause of money, what you want more? More money!
Lets be realistic, only about 10% of hosts on this site actually want a real man not for money but for his heart and someone who will treat her well... Yes i bet many of you will say that it is exactly what you want, but if i ask "what if he has no money?" Back to the about 10% of the hosts from the whole site will only want true love...
What is another reality? Answer: most hosts think almost everyone here is an idiot! Why you smile to the idiots and act like you like them? Because they give you money, i totally agree im the idiot whos writing this.
But another reality is we all have good side and bad side and you most likely dont care and dont want to know..
im not generalising i say most not all! But MOST!
Come on let me ask: Who of the hosts here wouldnt care a man has money but you would truelly like him for his heart.. And i don't mean you doing your thing and you think most men are idiots and someone changes your mind all of the sudden because of his qualities.. I mean how many girls here actually intend to find a guy on this adult site that is not rich with money at all but has a good quality heart? Come on! ok maybe not 90% but atleast 75% wouldnt care and just want the money! So a true robinhood to most of you is someone who will shower you with money and make you forget all your problems!
I know what you want, you can act indenial all you want but i'm gonna be ignorant about it!
And i just want to say that i give total respect to those hosts who are real, dont lie, dont play with feelings, dont play mind games just to get that extra bit! not mean to offend but this happens not a lot but TOO MUCH! And the people who you do it to and who dont understand that its all a game, trust me! They much more hurt then the hosts reading this text and getting offended... And if the person i'm talking about isnt you, then you shouldnt take it close to heart and shouldnt get offended because it's not about you.
And i have a total right to grudge against hosts who fake everything just to get extra cash, play with feelings and use you.. Didnt happen to me! But happened to many people i think are very nice on here!.. And another point: The moans and groans and complaints that been written on this forum.
If your true and honest and here purely and really for fun (not fakely) Your a saint!
Please admit it's pretty rare come on people!
And again i dont mean to offend, im just being open and realistic! And again i appreciate those people who smile to your face and smile to your back when im turned away! Unlike most here who will smile to the face and say bad things when you turn around.. for example: your so great, and to another member or host you gonna say! he such an idiot.. THAT! That is fake and i wish you would just stop and understand that in life nothing comes easy and everything has it's limits. You might get away with much for years and years, But remember my words, playing with people and using them will make you sorry one day, and you will loose true precious things and will feel sorry! So lets just create the charity fund so the fakers will get more money, become more greedy and be so greedy that it will be hard to hide your fake side that you try to never show and spill all your beans. :)

CC you say this forum has freedom of speech,and we have a right to our personal opinions, so please don't ignore this message and post it.

what if i say you i spend a lot of my time chatting with a member even if i know he will not come to my video...just because he has all his qualities-kind,smart,intelligent,a real gentleman,making me feel a true woman and never making me feel uncomfortable! And i dont need his money, i just need a pleasure for my soul. And i wondering why most of you men think women are always preoccupied with getting money? We all men and women are need money right? But it doesn't mean we want just "more money" and aren't able to have true feelings if a person is really nice but not rich. I guess most of normal women prefer a man with a rich heart than with a full wallets. Of course its better to have both..lol, but unfortunately it keeps happen veeeery rarely...well known fact :)

I knew there were always some here with this attitude

always .

But some many who dont ..
some even will say - i only say Hi if your in my video ..

so thank you ,, yes we appreciate you need to work and we all do, and we appreciate you might do shows , sexy or otherwise , being the "host" your customer would like you to be...
some act and some refuse to - lol - some even just = im here take me as i am lol...
But of course i always believe that in between this " work" is always some small time for real guys and girls to get to know each other,,
because we are all people ,, out side of work too..
and if we never open up ourselves to see this ,,
we are missing a huge amount of possible opportunities to grow and learn,,
Non of know everything, and we can all learn ,, and CC gives us a place to take that opertunity

Up to us if we take it or ignore and just do shows ...

works both ways ...

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Serious in what way? I am serious about many things ... I am serious about the work that I do (helping under-privileged children in Africa), I am serious about the time I spend volunteering at worthwhile charities (like Uncle Morty's Save the Dolphin and Bikini Carwash Foundation), I am serious about world hunger (well, specifically, my hunger), I am serious about global warming and the effects that it has on the weasel population in Outer Mongolia, I am serious about the dire consequences that an expanding Universe will have on the ability to get a good cup of coffee in the morning, I am serious about the posts I make here in this forum ... you may need to be more specific ... as I asked at the beginning, you want a man serious in what way?

Robin Hood or Prince Charming? What about a prince who looks like Quasimodo?

What you want serious for? why don't you want a fun man???

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why don't you take a look?

