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Thank you Kerry. May your St. Paddy's Day be filled with peace, prosperity, and plenty. May it be happy, may it be full. And may love shine on all you do.

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Forgot to mention she is in Glamour category

Her whole profile looks perfect for all the guys who have been posting here saying a host should say clearly what she is willing to do in video.

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she looks hot enough, and sometimes I like the girls in that catagory because you don't know for sure. Kind of like going to a new asian massage place. You hope, but you don't know. It is just a little more fun when you don't know for sure, at least until you pay

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You will need a pen tablet for that sort of drawing, if you do not have one,you're much better off using Adobe Illustrator instead of Photoshop, which means you'll be working with vectors to create shapes, then use Photoshop for coloring and other graphics.
After you're done drawing all of your frames and whatnot... how familiar are you with Adobe AfterEffects?
My personal software of choice for what you're after, would be 3ds Max though. Quite easy to use for 2D cartooning and such.

For someone just starting out, how well do you think experimenting with certain Free/Open Source options might work out?
For instance, are programs such as GIMP, Blender, and Synfig any more difficult to learn and use than their commercial equivalents?

While I never used them, the basic principles are quite similar, I think the biggest difference between free open source software and license programs is mainly in the software coding and size, and the advantages of proprietary software are mostly technical, i.e. tech support, regular updates, very user friendly formats.
With that in mind, a beginner, someone who's just experimenting, can learn the basics of, say, 3D rendering in Blender, and switch to 3dsMax, Maya or something else later on. The learning difficulty of open source vs commercial is rather similar, and once you can harness one software, getting accustomed with others from its category becomes quite easy.

Well if he suggests counseling then I think that is hopeful. In the end it is your life, and your decision; I for one do not believe someone out there has a plan for us, but that we create our own destiny. I wish you the best.

He is alcoholic problem?

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Yeah, that struck me as a pretty fucked up way to describe a relationship also.
I think counseling, whether as a couple or individually, would be good for both.

There are so man good guys out there that WON'T hit you. Why stay with him because he MIGHT change and quit hitting you? Cut loose, the sooner, the better, and get over him. Maybe if he changes he can keep the next girl, but i've already lost respect for him and i'm aghast that you haven't

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Hit me once-shame on u, hit me twice-shame on me

I know why u say u love him..the edge that turns him into a woman beater makes him the man he is. However u run the risk of getting seriously hurt and if u have kids with this man he may hit them too. U need to take him to a counsellor for your own welfare. If he refuses help u have to consider the whole relationship. He may be looking for help or he may just be a violent man. Take care.

as i said before, you both are in some ways addicted to that kind of violence. take your own therapy, and find out, why, and if you need it

I use to be with abusers...seems i always use to pick abusers for some reason..at first they were nice and all was good ....but then they changed..they would do it once and then say sorry and that it would not happen again..but it did happen again..and they would say sorry each time..then they would say it was my fault ...and then i would think it was my fault...if only I had not done ......well it does not stop...no matter how much counseling no matter how much u try to fix it...they do not stop ...i have experienced all types of abuse...physical..emotional..mental...verbal...all of it..the abuser does not stop...i finally got the gutts to leave each time...then found one who did not hit me ....u can keep with ur abuser thinking he will change...but he wont...he might stop for a while...but it will happen again...

My dear host...i know u want it to work and change..but he will do it again...it is up to u if u will stay or not and if u will allow it...please do not allow it to happen again...but if u do stay and it does happen again...will u then say it is ur fault again...and how many times will u allow it?

to those who do not understand why we would stay..there are many reasons...we love the person and we do want to believe it will stop....and then after a bit we get scared ....we also think that we do not deserve any one better...we think that it is our fault....'No one knows exactly what they will do until they are in that situation...everyone will say they know what they will do.. but like any situation until u are actually in it...no u do not know ....

Good luck to you same host...please be very careful...and remember no matter what u say or do...it is not ur fault ....no many should hit a woman no matter what...he should have the balls to walk away and calm down then come back and talk..but never hit....

While I am no professional and can only give my personal opinion I have to say that I find your posts a bit disturbing. It sounds to me like you are trying to find someone else to help justify both of your behaviors in this situation (his abuse and your making excuses for it) by saying that they "got better".

There is NO justification for abuse. Period.

If he truly cared and believed that his behavior was wrong he would not "offer" to get help. He would get it. I urge you to seek professional help with this before it gets even worse. I doubt a few random opinions posted on an internet forum will fully resolve this for you. I truly wish you the best of luck whatever you decide.

It is NEVER your fault; stop saying that and stop letting him say that. NOTHING you can say or do makes you deserve to be physically abused. If he gets so angry with you that he can't stand you, he should leave, period.

You say he has a problem with you working here. Many men don't like their women to make more money than they do and hitting you is a way for him to assert his "superiority" over you.

Ask yourself if you really want a long term relationship and a family with such a man. Would you trust him around your children? If he can hit you while saying he loves you, what's to stop him from hitting them? And, of course, it would be THEIR fault for making noise or getting bad grades in school etc, etc.

I think you posted here because you need to hear someone tell you that he can change. The answer is, yes, he can. But I doubt he wants to, or he would seek help, not just talk about seeking help. And why should he make the effort to change, anyway? You're staying with him, finding him excuses and constantly apologizing for who you are and what you do.

Do you feel you deserve love and respect or abuse? There are plenty of men out there who will love and appreciate you (the real YOU, not a mask), but if you're staying in this relationship you will never meet them. Is it really worth it, for a man you've been dating for only a few months?

Well there is my book "Are Men Really Necessary?"

While calling him "THE PERFECT MAN", all other flaws (his as well as your entire relationship's) are canceled.
He is the perfect man for you, because you subconsciously feel you deserve such treatment. You only make claims of knowing how wrong it is, because consciously, you do agree to the negative feedback you receive. You were in fact hoping you will hear similar stories, with a happy ending. There is a good reason why you haven't, and you won't in the future.
He is not the only one who needs therapy, you do too, and the sooner you will make that step, the better.

