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What was your WORST break-up?
People have been talking about falling in love and stuff.
But what about when things DON'T work out?
What's the WORST break up you ever had or went through?
And be honest -- as you look back, was it his (or her) fault or yours?
But what about when things DON'T work out?
What's the WORST break up you ever had or went through?
And be honest -- as you look back, was it his (or her) fault or yours?
RE: What was your WORST break-up?
when you fall u fall, its not a matter of forgetting it but getting over it.
RE: What was your WORST break-up?
Is this post just for hosts? I had a year and a hlaf relationship with a girl. I was 23, she was 21. We seemed very serious, she was beautiful, soft, gentle and very feminine. One evening I saw her crying, and asked what was the matter. She said she couldn't tell me and I slept alone on the sofa, because she seemed distant. The next day, she finally revealed that she had fallen in love with another woman. I was despaired, she was sad, i had lost the love of my life at the time to someone who had gone to the other side. It took a long while to get over that one, so many self doubts. Even to this day, I can't believe it happened that way.
RE: What was your WORST break-up?
I walked into his home and found them both in bed. I aimed at him first, but wanted to shoot them both. I decided to shoot my wife first. But she looked so pathetic. I walked out. We got dirorced. It had been 6 years of marriage.
RE: What was your WORST break-up?
came home early one morning from work, and seen my gf's car parked in front of my friends house. I felt like I got hit by a train.
I would have to say it was my friends fault..for having such a big dick!!
thnks for the post buddy....I really needed to get that off my chest after 18 years.))
I would have to say it was my friends fault..for having such a big dick!!
thnks for the post buddy....I really needed to get that off my chest after 18 years.))
Where to Meet?
Ok ladies, so your favorite member, says he wants to meet. He says pick any place in Europe. He will pay all expenses. What city or resort would you pick? And, would you insist on separate hotel rooms?
RE: Where to Meet?
I realize the question was adressed to the hosts, but....The most Romanitc city, is still the original one: Rome. And a suite with two bedrooms would be appropriate. So any romance is convenient, but clearly voluntary.
RE: Where to Meet?
I felt exactly the same way abt Paris as u do, untill i actually went there. Now my heart belongs to this city;) Its outstanding:) So never say NO to smth u never tried:)
RE: Where to Meet?
Berlinnnnnnnnnn...most beautiful place for me.My favourite member is a very nice guy from Norway and I would gladly pay everything for both (TWO rooms).We met online when he was 19.Is hard to believe that he is still close to me after 7 years of CC.I met lot of men but nobody showed such an elegant behaviour as he would be 55years old..or even more.
Sad story :LOL
His wife's graveside service was barley finished, when there was a massive clap of thunder, followed by a tremendous bolt of lightning, accompanied by even more thunder rumbling in the distance. The little, old man looked at the pastor and calmly said,
'Well, she's there.
'Well, she's there.
Who would you take home to meet Mother?
Ok guys. If you had to take a girl home from CC to meet mother, who would it be?
RE: Who would you take home to meet Mother?
xxKarinxx. Excellent english, pleasant personality. smart, funny, very pretty....I think Mom would like her a lot. So would the rest of my family particularly the men and a few women too I supose.
RE: Who would you take home to meet Mother?
If it turns out your mom DOESN'T like xxKarinxx, can I take her to meet my mom? I think she is simply the best on CC!
RE: Who would you take home to meet Mother?
I have to agree xxKarinxx would be my choice as well.
RE: Who would you take home to meet Mother?
liendajoy
very sexy very good at a converation and the sexy girl on here its a must see
very sexy very good at a converation and the sexy girl on here its a must see
RE: Who would you take home to meet Mother? liendajoy
would have to agree with christx23 on this one
RE: Who would you take home to meet Mother?
I need to see more than fingers before I can agree :D
RE: Who would you take home to meet Mother?
Seyredred would be fine to meet my mom - good english, great homor, and very cute.
RE: Who would you take home to meet Mother?
I would take you home to meet my mom. I think that she would love you, you are intelligent and make her son smile. :) Now figure out who I am. :P
RE: Who would you take home to meet Mother?
well, mom isn't the problem....but what if she's on dad's fav list? ;-)
RE: Who would you take home to meet Mother?
Mysecrets - didn't even have to think about my answer.
RE: Who would you take home to meet Mother?
Romanticurl :)
Now ask a difficult question that one was too easy. ;)
Now ask a difficult question that one was too easy. ;)
RE: Who would you take home to meet Mother?
One host showed me pic of *her* mother. Wow. And her mother's age has fitted much better that of me.
Gone :((((
Does anyone know where Teenyxweeny or wildxbunny as she was known on Wilcams has gone??