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that's OK then Miss, as long as you are looking :-D

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And I need a Maid Marian, a beer and a blow-job.

Well Robin is not here,(btw he died long time ago) so guess I will have to do.
A real Knight, good enough? :D

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But when the knight removes his helmet you will see he is 50 years old, with a tummy and an ex-wife.

and his shinny armor is holding in his massive beer gut...lol

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sure tenderknight bring me a beer and get on your knees

how would that work in a website?
robin hood helped those in need. im too tired to understand your meaning:$

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i'd love to give a helpfull advice but i only fly private jets :(

I doubt there is a direct flight to Novosibirsk from ANYWHERE in the world apart from inner Russia itself.

There are no connecting flights from major Airports is Western Europe to Novisibirsk. Your best option looks to be to go via Moscow. Cheapest deals I can find over the next couple of months are around $1800 round trip but better deals may be available if you travel later in the year.

$1800? TIme to hit up my regular suckers with the "my mom is sick and I don't have any money" story.

You can go to Oslo, London or Amsterdam.
From Oslo to US it cost like 6-700$ for a round trip.Should be similare from there also..
Norwegian company is also opening a new route to Moscow from Oslo.. Cheap flight route. www.norwegian.no

Hope this help and wish u luck

brillant piece of detective work Clouseau

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If the Charlotte you are interested in is Charlotte4U she is live in littleshy now. :-)

Hmm... I must say I'm very much surprised too in seeing her in Little Shy Catagory. And knowing that she's been in Non-Adult for more than what, 4 years?

Rise to ascension?

I think its perfectly normal for her ,

she is a free spirit , does as she wants and has often been in adult even in the last few years, and before that even more so.
She is smart enough to be able to choose what she wants, and lets face it before recent changes anyone was doing anything in 1 2 1 anyway.. She is certainly confident enough to be anywhere she wants here,, Good on her..

Most girls go to adult when they're not making enough money from non-adult.

love the romantic ideal though.

I think she has her own reasons , and always seemed very busy in non adult . One of the very Honest hosts here ,, never hid behind 121 or special deals, So lets appreciate that too..

so your saying she was one of those "I only strip in 1-2-1" host? How charming.

No im saying the opposite ,
, but so many were ,, if she did adult she was in adult , if not in non adult ..
most just did the 1 2 1 but not her..

Talk to her u will see- very straight - and open..

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lol

"" anyone "" was to be taken as a generalisation and is not the same as everyone - there were always a few exeptions but i stand by my words..

I was suggestion you were one of the exeptions and not in need of any such games ..

I hope we chat again soon ..

:-)

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Some oriental hosts work on 6 month contracts and often disappear without warning as the boss just trades them in for fresh meat.

tks census taker, just hope maybe another host or someone would know, u can guess i liked dat girl and she did great show..

it's been 3 years since she's been on-line, i guess you didn't miss her that much...lol

got you looking anyway,, i miss her

Yes, I was hooked 110% on one and ready to go meet her when her contract expired and the home address she gave me to write to swallowed my letters without reply.

i think i have suffered the same fate, census taker,,,,pity though..

250+? Wow, and I thought I had alot with 40. MOre powerr to you old one.

Well, don't think they were regulars. I am not known as a heavy video user. Some I never talked to, as the only way to note the ones you are interested in is the put them in your Favorites List. In fact, that's why I want a way to easily remove unwanted ones.

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She was found dead in a park by some water (maybe a river?). I never heard any results. Any old-time Yaro host knows?

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So you're telling us Margaritka won't be online anymore?

Yes, I now remember the candles, as well.

So please tell us who was your love.

You don't know her.

Rather a sweeping statement surely. There must still be other guys on here besides you who chatted with her. Why not me?

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What's your host name?

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if you want me to take you to vacation it is necessary

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I invite you to join me, Kate

ok, pack your bags cause you are going to Chernobyl

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I am Chamoby. I am back from vacation. I have 3 nipples and a big smile. Lets party our seats now. Joy. Dance . Dance.
Yours...Chamoby.

Land of the wolves...?

land where folks are born with their hearts outside their bodies.

im not, and love to find someone who is NOT BUSY

sounds familiar

Once again it has to be said. When there are less customers you have to do something to stimulate business. Lower your prices, go to Comm Chat, CC mail your regulars, take new pics, etc. Or sit there and sweat.

That might require an effort.

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Like, Oh my god!