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It doesn't get better only worse with time....statistics don't lie. I didn't understand the cycle until I went to domestic abuse counseling and could see the profile that fit so perfectly to what I was dealing with. Your situation isn't unique at all regardless of the income bracket. I happened to be very well off and so was he. It wasn't until I went into hiding (the separation or abandonment is how he sees it and is the worst part and there is generally violence then) and spoke to his ex-girlfriend that I could understand it was never going to change. Most will never go to counseling but will promise it and the world if you give them another chance. The sooner you leave him (safely) the sooner you will be able to get over it and find a healthy relationship. As long as you stay...you are giving him the white flag to continue his behavior which is out of control. It doesn't matter how nice he is or what he promises or how much he loves you....most never change. I feel lucky that I am not one that lost my life like so many women do. Get professional counseling specifically about abusive men and you will learn a lot! I personally think they should have a caution sign imprinted on their foreheads because it takes a long time to see it's true colors....usually after you have fallin in love. They never consider themselves abusive and always hope that the right woman will stop it from happening again. Low self esteem and insecurity is a common trait. Good Luck!

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no it is not silly to hope that a person will change...there are aspects of a person that one can and do change...however an abuser...rarely changes, especially when he is forgiven, allowed to continue the abuse and excuses are made for why it is not the abuser's fault...to those who have not been abused it is not really fair to be so harsh to someone who is in that situation...

It is a known fact that none of us know exactly what we will do in any situation until we are in that person shoes...we can all guess and assume what we will do..but until we are actually in that situation we do not really know for certain what we will do..I use to say what I would do until I was in such a situation, then it was a whole new ball game until one day I told myself no more, but it was not an easy thing to do. So do not judge a person on what they do until you have walked in their shoes.

used to play it a few yrs ago but lost interest when they did an "update" and never went back

National Hunt Steeple Chase - Harry The Viking or Alfie Spinner
Queen Mother Champion Chase - Finians Rainbow or Big Zeb (tho i'm sure the fav will be last years winner Sizing Europe who will also have a great chance)
Cheltenham Gold Cup - easy really Kauto Star for sure...possible place bet could be Synchronised
Grand Annual Chase - I'msingingtheblues or Oiseau De Nuit
good luck dude

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what huh? the dude asked a question...i answered...how difficult is that to comprehend?

Thats almost £20k on a £10 accumulator, or more realistic up to £3500 on £11 yankee bet.
If these come in, I'm going to be able to afford a couple of minutes on here, cheers mate

go for a lucky 15 or 31, and if enough maybe a 63 (cant remember howw many u need on that) hope it works out,let me know at the end of the week :)

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horse racing ...i think

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i like horse too....tastes very nice...specially in a stew with potato

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a cannibal is one who eats his own kind. you calling imshy a horse's ...?

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you do know a stud is a male horse used for breeding purposes? LOL

and yes, you can eat horse meat. I've eaten it. Not knowingly, however, found out after I ate it what kind of meat it was

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Actually a male horse used for breeding is a "stallion". A "stud" is the breeding establishment. A "stud-horse" can also be used as a term for a stallion, but not "stud" in isolation.

most race horses have better lives then most humans on earth .

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there's something symbolically brilliant about male sports fans willingly neutering themselves.

haha.. then i guess.. here are lots of handsome..mmmmmmmm :p

you want handsome? look no further ;-)

omg
good one=))))))))

does it mean, when a girl tells a man, "you are handsome", she does not want him, but she wants him to masturbate????? :):)

I'd start too!:)

she's annoying as hell and rambles like a broken record

I still try to accept as normal that some people yell/argue/speak at the camera about all kind of bullsh*ts , AND record them self AND make ,well....their personal opinions, public afterwards.
I do my best ,I really do...but no positive results yet....

Cause she makes bucket loads money doing that... she gets paid per hit.. she gets millions hits per video..

sometimes shes hilarious..others not so..

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good question. I was wondering the same thing.

As others have written, it is a little unclear if you want help with interpreting the questions themselves; suggestions as to how they might potentially be answered; or fully drafted answers to relieve you of the task. Drop me a CC mail to clarify what assistance you are seeking and I will be happy to oblige.

I think you shoud be doing your own homework, in the end you will learn more!!!

The majority of the questions seem to relate to communication, that is asking the client the correct questions.

example

"1. Describe how to use consultation techniques to identify treatment objectives."

When u consult with the client, u ask them questions & if u ask the correct questions u will be able to provide the client with the correct treatment or therapy.

Most of the questions (not all) relate to the c word ie communication.

If u 'consult' with a client u are in fact communicating with them

or maybe I'm being a tad simple

have a nice day

Use your screen name...if you are hot enough I am sure your CC mailbox will fill up with answers...just pick the ones you think are the best.

good answer. I can help you with all the questions, but u must ccmail me

You seem to be rather clever, when I read your post it sounds like you are asking someone to do your homework for you. lool

I might be out in left field as I am going by family who are in different areas of this field as well as my experience in different businesses from legal to problem solving to accounting to sales and customer relations. But I will try to help.

1. consultation techniques is when you find out what the problem is and what parts of the body are being affected and how.

- As well as finding out if they have seen medical help or not and what the outcome of that was.
- Finding out what the person's abilities were before the problem.
- If an injury then how they injured themselves and how long the it has been going on and what treatment is best.

bottom line is find out as much about what is wrong and why they are there to see you so that you will know how to help them and then tell them before hand.

2. Talk to the person, ask what is wrong and what they are wanting as a result, in other words again ask as much of what the problem is as possible and how it affects the person and their life.

3. Personal space is something that means something different to everyone, usually it means what the person is comfortable with when it comes the walls and protections that they have around themselves. Some people dont like certain parts of their body touched, some are not good with when you are too close to them. So you have to be careful until the person is comfortable enough and trusting enough for you to step over thier boundary line. So is good to talk to them and let them know what the best course of action is and how it will be carried out.

4. Client confidentiality is self explanatory, You do not talk of the client to anyone, you do not gossip about them. You do not even tell anyone that a person is a client and you do not give out any information about a client to anyone unless you have written permission from the client or unless the client has asked you to talk of them and why they are there to see you and again written permission must be given to cover your ass from being sued.

5. If you can not talk to someone about what is needed then you can not help them nor can you get the proper supplies that are needed to treat or help the person. It is how you communicate with the person, the things you ask them and how you ask them. A person can ask the same type of question in many different ways and get a different response to each way that you ask the same question. It is finding what is needed for what you are doing.