RE: Gone :((((
The bad news is a ton of hosts just leave without any warning or goodbyes. Happens more often than not. The good news is every now and then you get an old host return to CC. Not a lot but a few do. Also sometimes a host will disappear for a few days, weeks or months because of school, vacation, family things...etc. Just be patient. If she is not back within 5 years ..move on.
RE: Gone :((((
its only been 2 weeks be patient and don't panic. period, studies, exams, family time, sickness who knows what is reason. could be anything. she probably be back soon
RE: Gone :((((
The host I miss has also been gone since January 15. It's only a couple of weeks but it feels like eternity. LONGFORU, where are you?
Back to the normal home page
I'm happy to see the normal home page back. I like to see that girl flirting in front of her cam on the other side of the globe, and it doesn't take too long to load. It makes me comfortable getting back to this familiar sight.
I wonder what it would take to have them update it and get her to do a little bit more of a strip tease? Can I get any support in this request?
I wonder what it would take to have them update it and get her to do a little bit more of a strip tease? Can I get any support in this request?
RE: Back to the normal home page
Surrre, I support your request ))....and then have her bf sitting behind her counting money.....lol might as well be realistic eh!!
I'll never understand Hosts
I'll never understand that about Hosts. They always say they like to make money & be responsible. They say they want security. The say they are attracted to men with ambition and who work hard. A man who could provide for them or be good a partner in life...
...But then these hosts will turn around and marry or have a BF who is a lazy slug. They choose a guy who isn't working, has no ambition, and sits at home expecting her to pay the bills. That is when hosts pretend to be single and hit us up for cash, so hard working guys can pay for their worthless hubbies or BFs drinking beer at home.
Ladies, be smart and cut out the middle man.
Dump them and pick us instead!
...But then these hosts will turn around and marry or have a BF who is a lazy slug. They choose a guy who isn't working, has no ambition, and sits at home expecting her to pay the bills. That is when hosts pretend to be single and hit us up for cash, so hard working guys can pay for their worthless hubbies or BFs drinking beer at home.
Ladies, be smart and cut out the middle man.
Dump them and pick us instead!
RE: Back to the normal home page
As the home page is viewable to everyone, members or not, then I doubt you will find explicit content put there. As you know you do not need to click on anything to jump right in and start chatting to hosts. This was how I was first introduced here. It works out well for CC, encourages membership and means CC can legitimately posts links to the homepage where normal adult content would not be allowed.
RE: Guys that leave when i take my clothes off....
Interesting question. I know that a minority of guys come to this site simply for chat and flirting with hosts without expecting or wanting anything sexual. These guys are clearly a minority. Without knowing who your are it is difficult to say if your appearance has anything to do with it but I doubt it. Some guys get shy, get seflconscious, get a bit of guilt or morality and bail. Don't take it personally but make notes of who seems upset and send them a CC mail...saying your enjoyed the chat and please come back. Good hosts keep notes on good customers. It is a business after all.
RE: Guys that leave when i take my clothes off....
You probably already won a lot of new viewers with this post if you just tell us who you are.
RE: Guys that leave when i take my clothes off....
It would be interesting to know what u take off, cos in non adult a clever conversation can be enough, but in glamour usually girls take off almost all and there are very many competitors. I don't think that ur fans are scared by u, maybe not satisfied but too much polite to tell u.
RE: Guys that leave when i take my clothes off....
I can think of three reasons.
First, they just want to see if they can get you to strip. It is more like a game to them.
Second, with all due respect, your show may be boring or your lingerie might not be that exciting. I've seen some hosts that wear lingerie that you would expect a grandmother to wear and it is a big turn off. I have also seen some hosts that aren't used to giving a show take way to long to strip (not necessarily to stall, but just because they don't know what they are doing) and have no clue how to be sexy during a striptease.
Third, you are taking too long to strip and the member gets frustrated and just leaves since, unlike reason #2, he thinks you're stalling on purpose. He might wait until after you show something to satisfy his curiosity, but in terms of playing, he has lost his mood.
I have never left because of the first reason, but I have left because of the second and third. I wouldn't just leave without saying goodbye if we had a nice conversation since that would be rude and offensive. But when a host puts on a bad show, I do get a lot of phone calls and have to go, lol.
Very few hosts here are so hot that if their show is bad or if they stall too much I am going to wait around anyway. I always have the option to jump into another room where I know I can get a better show. I try not to be rude, but I have spent a lot of money here, and the second I get the feeling I am wasting my money or that a host is stalling to get more out of me, unless she is extremely hot, I am gone. I will be a little more patient with glamour or little shy hosts, but I always try to treat a host with respect so the host needs to do the same with me, and that includes not intentionally milking the clock and my credit card.
First, they just want to see if they can get you to strip. It is more like a game to them.
Second, with all due respect, your show may be boring or your lingerie might not be that exciting. I've seen some hosts that wear lingerie that you would expect a grandmother to wear and it is a big turn off. I have also seen some hosts that aren't used to giving a show take way to long to strip (not necessarily to stall, but just because they don't know what they are doing) and have no clue how to be sexy during a striptease.