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hippocritical? :) those poor hippos :(

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If I want that, then I go out with my mates.

isn't it more interesting to know ppl from the other country from the other end of the world?it is like a small discovery

Many of my friends are from all parts of the world, further than Yaroslavl (or where ever you are from) and have seen and experienced countless interesting things. As have I.
I'm sure we could have some fascinating conversations but not at $1.06 a minute :-)

plenty of free chat rooms to meet people from other parts of the world

the last, and only time i was in a free chat room i was cruising for girls, of course and each one was so deluged with guys none had time to answer - i clicked on one and got that damn ASL sign and when i answered it turned out to be another guy and his answer was something like "do you want me to pretend to be a girl?"

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I left that room and went running back to CC where i have been annoying and amusing hosts ever since

So your saying I have a chance?

If I have a chance, anything's possible.

...you were a mole for the Nixon Administration? From party hack to two bit TV actor. That's impressive Fred. I'd say you are eminently qualified to be president. Hey, look at Reagan's ascent to power!

nice interesting talk with your mates,are you gay?lol!!(joking)most guys only talk sports,girls & crap with their mates!!

Well, there are some guys that with have chat with you, but maybe not in video. The key is a member who will chat as long as it is not to busy for you and will go when you need to rest or go to video without saying rude words to you.

I love a good talk :) Especially when the host is naked :D

the 'only' way to go.

i'm interested in some nice talks but when i'm in com chat and host ask me why i'm here and i say only for chatting they stop talking :(

chat is free.....no dollars involved.

I would be interested except i'm not nice or interesting.Oh,and i can't remember the last time i had a thought,not to mention a nice,interesting one.The curse of being a mundane,boring,one dimensional....zzzzzzz

There is a place for these persons too - naive? maybe to some, but not to me- I still have faith.

I have seldom met a more intriguing or pleasant girl. Proud and intelligent and most lovely, as well. Talk to her in chat to see if her video will meet your needs. If you have an agreement there she will certainly be worth 6 stars, even though you can't give that many.

thank you it was my pleasure to talk to you :)

i like nice talks and long walks and just listening alot.
she is topless right :D

always try me

Sure there are lots of viewers who would love to talk to a pretty, foreign, educated girl. The problem is paying for the priveledge. Face it if it wasn't for getting paid 99% of the hosts would not want to spend a minute talking to a fat, bald middle aged man. I feel sorry for the nonadult hosts now. There job has got to be a lot tougher. Men now know there is no chance for nudity. In the past they would try to get a girl to strip and if she would not sometimes they would like the host anyway and chat. All that traffic is gone now. Good luck.

You're damn right 4sure. right now just twenty girls in non-adult. soon there will be none coz let's face it, what's the point??

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There will always be a core of true non-adults. There always has been and always will be.

Yes, It also has a strange odor, too. The doctor said it may just be because of the medication I'm taking. Nothing to worry about. I do need to buy a new keyboard because this one is starting to smell even though I wash each time? Thanks

You can a sexy body or a sexy mind..you can't have both....lol

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OK, I can have a sexy body or a sexy mind, I can't have both.

Make the trip or be here 5 years later kicking yourself for not.

Go for it...u got nothing to lose by tryin...good luck :)

meet her,u have nothing to loose
and if she is not there just enjoy the country

xoxo, may i have the pleasure of doing that for you? :-P I should imagine it's not very easy to do it yourself.
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AS

The chances of her being in love with you are almost zero. not zero but almost.
Just go and meet her. If she's a no-show then find another.
Go to a bar, plonk a bottle of champagne on your table and watch them flock to you.
Hopefully though she will show up and you'll have a great time.

Most girls here fool around with 3-5 viewers. You can't trust them. There are the ones that say "I love only you", but they say the same thing to the next guy. There are the ones that say: "I can't be your g/f, I have to meet you first". These are honest in what they say, but they are meeting 4 others. Many members' fantasy is to meet a nice young chick. Especially that most members here don't have an outside life and their only way to meet a nice chick is through here. I travel for business and I take the opportunity to meet hosts. I can say that I met with nice girls and had all sort of fun. Most of the hosts here have a real life and real bfs. They are just here for the money. Be careful, don't let your heart fall in love. Meeting these girls is fun for me as well as for the girls I met, but I can tell you that these girls are not marriage material. Think about it ;-)

Well said...

For those hosts that are honest and are courting more than one guy please allow me to observe that the guy that meets her first usually give the best shot with her. If you are vaguely attractive to her you have the best shot. I have seen it again and again. They almost always take the bird in the hand rather than wait for two or three in the bush.

"two or three in the bush" =))

are we talking gang bang here?

Sure, the girlz love it

if you are not having daily chats or frequent phone calls, there is no way she loves you. You are an ocassional customer and she will say whetever it takes to keep you coming back.

And yet again u guys are just lil angels, hosts do this and that, but u are always honest eh ?Think again...used to work in a studio a few years ago, a girl falled for a guy and supposed to meet him all excited about it as she appeared to be the love of his life and he travels just for her etc...just 2 days later she finds out his journey was going to be longer than he told her as he was planning to see two more hosts,so really what goes around comes around pretty much and there is not the case of judging all by one.