6. Simply put it is what the client thought of the services you provided as well as giving feedback on how the services could have been better or more helpful.

7. A client complains then you have to know who the best person to help them with their complaint is depending on what their compliant is.

examples:

- receptionist was rude and insulted you, then if the receptionist does not care then you might not get your complaint dealt with if you complain to the receptionist but might get your complaint dealt with by talking to the receptionists employer.

- the therapist was not dealing with the right spot that is being affected, in that instance you can tell the therapist that is not where the problem is, if she ignores you and does not listen then you ask to speak to someone else who is going to listen and help you the way that is needed.

- if a client is over billed for a service or billed for a service they did not get, then you have to know who did up the bill in order to know who to direct the complain to.

- if a client is a difficult one and is just being picky then you would not have another person who is short tempered deal with that client, as that would just creat a war, instead you would have someone who is calm, good with difficult people, understands the problem and is able to help the client so that that client is happy.

- if a person comes in for say a nail treatment you would not put her with someone who deals in hair.

Bottom line find out what the complaint is and then know who is best suited to resolve the complaint.

Bottom line for communcation is find out what is wanted and the best way to help the person, as well as what will be needed to help the person.

I hope this helps you in some way. Take care and good luck with this assignment and the rest of your course.

In my opinion, not while he is in the relationship, because he doesn't have sufficient motivation to change his behavior.

As with addictions, one has to feel the repercussions of one's violent behavior; frequently that means hitting rock bottom (ruined relationships, injury to one's self or others, or jail, or all of that). I don't think just being self-aware is enough to stop the acting out.

For your sake, and maybe for his, you should get out. That's just my two cents, but I hope you come through this okay.

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I wish you the best and hope you work out of your situation. Believe or not statistics in the USA show women initiate the majority of domestic violence. And no I've never hit my wife nor she me and neither of us has ever hit any of the kids.

I would suggest you seek out professionals who deal with this on a daily basis. And again best of luck.

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Generally no. He was either abused as a child, or grew up in a violent home, or has alcohol or drug issues more than likely. If it was one time and one time only and his remorse is real then maybe. Repetitive behavior is hard to change. Run while you can. Plenty of good men out there who would kill themselves before they would hit a woman, child or animal.

By himself - definitely not. With the help of a therapist - maybe. But even if therapy can help him get to the root of his problem, there's no guarantee he won't hit you again. In fact, therapy gives the best results when started as soon as the warning signs of a potential violent act were acknowledged, but that is not your case. In your case, the best thing to do is leave him. The second best thing, is for you both to get into therapy, not just him.

I hope he'd change with a help of therapy.
I've never been hit apart from once slapped by my Dad when I was a naughty child. I don't think I can put myself into a situation where I may be hit or hit my husband. I can remember 2 heated arguments for 7 years of marriage where I'd shout my lungs out and he'd slam a few doors but that's about it. No matter how much I hate him at that moment deep down we love each other very much and would never hurt on purpose.
Most things are not worth arguing about and you can try and calm the situation when you see he's heating up. If I was you I'd probably run away instead of trying to save the relationship, it all depends what you've got together really!

At the risk of "consulting" I would suggest not relying solely on what people post here You don't know their background or their experience, or whether their advice is sound or mistaken. Your best bet is to seek out a professional who is trained in these sorts of matters.

Abusive behavior generally does not improve on its own. And the more established it becomes, the more difficult it is to overcome. Change is difficult, and in some cases extremely so. Established patterns of abuse will most likely require professional help to change.

If you feel that your physical or emotional health is at stake (or that of your children) do not hesitate but go to a place of safety before further hurt takes place. Here in USA (I don’t know about other countries) there are safe-houses for victims of domestic abuse and violence. These safe-houses provide privacy and protection for the person seeking refuge, and their locations are kept secret so that the abuser cannot find her (or him).

Under no circumstances should ANY man hit a woman.....yes arguments get heated, yes she may hit you.....but to hit back...OMG that is totally lacking respect for women...for you and for sanctity of a relationship and love. Yes people get frustrated in an argument and yes voices get raised, doors get slammed, things might be said ....but to hit a woman shows no respect at all. Men ARE stronger physically....i have been in an argument where my partner has hit me across the face or on the chest out of sheer frustration ...because I have offended her .....yes yes I'm a guy admitting i'm not perfect :)........but to return any hurt with violence hitting her is a thought that would NEVER ......EVER cross my mind......

Can it stop ......i think the comments here are correct ...its about a mindset that will probably never change...it might stop for a while ...but in the back of your mind will always be will he do it again.....and what happens when there are children involved in your relationship in the future......where would he draw the line ......

if he has so little respect for you ...why are you with him....

NOT MATTER WHO IS TO BLAME OR HOW MUCH IT HURTS A MAN SHOULD NEVER EVER RAISE HIS HAND AS A RESPONSE TO A WOMAN

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Yes men can change....but only for the worse.

If I was a woman and a man hit me, I would not only stay away from permanently...I would also go to the police. ...I would tell his family, his friends, his coworkers. anything I had to do to embarrass him and keep him away from me.

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Sorry girl, you can hope he'll change all you want to but the simple fact is that no person right in their head no matter how angry or provoked would ever hit someone they love. And on the same note, no woman who respects herself would ever put up with that sort of crap from anyone.
Like Mel said, it's one thing to argue like two savage monkeys and kick a wall or slam a door once in a blue moon and entirely different to be somebody's personal boxing bag.
I seriously don't know why so many women in your situation need to ponder whether or not he'd change with therapy and whatnot or make excuses for such animals, just get out of there and have a normal life for christ's sake

"The heart has its reasons of which reason knows nothing."

It is so not helpful to be judgmental in these instances, which is a good reason "just a host" should consult someone professionally equipped to deal with her (and his) issues..

I wasn't judgemental at all and I don't think the heart has anything to do with this. Yes, you can love a prick against your better judgement but that doesn't mean you should take a beating for it. Domestic violence isn't taboo anymore like it used to be 40-50 years ago and every woman knows it's not alright to be hit yet so many put up with it instead of getting themselves out of that situation immediatelly they hang around blaming themselves for it and come up with one excuse after another for the asshole.

"...no woman who respects herself would ever put up with that sort of crap from anyone..." That's not judgmental?

One can come up with all kinds of justifications to stay in a bad situation, even, "I don't deserve any better." Helping someone to see that takes some skill. Hey, I'm as repulsed as anyone by domestic abuse... I have no sympathy for the abuser... but if it were an easy issue to solve we wouldn't see so much of it.

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While your point of view might indeed sound offensive to some, it is also true. Many women feel they actually deserved the "correction". There are many shapes and forms in which their acceptance of physical violence manifests itself, which was my first thought when i read the " he says i provoke him and i have a nasty mouth" part.
While that's his excuse for hitting her, it's also her excuse to sticking with him, which she will hopefully change, and leave him before he does it again.

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good answer, i agree
addiction and co-addiction, both need help

my advice for you:
- run, as fast as possible, leave him
- then, 2nd step, very important, take a therapist or counseller who helps you to find out, why you got stuck such long in an abusive situation!
There is no excuse for violence, and he is still in denying, as long, as he is trying to make you guilty for his behaviour.
If you need help by running, Almost all civilized countries have women shelters for this situation, still Russia, Romania and Ukraina.

NO

I am 41years old. In my line of work, I have seen this type of thing way too many times. There is only one answer to this question. It is "no". A man who hits his woman, is not a man. And he will keep doing it. He might stop for a while if he truly believes you might leave him, but the simple fact he is capable of doing it in the first place just means he will do it again. No matter what all of these people that took a year or two of some sort of counsuling in college say, he will do it again. All I can say is, don't give him a chance to prove me right

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how many fetish and dungeon videos have you been in to say this?

I disagree. Hardcore does not simply equal nudity. The themes of the sessions of all genuine fetish and dungeon hosts count as hardcore to me. The serious hosts normally make it clear in their profile what they do and do not do/show in video and welcome the member telling them what his interests are in advance. As long as he does not take too much time over it. Unfortunately there are hosts who think that all they need to work in these categories is a leather or pvc outfit.

"Hardcore does not simply equal nudity." I never said it did. I have seen hardcore in LS and Glamour, rare but it happens. No doubt there is hardcore in Fetish and Dungeon, but nudity is not required. Email cc and verify. Why not just set them apart from all other categories?

It should be a stipulation by cc that the host must specify in their profile whether they do a nude or non-nude show.
I've spent $40 on a session in the past presuming the former when they didn't offer this. This should be changed.

Maybe you were unlucky. Hosts do not go on autopilot and do the same show for everybody. There are many factors that determine whether I'd go naked or not, am I in a chatty or playful mood, am I happy or annoyed, have I just logged on or already been online a good few hours, how much money I've made so far, am I watching something really interesting on the telly, is the guy demanding or goes with the flow, does he type pls after his requests, is he good looking, young and fit, etc, etc, etc

I think Phot's suggestion is a good one.

And I find myself having some issues with your reply. I would say that if a host is not willing or prepared to give the best show, she should not be online. Let her go offline, take a break, rest a bit, do what she is interested in doing, then come back online when she can give her attention to her job. "Am I watching something really interesting on the telly" is a case in point. I have no problem with you wanting to watch your TV show. But don't waste my money when I am paying for your time and attention.

If my employees were that way when they were working, they'd get a warning first, and if it happened again, they'd be looking for a new job.

Now i know that is only one small part of your reply, and overall I agree with your statement that "hosts do not go on autopilot" and that there are many factors which shape the way a show turns out. But watching TV just should not figure into the equation, in my opinion.

I think something like that would be a good idea for the fetish and dungeon hardcore categories.

If she is charging less than $20 a minute, and you spent $40 to find out you were not going to see any tits, that is on you.

Always read hosts' profiles...and if you can not get the answer of your questions there, then go to text chat before video to clarify what she is willing to do and what not...this is the best way to save money and leave every video with a big smile on your face!:)

I absolutely agree 110%. Read all profiles and ask questions in free chat and get specific answers to your questions.

you are totaly right, we need much more categories here, at least 15 or 20 more.
And then we will have more complaints like yours

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Female ejaculation (also known as gushing or squirting[1]) refers to the expulsion of noticeable amounts of clear fluid by human females from the paraurethral ducts through and around the urethra during or before an orgasm. The exact source and nature of the fluid continues to be a topic of debate among medical professionals and is related to doubts over the existence of the G-Spot.

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if thety have cream, I leave! yuck! but a few girls on CC squirt clear fluid, very hot! I think some fake it. some it is pee. but some seems to really squirt when their pussy tightens up. I love it!

what girls have got yellow cream with some green parts?

cream can come from her pussy if she is ovulating

Just keep on dreaming, these host has got one main thing on their minds and it's not about meeting in real so let's get that big ego out of your mind and have some fun and quit being so jealous of others here that are trying to have fun, one hint is some members here love to cut other people down behind there backs and sometimes in front of them in community room, all I can say is get a life and take a chill pill, your day will come when the focus is on you.

I really agree too with the old time member. It is just a opinion. Why the agressiveness and hateret here?

When I read your reply, I cannot help but wonder if you read the same post that I did?

You are so literal-minded. I've met both hosts and members. It's not such a big deal. You get chatting and discover you'd like to meet. I also recruited an agent for my business, a host who got me some valuable clients.

This site, like life in general, is mostly confined by the limits of imagination.

well, this is interested, just to put my two cents worth in this, about 5 years it happen, now got me thinking can it happen again.

I doubt it, you gotten older PP. Meeting in person in their country are you kidding, bring them here to our country.

I could easily write a book on my experiences and the closed minded naysayers would say it is all fiction so I will just say that I couldn't agree more.wirh "Open your mind".

I've thought for a while that one day I'd like to build a website (a very simple one, because I'm a computer retard) with all of the pictures from my various foreign adventures, several of which involve hosts, which I would share with others of my ilk. My only concern would be that a "defector" would post the link for hosts to see... and future adventures would be impaired (to some degree). But I may still do this... the world is such a huge, wonderful place... I'd love to find others interested in doing the same and sharing stories. For now, however, I remain... traveler.

Or, possibly, someone would decide to add a post stating that 'traveler' seems to post only at strategic times, stud muffin that he is, who 'traveled', met and banged half of the hosts on cc, and in addition, while at it, banged half the rest of the country, just to be nice to them..

Wow! I am impressed!