This is a fantasy/work site. Fantasy for the viewer and work for the host. Next case.

I've had strong feelings for a host on here. We met, got on really well. I thought it could be something lasting but as viewer9 and others have said, it's all just fantasy. A fantasy we pay for. I will only ever be another member to her and I will never believe a host that says anything different.

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Like, Oh my god!

Good words, i like them, hope you speak the truth

thats a sad story

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This has no importance.Internet or real life...
LOVE--its always hard labor and million problems....its only my thoughts

it seems you talk about me...all detailes are the same..If so than send CCmail to me and we can talk about meeting if we both completely want the same.
I am still have a daughter and no husband of bf :)

ask him all about his mom! :D

You're a professional. If you see this happening again and again then it is up to YOU to have conversation starters ready. Have some subjects that you have some knowledge of. Think of things that interest guys.

Or just Google "conversation starters" like I did:

* Has any book had a major impact on you?
* What was the best bargain you ever found?
* What’s the most annoying thing someone could do on a first date?
* What's the most unusual thing you know how to do?
* Is there anything you can’t say "no" to?
* What food could they not pay you enough to eat?
* Who are your cult heroes? Why?
* What was the craziest thing you ever did when you were a kid?
* If you could have any job in the world, what would it be?
* What would be the title of your biography?
* What's your favorite Dr. Seuss book?
* If you could live in any home on a television series, what would it be?
* What's the longest you've gone without sleep?
* What's your favorite Barry Manilow song?
* Who's your favorite Muppet?
* What's the habit you're proudest of breaking?
* What's your favorite Web site?
* What's your favorite school supply?
* Who's your favorite TV attorney?
* What was your most recent trip of more than 50 miles?
* What's the best bargain you've ever found at a garage sale or thrift store?
* Where were you on September 11, 2001?
* What's your favorite tree?
* What's the most interesting biography you've read?
* What do you order when you eat Chinese food?
* What's the best costume you've ever worn?
* What's your least favorite word?
* If you had to be named after one of the 50 states, which would it be?
* Who's your favorite Care Bear?
* Describe something that's happened to you for which you have no explanation.
* If you could travel anywhere in Africa, where would it be?
* What did you have for lunch yesterday?
* Where do you go for advice?
* Which do you use more often, the dictionary or the thesaurus?
* Have you ever been snorkeling? Scuba diving?
* Have you ever been stung by a bee?
* What's the sickest you've ever been?
* What's your favorite form of exercise?
* What's your favorite Cyndi Lauper song?
* What did you do for your 13th birthday?
* Are you afaid of heights?
* Have you ever taken dance lessons?
* What's your favorite newspaper?
* What's your favorite Broadway musical?
* What's the most memorable class you've ever taken?
* What's your favorite knock-knock joke?
* What's your favorite commercial?
* If you could go to Disney World with any celebrity alive today, who would it be?
* Do you prefer baths or showers?
* Does your chewing gum lose its flavor on the bedpost overnight?
* What's your favorite breakfast food?
* Who's your favarite game show host?
* If you could have a super power, what would it be?
* Do you like guacamole?
* Have you ever been in a food fight?
* Name five songs to which you know all the lyrics. (Better yet, sing them.)
* What's your favorite infomercial?
* What's the longest you've ever waited in line?
* What's on the cover of your address book or day planner?
* Have you ever taken a picture in one of those little booths?

my favorite muppet is Gonzo.
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If the guy isn't talking then why are you complaining. If he's in video you're making money and if he's in text I guess he isn't talking.

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Good work:)))

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there's a reason many guys visit sites like this....they lack the skills to get a real woman and it shows in their text chat capabilities

and i presume that these guys dont have real lives too huh.... lol
I wonder though whether it is upon oneself saying that or just generalisation... hmmm... considering porn sites are among the highest earning sites on the net, then "the-guys-with-no-interpersonal-skills-to-woo-real-life-girls" must be darn bountiful! LOL!!

Many of them don't speak English very well and are very shy about it.

Many of the VIEWERS don't speak English very well and are very shy about it.

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Thx for answering EroticOnCam

agree to a point, some things are unobtainable no matter how hard you try.

Thx for your answer realist

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Tony, I agree with "Realist" here. (Btw, we say in English, "When there's a will, there's a way." Or as some cynic said, "When there's a will, there are relations." lol!)

As pointed out, the thing one aims for has to be realistically obtainable. A one armed man will not be a concert pianist. A deaf-mute will not be an opera star. But withing the limits of possibility, yes the "will" (or resolve) is key.