Half the hosts on cc? You're way off... only 5% are hot enough to be worth the effort. And even there I've barely made a even the tiniest dent in that population. Half of europe? Have you seen the average woman in europe (or anywhere else, for that matter)? Totally unbangable... there really aren't that many really hot women out there as a percentage of any population; they're actually quite rare.

So only 5% are hot enough for you? Then we non stud muffins can have the other 95%?

Absolutely. Have at it... plenty to go around... although being a "stud muffin" isn't generally required (depending on how you define the term)... but it's certainly helpful if you're not a complete fucktard.

My mistake - I should of course have known that only 5% of the hosts are qualified to be banged by you. Actually you should charge them for it.

"This site, like life in general, is mostly confined by the limits of imagination."

A person's free time and money in the bank matter most. Then there are many possible personal details like family maybe. And in my original post I did say a small group of members can do all you suggest, but that I think most are not able to for a variety of reasons. Not that they wouldn't want to.

dear old time member.
please read again carefully, and then start thinking:
"This site, like life in general, is mostly confined by the limits of imagination."
in your reply you just talked about your personal limits, mine are different, and I met hosts

of course meetings can and do happen, visa's and travelling to her country is not the only way to meet, it is often far easier to meet at a agreed holiday destination, after all who doesn't like holidays..?
money is not the only reason hosts work here, money is a way to make their life better or simply to survive depending on their circumstance. Some hosts also believe marrying a guy that has enough disposable to be able to spend it on cc is a possible way to better their life, assuming that he is polite, appears interested in her and doesn't only come to wank and leave, oh and isn't butt ugly.
sure it isn't as simple as that but that is the basics and this reply is too long already.
I'll leave you with this catch 22, although i don't set out to try and meet hosts (with one or two exceptions) i often find that by the time i could arrange a meeting with a host i have spent all my possible holiday money. :)

yeah a good place to meet guys. NOT

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going 10,000 km just to meet a girl is creepy. but if you are traveling through anyway, is it such a big deal to say to a girl you have known here for years,"hey, I will be in your city next month, let's meet for lunch in a public place"? it's harmless and maybe she can give you a local's insight to the city. at the very least - a hot local girl can tell you which clubs or bars to go to to meet other hot local girls.......
i have met a few times, it's always at least a nice time, and i have made some long time friends doing it.

10.000 km..wow, I don't know any Kamchatkan hosts.
I also think it would sound more creepy to state that 'by the way, super duper coincidentally - like one in a million chance, I will happen to find myself in your city-which-I-cant-possibly-begin-to-dream-about-pronouncing-the-name-of' next week!'

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sounds like you are describing your own activity

yeah i went in her pvt with other screen name and got her to strip 100% and then at that moment came in also with me own screen name and caught her stripping when she had told me she never did it!~!

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Yeah telling so much big lie as that host is very eeffed up.

Wow, such a nice guy. <sarcasm> Thanks for making the rest of us look bad.

Yeah liar hosts look very very bad.

yes, I had one who come in pvt after with other screen name and asked more, but after some more chat I understood is the same person, never said nothing to him as I didn't want to make it go

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No we don't all do that.

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perfect))

and probably the majority of viewers. If you are so jaded maybe you shouldn't be hosting?

Ok,I will give up hosting when you will give up giving consultations .About heart,soul,mind and ofc sex sites behaviorism :P

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Meriam-Webster lists the word flatulent as a synonym for the word bombastic.

Words are so much fun.

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Thanks, T, for taking the heat off of me LOL

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Well actually you see ,i will show you my degree in one year while you will show me the dictionary.And if a bad doctor is still better than anyone that reads just the dictionary....Is a battle i would win. Please research better because i have nothing personal against you,even you are exactly the type of person i speak about in my original post: feels the need to make a point and prove everyone how hard to be fooled it is.And as prove that i have nothing with you i will give you even a gift :I let you have the last word because clearly the post will become as long as it takes to bring you the last word .

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OMG big fuss over a word !!!!!!!! Google the word and see that '' behaviorism, is a theory of learning based upon the idea that all behaviors are acquired through conditioning.''
1- Is a theory indeed,
2- This kind of sites are oozing examples of conditioned behavior,so honestly I see no problem with the initial post.It makes perfect sense to me.

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Hey I never used the word behavior. However I did speak indirectly about certain "behaviors," denying that all members are guilty of them as Miss Psychology claims they are.

You'd think that someone with an "almost" psych degree would recognize that "all" and "always" never "always" apply to "all" situations. (Wow that was a mouthful! haha)

And to so assume is to stereotype people. The problem with stereotypes is that while they are often based to some degree on reality, there are always exceptions to the rule. Stereotypes usually say more about the people holding them, than they do about those they purport to describe. Hence, the reason I said Glam was jaded. People are just too diverse to be lumped all together under one heading. A good psychologist will tell you that while there may be trends in things people do, there are no 100 percents.

I doubt strongly that it is even a trend. Some, for sure, do as she suggested. Maybe even a lot. But certainly not all, and probably not even most."

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God woman you are acting just like in kindergarden!Now I'm really afraid you will hunt me down for disagreeing you.
Think out of the box,train your sarcasm and read again. Is like ''sites romanticism'' yeah that's right ,not ''sites romantic'' and other examples alike. Again,makes sense.Well only if you don't like topick up on people.
And ''Glam'' proved her point, ''LIG'' DO likes a lot to give consultations i see ,even if from a personal perspective wich happens this time to be wrong : actually psychology teach you to recognize and categorize stereotypes; then offer them established treatments or solutions at their problem.Thats why is science and not magic .
If we all are that unique

Wrong about what, John?

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wow! we all do that? you know the term over generalization? perfect example

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This is a fantasy site. If a member wants to pay for the fantasy of being a friend, lover, pet chipmunk to a host, whatever, this site will accommodate. Using a single screen name or many, as long as the member is paying why should a host care?

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Because they don't always pay when they are in friend mode,over time they converse like normal people without a monetary transaction taking place thats why.

My name is Alvin and I' m a chipmonk. Can I sing for you?

I think I'd rather you plyed your harmonica.