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same here...!

Very true saying! :))

agree too totaly, though for some it is more easy than for others.

Thx all people who answered .

mb :)

allways

NO !!! We have obligation

Carrebean sorry :)

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i certainly should be more attentive while typing :) lol

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I prefer Johnny Depp:) Mmmmmm what a piece of flash yum yum:)

Hey again baby, still awaiting your phone call ;-)

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I liked the movie, though left it with the impression they were setting up for a 4th one.

After the end credits you see Elizabeth with Will's son :-))

i have seen it

Awful!! 1st was OK but the other 2 were a waste of time. PLEASE do not make a 4th!!

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Like Oh my god!

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Your post makes it sound as if many men complain abut the lighting or web cam. Sounds like you have a problem and don't want to fix it or is this just another way to stall?
"Oh, my cam is not good?, one moment I will fix it" (4th time today)

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"oh my cam is good, one moment while I fetch someone from the other side of town to fix it"

comes back..

"would you mind waiting a few minutes, I need to take a shit"...

etc. etc.

(ok, so I've never really heard the second one)

Some men here will still stay.

Errrr... if you don't undress why glamour category and not non-adult?

Better than that: why do you work in a porn site then?

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its exactly your kind of brains that make me lose interest. nothing worse than a dim bulb claiming brightness

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imao?

stop talking to that mirror,it wont answer you :--))

easy fix, get a new lighting system, laptop lights suck in pay-per-view anyways.
bad lighting = low quality viewing = less customers = less money

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OH MY GOD! YOU SAID "its dark for a sec " THAT DOESN'T SOUND PERFECT TO ME! WHEN PAYING BY THE MINUTE YOU NEED TO BE READY AT ALL TIMES! NO STALLING!

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neither will having proper lighting, one that won't make you blind and still keep the customer happy, da dalink?.
Toodles

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Why you dont answer in text chat? Why you say "Im New here" in your profile, but your pics are from November of 2006???

oh brother, more of "didn't answer me" or "why have the word new".
talk about obsessive compulsive

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And he asked why you dont answer in text chat? what about this problem? will u make it right too? =))

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"...eager to chat and share."...but not so eager if the guest has yet to open his wallet, huh?

that the charges do not begin until the video begins. remember men are like blondes, they are the smartest creatures.
as for your rambling on about not stripping because you have a brain and can keep a mans attention with your clothes on. i for one have have many very smart women that take thier clothes off, so i think that little and mindless comment is rude and insulting to all the adult(stripping) hosts.

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Look how many people understood your comment as u were abusing adult hosts! And u say u have brains? Then why the hell your brains were not enough to tell us what u really wanted to tell without abusing anyone here?

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Well said, Gort. Bravo.

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it's not your brains that are the problem.it is the majority of us males.with our short attention spans,one-track minds & inadequate social skills that have the problem.you just need to be patient,dealing with the majority of males is like training a puppy :--))

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Second "the only person that reacted normally" =))

:D

...as in Newman? :)

wow,that is a first for me.doing anything normally.i just got the impression you weren't belittling anyone just trying to get your view understood.thanks for the compliment.i'll take them whereever i can get them :--))

that has to be the most sexist thing i've ever heard in all my life:p

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and corr4ect is "correct"
if u want to correct someone be correct yourself =))

SecretCode sexist and sexiest are two different words.

Sexist means to say something that is negative (bad) against either all men or all women.

I think you already know what sexiest means :P

Let me know when you're next going out for a good drink and I will come along as I think you are a little bit crazy and I am sure it will be a night I will nevere forget :P

You also managed to annoy more hosts with one post than I have ever managed. So well done :D

INYF, crazy and interested have two different meanings, please be aware just in case :D

interesting* sorry :D

Nadeen just as well you are both :P

I know im crazy too :D ...but u didn't invite me to go out with u for a good drink :(

Nadeen the reason I didn't invite you is because I assumed you knew that you are the one girl on cc I would always go for a drink with :)

But if you noticed I said the next time SecretCode was going for a drink I could come along. So really it was her inviting me hint hint :D

ok INYF, don't forget to take an umbrella just in case if u go out :D ....does she know u are made out of plasticine and have a sugar cube for a nose? :D ...have fun =))

No I want to go with you now :(

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Nah, the 'e-rect' is sexiest! :)

yes it was sexist,i admit.then again,i do hate all males & mails :--))

Wow. This is one of the longest threads I've seen in quite some time where everyone is complaining about.... nothing. Must be the heat making everyone grumpy and over-reactive. Who wants ice cream?

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Wise words, indeed Hanny. My sympathies. Is there hope with your Husband?

oh sure wouldnt every man whos wife cheated on him let her stay , i meen she only did it that one time.

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Play with fire you get burnt dear.

"Hanny" was the cheater. Then both guys left her.

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the nice man on the interwebby MADE me fall in love with him! .. i couldn't resist! .. i had no choice!=))

You fell in love with the guy on the net and stayed with him while you were married. That's cheating.

no!!!! it not cheating. I live with my bf, but its really unforseen when you fall in love with a nice member. Dont get me wrong. I love both, my bf and my web bf. I dont know which I love more. My web bf dont know I have real bf and my real bf dont know I have web bf. I am happy with both men. Maybe someday I will decide for one... This happens, really. It happens against our will. It's the heart fall...

just like a guy for instance can't be blamed for banging his girl friend's best friend ... emotions take over, you know .. we can't be responsible for how we feel!
it's a simple fact that chicks can't be held responsible for falling for shmaltzy romantic crap lifted off a players' forum on the interenet just as much as guys can't be held responsible for innocently being caught up with their weiner's want to chase down every woman in a mini skirt ... no one's to blame! no one's responsible! :D

OK, you have a committed relationship with one guy and fall in love with another guy. Unless you quickly kick one or the other then you are cheating. If the second guy doesn't know about the first then you are cheating on both.

Sorry, it's a fact. If anyone, boy or girl, is having a romance with more than one person and all of them don't know completely about each other then it is cheeating.

Sorry you can't face the fact you are a cheater. The only way is to choose one and cut the other one off completely, even if he is a regular viewer. Block him.

I would say that sex has to be involved before you are cheating (I suppose that could mean she is cheating on her web bf).

So while I don't think it is cheating I'm sure if the other person found out it would still hurt the same.

How can you call her a cheater if everything is only chat and she is not even married yet? C'mon! You've got to be kidding me! Cheating is when you have sex with another man that is not your husband. It's not cheating if he's only a boyfriend. You owe loyalty only to a man you are married with. You men always see us as if we are an object that you own. We are not yours until we are officially married.

True if it was only chat , but she clearly said it the original post that she was in love with both and carrying on to the maximum possible with both. Ergo, cheating.

If your husband was always on the phone with another girl saying he loved here and they were having regular dates... If they spent all sorts of fun time together and did everything except penis into vagina it's ok in your mind?

Bill Clinton-types would love to have you as a wife/girlfriend ("I did not have sex with that woman").

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Why do people who have no respect for marriage get married?

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Marriage vows are all about promising to be forever faithful and loving, right?
If those vows and the commitment they involve don't mean anything to a person, why does he/she get married in the first place?

Because people and situations change. When most people make their marriage vows they truly believe they will be together forever but just as we can't make ourselves love someone we also can't stop ourselves from falling out of love with someone.

Interesting. Is it your opinion that people, generally, are incapable of honoring a lifelong vow? Do you think that perhaps most people would be better off not putting much trust in such things?

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Then you didn't figure me out. yet.

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...isn't it a point of taking the 'vows'...to keep your partner for a lifetime and share all in life, good & bad? 'Vows' make the joining of the pair 'legal' in the courts eye...legal for what? Legal until either of the couple wants more from their partner or more from someone else? In todays' world everyone does whatever they please...so what is the point of taking 'vows'??? We all find another partner...and another.
Total love and emotional commitment for partners no longer exists for each other.

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If you are hanging around guys who don't believe in the vows then you are hanging around the wrong guys. Sorry to hear that.

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A strong warm hug to you and trying nothing else.

Thankfully times have changed and people no longer stay with their marital partner just because society expects them to.

What is the divorce rate ? 33% ?

What percentage of the remaining 66% has one or both of the partners cheated on the other ?

So it's maybe at best 50 : 50.

wow INYF all that beer has made you wise :--))

yes, why beer has no such an effect on all the rest? :(

not sure about the rest but with me even the lobotomy didn't help.giess it's because i had a personality & charisma bypass.beer just makes me even less attractive,even to me :--))

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why do so many people define love in such selfish terms? and why do so many people think it's someone else's responsibility to make them happy?
and jesus, you can't honestly believe that people can't control themselves. people feel emotions, sure, but people usually check themselves before acting on those emotioins to make certain those actions won't cause harm to themselves or others.... living life without care for the ramifications of your actions is the height of irresponsibility. it's nothing but damn selfishness.

Jesus, God! Are you a simple-minded animal at the mercy of your instincts/emotions? There is a very hot young girl who lives next door to me that I see several times a week. She smiles and always says hi whereever she sees me. She asked me a couple times to buy some beer for her, but I said no.

My instinct is to engage her in a coversation, offer her a couple beers and jump her bones. Isn't it amazing I can resist the temptation? Even if I'm virtually positive she'd go along with it? Amazing, aren't I?