It is possible to make 'friends' on CC but it is something between the host and the client. I would not broadcast to the rest of CC that I had a girlfriend on CC because I know what the reaction would be. Maybe I am being cynical?

sounds like a scouting post to me :--)

"Well, I believe in the soul, the cock, the pussy, the small of a woman's back, the hanging curve ball, high fiber, good scotch, that the novels of Susan Sontag are self-indulgent, overrated crap. I believe Lee Harvey Oswald acted alone. I believe there ought to be a constitutional amendment outlawing Astroturf and the designated hitter. I believe in the sweet spot, soft-core pornography, opening your presents Christmas morning rather than Christmas Eve and I believe in long, slow, deep, soft, wet kisses that last three days." (so in other words just relax-have fun-love your neighbors and keep on smiling and oh yeah I believe my host friends should get naked, don't need to have another screen name-if I did it would be crash davis)

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ohhh poor lovely angels that never talk about sex just like being friends and talk about weather,fairy tales and NEVER BUT NEVER have crossed their minds to see u naked-how would they dare to????:)))damn....in what world are we all living...a world where we all play virgins and innocents???....i don't disagree that there are many members here that u can talk with for hours without doing any shows,slaves willing to pay just to see u laughing at them,friends that will NEVER EVER think or dare to ask to see u naked.....but then it's a fantasy site and i have doubts we all are innocent angels:)))
peace and and amazing weekend to everybody:)))....i'm going to my dreamland now:)))-my CC room:)))))))

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i did that few times when i was young&playful:)...but my main reason was, that i wanted to know how does these hosts behaves with "another" members (telling the same things, stories, about herself or not; getting naked or not; using toy or not, etc.)...Hope none of these hosts were recognizing me!:))

"but my main reason was, that i wanted to know how does these hosts behaves with "another" members (telling the same things, stories, about herself or not; getting naked or not; using toy or not, etc.)..."

Exactly! And if she got naked for some and not for others.

I believe i have some "friends" here without very much need for the quote marks and they have chosen to be cam girls but we both get more out of chatting. I cant think of any who are pretending to be "virgins" (more need for quote marks?) but we both SEEM to prefer chatting about real things as well as -sometimes- fantasies.
Some of these girls obviously do strip for others and some maybe are in Glamour and just dont. We sometimes allude to what they do with other guys - that's a natural topic.
Anyway, my point: all of these girls I think have indicated they prefer sometimes - a lot of the time - to chat rather than undress and "play" (quote marks) because IT'S LESS BORING than always doing the same sex. And I can quite believe that. Is that unusual or fake - do you really think?

You make a good point. But I'm sure you know everyone is different. And I have come across hosts in softcore that told me they do not strip, yet I have seen these same hosts strip using another screen name here or on another site with different rules.

I think if you put quote marks around "SEEM" and "fantasies" it would have had more effect. "LOL"

Sorry man, I was also a big fan. But last year November Alex only told me that "maybe" she might be back. But if I can help you can also try out Adayla:
Relax delightfully in her exciting room, she is a king-size teaser. She takes care even of your last drop, anxious not to miss it.

i know that things written here in our forums are practically meaningless but did you also try el and experience her special treatment in her less crowded exclusive room where you can 'reminisce' together about more encouraging and private things after some loosen up and chat if you know what i mean?

if not you should. she gets your attention in na then do not force anything. like on a date flirt make the little girl feel comfortable with you and be patient it will pay off if she needs the dollars.
with lustful el you must spend more regular dollars and time on her to let her pull you or you convince her exclusively to glamour. it is the best game but then finally you have her and you are one of the lucky few like me! if you like her cuteness and wit in na you will love her treatment 'to the last drop' glamour! and yes adayla can be very motivating in glamour and she is also great there to play and help you explode. she is worth your dollars and dollars talk.

so buy yourself something good and book and buy this cutie for a late secret profile session and get her password for even more.
'feel so good i feel so fine love that little lady!'
adayla you walk in beauty so if you are one of the lucky few i will cum back to you soon yum after finish!

you started it and now oh my god it reads like free sales promotion but intended just as a opinion of a john who tries to make the best experience and share for all of us here on great camcontacts. enjoy but also get some sleep and i hope this helps you.

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Ada but of course ;-)

and who is "el" ? need 4 letters to search

nvm. i read further and realized that "el" must be "adayla"

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Yes Adayla. I cannot agree to everything written here in the forum or in the chat about you. It seems there is always also a lot of bragging and some exaggeration.
I would never say that Adayla is 'horny' or always available 'for more'. She is just good smart company and gives counseling and advice like a friend. Only in her passworded profile she is good at pushing you to cum with what she tells you what she would like to do to you and what she likes. And she has a pretty face and does some teasing to help you out at the end of the always interesting chats about everything you want. But to buy this cute lady in her exclusive profile you must make her trust you and make her feel comfortable and pay her well to go that extra mile for you. Only then she can be your friend with benefits. Pay her well and keep it discreet. You should not exploit her like a prostitute.
Like many camgirls here Adayla needs the money that is why she is offering herself. So we should respect her will and keep her other profile exclusive to the regulars.
I hope I cleared some things for you sweetest Adayla and we had some good times having clean adult fun together. And I agree to let us keep it like that between us all and end it here.

no more pics ...bad sign.

Sorry mate. Tom is right. ohmygod22 Alex left and no pics usually means that she really left for good this time. No reason to be too disappointed because I can warmly recommend other of the girls I had like CuteStasie and Sellena69 with her juicy lips :=) Now `juicy lips´. We the guys also exchanged and CommChatted about Adayla and her special EL services. And yes the guys are right. But just ask and that naughty one is up for it all the time and definitely loves to watch men to the last drop. Play along, talk, joke and she picks you up in her nonadult profile and takes you to her adult EL profile. Make her smile, listen, and share her interests and pay her well that she feels comfortable and horny then this one really enjoys to watch you and push you to `cum for her´ :=D Just treat her well then Adayla is a always hungry professional for some extreme `flirting´, teasing, and more. So try this pretty face out and drop by for a load if you can get an open timeslut. They all are smart sexy with a cute mind like you want. I hope this info helped and enjoy the different easy going `ladies´ here. There are many girls offering themselves so you will never be bored on Camcontacts.

and mmm

thank you for listening, your a sweetheart-kisses and hugs

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have u thought that she can really be better than u(i don't think u should consider yourself equal to all the men or members from here) as long as u are intrigued by her attitude it means she has something u don't have....so u put her in the position of being better than u with this commnet.If are better than her then u will look forward into other girl whom will suit your needs and level....u will always attract what is on your taste and level and when the sea has so many fishes why to get stucked into a small lake...
my opinion only!!not talking in the name of other hosts or memebers from here...peace and good luck!!