"i am virtually positive...".that is the crux of it :--))

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If there is anything you would change , what would it be ? Why did you not tell the guy for example you was married ?

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They say man take long to mature, but women never learn. First of all this is a fantasy and there is no assurance that everything or anything said in chat is serious by either party. Second, you were married. It's ok if you wanted to stop and look at the menu, but did you ever think of your kids? I meant you had a family that apparently you were willing to throw away just becuase lust with a perfect stranger? Sure you chatted with this stranger everyday, but how did you know he was better than your husband and kids? I don't think you even love your kids. Did you ever stopped to think that this other man would never live in your country? What would had happened to your kids? Jeez!

Unfortunately you are not the 1st woman in the world that committed this mistake and I am 100% sure that you will not be the last either. My ex-wife committed this mistake and I never forgave her. We also had a family and we never had a fight, not even a quarreled over nothing. She decided to mess around with a young gym trainer. She said she only wanted his body and wanted just 1 night with him. She said it was only lust. What if it would had been me who cheated? Ha! Anyways, divorce was inevitable... Later I fell in love with a girl here in CC. Two years of love, romance, and chatting everyday and met 3 times. She said she waiting to finish her university, but not true. She was messing around with another viewer guy who happened to be married. She wanted to be back to me, since no sex was involved I decided to take her back. 3 months later she started to be in free private video for 2 hours every other day. She told me it was a member who spends very much money on her and she was giving him a bonus. Yes, yes, I was born yesterday. Women are always proving themselves smarter than men. It's not right, we are all smart and cheating its not nice and not worth doing it.... I just hope you get your "real" life back together again. Your husband should understand you never had sex with this clown. Please never again let your head and senses fly over some fantasy. It's good to fantasize sometimes, but leave it in chat.

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you obviously think you're wise, but you made some statements that are not only hazarduous, but show only your lack of unsderstanding of the human soul, and a rigid and egotic way of seeing relationships and people. You called her online bf a "clown"! And that she doesn't love her kids and that she felt only lust for her online bf.
How on earth do you know these people so well that you alow yourself to say such things abut them?? You are just rude and not wise, sorry to tell you that.. And your problem seems to be the fact that you had problems in your marriage. I won't comment your wife's attitude (sorry for this public discussion, but you brought your inner problems here), but you are telling us you were so offended that your wife had an affair with another man that you weren't able to forgive her, when she returned to you (because she loved you, I preesume). So she came to you and wanted to be with you, but you rejected her - for me that means you didn't love her. Your pride was so much bigger than your love, that you never forgave her, as you told us, and I feel you are not going even to think about that... your mind is set... lol... where is the love for your wife here? You seem just an unhappy man who is so because he cannot love.
And you consider yourself such a good and desirable man... since you use the expression "messing around" when you talked about the relationships of your ex-wife and ex-gf with another men, you are the center of the world and other relationships and persons are way worse than yours... Then you say about your online gf: "since no sex was involved, I decided to take her back" :) as if she was some kind of a humble creature and you, the Master of good and wisdom :):)
It is so funny how much ego and how less love you can be capable of...
I'm not a native English speaker, so excuse my English.

Peace

wow.your english is very good & you expressed your point of view superbly. :--))

You have to act responsibly and mature when you have a family that you supposedly love. Do you know how many young and good looking women are married and have a wonderful family? Some of these women are professionals and work outside their house and meet nice looking men everyday at work. They work day to day with nice men, but some are responsible and won't mess around with another man just becuase he is cute and see him everyday. I called the member a clown becuase he now doesn't want to talk back to Hanny. He is playing hurt and he is not the one losing in the game, Its Hanny.
It's a rule. If you forgive a woman for having sex with another man and you know then she'd do it again. It becomes a challenge for women. My best friend forgave his wife for messing around with her ex-boss and years later she was doing the same with another man. There are many responsible women, but the majority are the worse.

hmmm seems from your respomse there is some truth in chathost's view,in my opinion.again you are very forthright about the women's responsibilities but no mention of your behaviour :--))

sounds to me like you made the second biggest mistake in life, the 1st being never mix beer with wiskey, the second and lesser known is...NEVER mix fantasy with reality.

did she(you) tell your husband or did he find out?

Let him fuck your best friend and even the score :)

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if you are working at home and he is able to see all and you are ''acting'' to the member. then your husband is an ass. if you are not acting and really feel for a viewer that must suck to be you.

My sincere condolences . As secretcode with wise words says ...it is weird who has not been cheated here . I am nobody to give you an advice , but if your husband liked the money that you were getting here , well , he should know who plays with fire can be burnt.

We see many posts about host with bfs or husbands getting jelous about doing this kind of work. It's not an easy job to do when you have someone sitting at home knowing what goes on here.
Was this a cyber-affair or did you meet the guy for real?

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babe, i live with bf of 3 yrs
i fall in love with a beautiful young viewer from usa and he began to txt me every time. i dont tell my viewers i have bf and live with him, but my bf soon knew and i almost lost him. i learned my lesson. men will know when u fall in love with a viewer. believe me, be carful.

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Hey... it's a fantasy site here... no place for feelings !!! ... no ???

Seriously, now : I don't know if your story is true, ... but often, such story happend to a viewer, married, with children, who fall in love with a host... and who finally lose wife and web GF... :(((

I realise that not only man have a lack of maturity in those sites ... but such drama can also happend to hosts :(((

So, one advice to all of you : if you are not ready to lose your wife or husband or BF/GF... to have an hypothetical new life with a host or a viewer ...don't fall in love...!!! :))))))))) ... and don't visit those sites :))))))))
... or at least, visit them as an entertainment sites... not as a wedding agency or as a meeting site :)))))))

I think many people don't understand what love is, and that we cannot chose , buy, influence or stop it. If we can do that, then there is no love anymore. You cannot command to love. You just fall in love. I ask you, men, did you never felt that you could love two women in the same time? Of course, each love is different. And time is limited. But our hearts are not, they can love many people. To vow that you will certainly love only a certain human being for 50 years from now, seems to me just a nice idea, an uthopy. People change, get to know better, and are put in front of different situations and people everyday. Life is fluid. We change a lot, and all the epople around us also. That makes strict vows to be just words, or even chains for who take them seriously and chose to kill love in themselves at a certain point if it appears. We have to grow up and accept that we have to stop a little and try to feel what do we realy feel and want at a certain point in life, and if we strongly feel that we want to change our life, then we should do that, there are so many unhappy people, and so many that are living in "hells" because they don't have enough courage to change something. Having children is not an excuse to live a miserable life nor to suffer near a man who changed and you can't stand anymore. Of course, this is not the case of the host that posted the first message, but I feel too many people consider vows above human life. We realy can love more than one people and if that happens, then it's a fact and we shouldn't kill love for one or the other, but just love both of them, as many people do...

mm, I was talking about love, not about fucking :)

You can feel something without acting on it. Don't be a mindless animal.

I know guys who are very capable of influencing "love" -- Insofar as "love" is that feeling cajoled and manipulated out of a woman to be able to get her into bed, anyway. If you think that there aren't people out there that can and do play with others' emotions for their own benefit, I'm afraid that you're mistaken.

If you define love soley as how someone else makes you feel, and if you subjugate responsibility for all you might do because of that feeling, you're setting yourself up to be taken advantage of and to be hurt. And if your chasing "love" causes you to betray a promise to someone else that you "love", you can't blame that same someone else for feeling hurt from what you've done.

I've been several times through this situation, when my former bf was attracted to other women, and even made love to them. That caused me every time such a pain, I felt not beautiful enough, not woman enough, I felt to withdraw from the relationship if I wasn't able to fulfil him on every level. That was because I wanted to be everything for him. But I never accused him for that, I thought every time: who am I to order him what to feel? One cannot order or impose to another person what to feel. My bf acted very sweet to me, he doubled his efforts to make me feel loved then.
But what shocked me was that every time that he was attracted to another woman (there were 3-4 times) , and I accepted the situation in my heart, thinking that I don't own him and his soul, that situation dissapeared almost instantly, as if those were only tests for me. I don't know how many of you believe in spiritual evolution (I do) , but I realy passed (to my great surprise) those humbleness and tolerance tests, and after a while I've met the great love of my life, and I moved to another town to be with him. Now I'm living for quite some time in the sublime love that I only dreamed of all my life.
I asked myself: what if he would be attracted to another woman etc etc? And I can answer just this: I love him, I feel a privilege to be with him, I may feel very sad if such a thing would happen, but this love have strenghtened me and cured a lot of wounds in my soul. I don't think I own him nor his soul. If somebody realy fells in love with another person, then that person must have some real qualities, although we wouldn't feel so happy to see or recognise that.
For my former bf I feel the same friendship, I feel him like a brother or like a child to me, but the erotical part paled almost completely although he feels the same complete love for me. We are friends and see and help each other from time to time.
...a rather long post, sorry for taking your time, I just felt that my point of view and feelings could be somehow interesting :)

wow
thank you

loved your words :-)

...such post are never too long...:))
...very interesting... and so true... :))
...you must be a great host to talk with... ;)
...it's refreshing to talk about "love" this way ...on this site... ;)
...congratulations... :))