I wouldn't worry about it too much, just move on there are alot more hosts, many who like members who make an effort to get to know them

What makes you think that some women here aren't truly superior in certain ways, to some men here (or anywhere)?
You are not being specific at all about what you do in your attempt to know her, if you're trolling her free chat for instance, it's her right to ignore you if you get too persistent.

The fact is that men tend to find utterly attractive a woman outside their league.Or a woman that(by various reasons) will never-ever be theirs.This contradiction they usually call love,they keep themselves busy by both wanking and drama...:O)

The very nature of the relationship between member and host depends on the member not being in the same league as the host.
Bottom line: you don't pay for what comes easily to you.

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Most often I prv women at site who I would never have any interest of in real life. Have no interest of yahoo or anything else here just want prv

thank you all for your input, I got over that one, I found a host that likes me the way I am, not to worry anymore, good advice here and I took it under consideration and now ok. (my luck has change)

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generally they are!

don't feel so bad (bad luck) there are a lot more here feel your pain and seen a lot go on here I wouldn't ever dream of happening here, I think we all need to get out more and date real women out there instead of this internet porn chat, anyway want to wish you good luck.

real women?! no way that might mean having a conversation & worse still talking about feelings.give me internet or inflatable women any day!

thanks!:)

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Thanks! :)

Happy Women's Day to all the sexy ladies here! :)

I'm guessing there is no International Men's Day.

Women are nice and all but I prefer pancakes and will always like pancake day better.

I believe the Russians celebrate one, in what began as a show of political/social equality of the sexes. After all, Women's Day began as a political event 80 or so years ago.

the other 364 days of the year r the mens days

womans day every day in my house....i wife 4 daughters helppppp

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Are you kidding? Many if not most members do not want to do Cam to Cam and should not have to under any circumstances. Members like to safeguard their privacy and maintain the fantasy. A host seeing an old, fat, pasty white guy is not going to inspire her to greater heights of passion. We are paying. We call the shots. If a host wants to pay me so she can watch me jerk off while she strips...then that is a different story...but you won't get any takers.

old fat white guy? hmm some are looking realy handsome.. at least i know the 1 :))

"We are paying. We call the shots."
OMG I despise that kind of arrogance! We are paying customers, yes, but decency and courtesy still are important, IMO. When I go into a store and buy a product, I am paying, but I still do not "call the shots" -- the store owner determines the price, the sales promotion and its terms, and if I don't like it I don't have to buy the product, and just because i am paying does not mean I can set the terms. For example let's say the store owner is offering a "Buy one get the second one half-off." Just because I'm paying does not mean I can say, "Okay, I'm paying, I don't want a Buy one second one half-off. I want you to give me a 2 for for the price of 1" I either accept the terms or no sale.

"If a host wants to pay me so she can watch me jerk off while she strips...then that is a different story"

Now that one I do agree with. I'm paying to watch her do her thing. Why should she watch me do my thing if I'm not being paid?

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LOL

1. There's nothing wrong with a buyer bargaining or haggling over price with a seller.

2. There's nothing at all arrogant or indecent or discourteous about someone hiring someone else to perform a particular job in a particular way.

you completely missed the point of what I said.

It shouldn't be required, it's a matter of choice, not to mention many guys might be very shy, have self confidence or even privacy issues.
It also depends on the nature of a session, i.e. I might not find c2c relevant during a foot worship session, while for a CBT one, c2c is very important to Me.

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CBT? And would you be a dungeon or fetish host?

I am a Dungeon host, yes.

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No a member should not be required to do c2c during pvt...heck there are many members who do not even have a cam...that is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard is forcing a member to have his cam in order to do a video.. but if some hosts require that then that is their choice...personally I do not think need a member to turn his cam on unless he wants to and feels comfortable doing so...but then that is just my opinion....:)

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I charge 2.50 per minute if a host wants to see me.

Overstated.

There are many members who are perfectly willing to kick someone to the curb for disagreeing with them, because They Know the Facts and think that's all there is to say.

But I hope you feel better now.

Like everything...I think the truth lies in the middle. There are indeed members who are frankly to some degree in love with hosts and nothing they do is wrong...ever. And there are members who were slighted by a host...or in some way real or imagined was treated badly and they in effect hate the host...so nothing she does is every right...ever. Then there are the members who, as was mentioned, just want to give an objective appraisal of a good or bad host. Of course their objectivity is somewhat suspect but I usually go with the majority. If most like her...she is probably good and vice versa.

About talking about facts, may I cite you:
"I suspect that many if not all of these White Knights, although members, never spend any money on site. But they very freely give their opinions always taking the side of the hosts."

Please look at yourself in a mirror and ask yourself seriously: are you talking about facts yourself? I don't dare give you the 5 fugure amount (I hope it's not more, I didn't dare make a total) I spent in 6 years on this site, but let me just tell you that there are also chatters who write easy and excessive critics because their behaviour with some chathost had the consequence that she kicked them out, ignored them or showed no willingness to give a good show. To those posts, it is necessary to give a reply, silent majorities are to be blamed when truth is shouting.

As another post stated it, at least you feel better, and thanks for your understanding.

white knights(in your mind)might could possibly be fair-minded considerate males.just because you have respect & take offence at others who belittle,demean,insult etc hosts who are providing a service doesn't mean you're defending the indefensible.even though you're the customer,it doesn't give you carte blanche.you can be upfront & open without the belittling.you get more flies with honey than manure.

While I do appreciate what you're trying to say, I have to disagree.

Honey won't attract any more flies than manure, as you can observe on any hot summer day. And anyway, that's really an unfortunate analogy here, unless there's a fetish category I don't want to know about.

you're entitled to disagree & i respect your dissent but to try to prove your point,you chose"a hot summers day".however if you used the whole year,not just 1 hot summer's day as your sample,odds are in my favour!all smart ass talk aside,i'm sure we both agree,respect is better than rudeness(honey & manure)

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damn i wasted words & thought,trying to express what you said.kudos!

Are these the very same white knights who treat community chat as their castle?
The same ones who think they're holding court in the room, when hosts are saying in private chat what a**holes they are?

Oh dear, did I say something out of turn? Forgive me o'great and mighty ones. I doth knowest my place. It's a nice place, without illusions of grandeur...... a place called reality.

:-P

I don't recognize anything in what you say. Is there a point you're trying to make?

sure the point the posters trying to make is..no matter how sweet it smells BS is still BS!these cc regulars he is attempting to belittle are in chat for fun.they couldn't & don't care what other members or hosts think or say about them.they are in chat for one or more of the following reasons: lonely,poor,cheap,impotent,unimportant,bored,desperate or just stupid.i speak from experience,i'm one of them & i'm many of those :--)

All that self-loathing is too over-the-top for me. But then I don't go to community chat.

disconnect between white knights and what you're talking about

Utopian, but I would like to see some of my members hosting here.

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"Some folks think she's buck ugly" And I'm one of those folks. I in fact I've read that Lady Gaga is a transvestite. So maybe you could see her in Gender Benders? D

She and Marilyn Manson in a couples show.

The rumor - false - was that she was a hermaphrodite. Never heard she was a transvestite, tho. That's a new one to me.

didn't she go to some awards show recently all dressed up as ralph machio? that almost qualifies as transvestism.

Transvestism? or costume? I don't see them as "almost" the same thing at all.

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Actually in the past years some of the best porn actresses tried their luck on camming and unfortunately they kinda suck.Camming is very different by anything from this industry.You dont have a make-up/hairstyle crew ,lights technicians,directors ,cameraman to put you in a good light and so on.

"some of the best porn actresses tried their luck on camming and unfortunately they kinda suck"

And you know this how? I've never seen a porn star on cc. However just about every other site I've gone to does have actual porn stars. I have not gone pvt with any because I can't afford their prices. But there are girls here I can't afford either. And yes all porn stars do suck. You know what I mean, but I think you meant something else.

And for the record I do prefer amateur cam girls , but to say a porn star or any other kind of entertainer is not doing well with no proof is simply wrong.

seen a few on the so called free sites , have to agree most look nothing like they do in the movies .

found one on of those sites myself - a russian porn star - hot as hell, yet doesn't draw the crowd the washed up, plastic surgery freak show aged american stars do - crazy.

I presume, or at least would like to think that it is so, that nobody over the age of 18 would actually find Jenna Jameson either attractive or erotic.

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"And you know this how? I've never seen a porn star on cc. "

I've read posts from one in last few months who hosts here, and I checked her out and she is indeed a bonafide porn "actress" - not sure how much of a "star" she is (the word is tossed around quite loosely IMO) Unfortunately, I can't remember her screenname, but if you are willing to scroll back through General Forum threads for several months, you can probably find her. LOL If you are like me, it isn't important enough to do that ;)

But I've seen others. One I got to know on another site was Kelly O'Dell, who was fairly popular in the porn business a number of years ago, but now seems to be retired.

"One I got to know on another site was Kelly O'Dell"


"On another site" That said it all. Other sites feature porn stars in a separate section.

Kelly O'Dell wasn't featured in a special section.

20 years ago should could have been featured. seeing such women resorting to caming so late in life - its sad.

Huh?

shes around 40 years old now.

Yes, that's about right. She was about 30 when I used to see her. She was a new mommy, and from what I understand, that's primarily the reason she "retired" eventually from the biz

Sandra Bullock. Getting a bit on in the years but has a great sense of humor.

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Posh and Becks were in couples section until he signed for LA Galaxy

Linda Carter, maybe not so much now but up until not so long ago she was still hot.

Zooey Deschanel, love her eyes and that smile and voice is awesome.

Emily Rose, from the syfy show Haven, very hot

Anna Silk and Ksenia Solo from Lost Girl wow.

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Once again the title of my post is "A complicated question for softcore hosts who undress in 121"

Did you miss the part that said "hosts who undress in 121"?

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Never expect from softcore hosts strip, if you dont ask about it, because some viewers get insulted if host suggested strip to them (some viewers really do, no matter what kind of site it is). So go figure it out.

Why does it have to be 121 to go naked actually??Is this the church site and all the girls are virgins??LOL.
I feel pretty awkward just to sit there and tryin' to find non-sense subjects to ramble about,when obviously that guy is just chasing the right moment to get inside my pants...So yes,clothes off,from the open session.If he likes me-he'll come back-easy peasy.

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That's Not so Shy attitude, the topic is about the playing hard to get, shy, softcore hosts.
Also, I would guess many softcore girls have regulars who don't want to see them strip, so they can't afford to lose one them, which might happen if they strip in Open.

I actually had viewers who felt offened that I rushed a bit things and invited them to watch me strip. Insane some would say, but it all depends of the viewer's mood. I am a host who goes for a nude show and everything else in 121, but only if I feel the conversation leads to it. Otherwise, why to spoil something we both enjoy? I know some are way too shy or too polite to ask for a show. I also have a delicate way to suggest it to them. If they click, we have that kind of fun. If they keep going with the A-Z subjects, let's just talk. :)
A lovely spring to all of you ! xoxo

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It seems to me that you have answered your own question here:
"I know hosts are not mind readers, they have no way of knowing what a viewer wants unless he tells them."
Yes, you have to literally TELL them. Or at least make a very clear suggestion in that direction.
Being nice, polite and taking the time to cover A to Z topics of conversation can also mean you joined a host in 121 in order to be able to have a good chat without interruption, so when you feel like watching her strip, you should SAY SO:)
If I were a host in that category and if I were offering strip shows, I would definitely carry on with the conversation in your case scenario.

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Stripping is not a favorite thing to do for the hosts here? And most hosts prefer to just chat?

Yes, I agree. From my experience on site I do agree hosts would rather talk than strip.

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I have had some hosts spontaneously begin to strip and even use the dildo. I have even sometimes had to stop them because I want to talk not fuck.

You are one strange dude. If you only want to talk, why not go to non adult?

I guess he likes to chat with a girl and dream about get her naked, if she gets naked too fast it can ruin the dream. many members as he.

maybe because that particular host is the one who attracts him. Maybe no one in Non-adult interests him.

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Well-sorry-it was supposed to be a reply on the Free Teaser post!!!!!

hang in there BlakeLee-it does get better (well sometimes)

:O)I will.