Third, you are taking too long to strip and the member gets frustrated and just leaves since, unlike reason #2, he thinks you're stalling on purpose. He might wait until after you show something to satisfy his curiosity, but in terms of playing, he has lost his mood.
I have never left because of the first reason, but I have left because of the second and third. I wouldn't just leave without saying goodbye if we had a nice conversation since that would be rude and offensive. But when a host puts on a bad show, I do get a lot of phone calls and have to go, lol.
Very few hosts here are so hot that if their show is bad or if they stall too much I am going to wait around anyway. I always have the option to jump into another room where I know I can get a better show. I try not to be rude, but I have spent a lot of money here, and the second I get the feeling I am wasting my money or that a host is stalling to get more out of me, unless she is extremely hot, I am gone. I will be a little more patient with glamour or little shy hosts, but I always try to treat a host with respect so the host needs to do the same with me, and that includes not intentionally milking the clock and my credit card.
RE: Guys that leave when i take my clothes off....
Well thank you, lol. I am glad I have potential.
The bottom line is that whether it is the host, or me, or both of us, I have had many good shows here as well as many good conversations. And in terms of a host needing to be turned on by a member to put on a good show, I can give you a long list of hosts that can put on great shows without my saying much of anything, giving her my cam, or doing anything else. I of course understand that it can be easier if the member helps her out, but I don't think that is his responsibility. If he doesn't feel like talking much, that is his choice. I guess he could go to instant action when he is not in a talking mood, but plenty of glamour and little shy hosts can put on a great show by just my simply saying "hi. how r u. nice to meet u" without anything more. In fact, I have had lots of little shy hosts, for example, start stripping before without my even wanting them to. They assume I want a show and do their best to give me one even if I want to talk a bit first so it really depends on the host.
I am sure it is hard to be a host. You are being judged all of the time by guys about your looks. It is a nightmare for many women. Even very beautiful women can be insecure and end up doing things like getting implants when they don't really need them so I am sure it is difficult. And if a guy doesn't act like he approves of a host's looks, especially if she is getting naked, that must hurt even more. But your post seemed to blame the member a little too much and put the responsibility on him to make help her put on a good show. Sorry, but I disagree. The fact that I am paying gives me every right after a polite introduction to sit back and enjoy. I shouldn't have to help her get warmed up first.
The bottom line is that whether it is the host, or me, or both of us, I have had many good shows here as well as many good conversations. And in terms of a host needing to be turned on by a member to put on a good show, I can give you a long list of hosts that can put on great shows without my saying much of anything, giving her my cam, or doing anything else. I of course understand that it can be easier if the member helps her out, but I don't think that is his responsibility. If he doesn't feel like talking much, that is his choice. I guess he could go to instant action when he is not in a talking mood, but plenty of glamour and little shy hosts can put on a great show by just my simply saying "hi. how r u. nice to meet u" without anything more. In fact, I have had lots of little shy hosts, for example, start stripping before without my even wanting them to. They assume I want a show and do their best to give me one even if I want to talk a bit first so it really depends on the host.
I am sure it is hard to be a host. You are being judged all of the time by guys about your looks. It is a nightmare for many women. Even very beautiful women can be insecure and end up doing things like getting implants when they don't really need them so I am sure it is difficult. And if a guy doesn't act like he approves of a host's looks, especially if she is getting naked, that must hurt even more. But your post seemed to blame the member a little too much and put the responsibility on him to make help her put on a good show. Sorry, but I disagree. The fact that I am paying gives me every right after a polite introduction to sit back and enjoy. I shouldn't have to help her get warmed up first.
RE: Guys that leave when i take my clothes off....
#3 was my first thought... and totally agree with everything you said that followed.
RE: Guys that leave when i take my clothes off....
As a member, first, I do not expect a host in glam to get naked for me. Glamour to me, is about beauty, outward and inward, and the joy for me is in getting to know a host's inner beauty. I like glamour, because I think there are less restrictions than non-adult, and if something should develop it is more possible. But also, as a member, I did not think nudity was allowed in glamour. It seems I am wrong from the replies to this thread. The relationships I have had here on the site (and I mean, as member./chathost. not as bf/gf) have been wonderful, and the most stimulating have been with hosts in glamour. A sensual tease, and intellectual discussion, along with the hosts natural inner and outer beauty, are to me more provocative and moving than the host who immediately begin to strip and play with themselves. While I may be sexually aroused by the sight of it, I'm usually left with a feeling of cold emptiness toward the experience. I appreciate the warmth of good conversation, the thrill of making a "spiritual/emotional connection" between personalities. I like to be aroused at more than the level of physical sex. I like when a host can makef my heart pound wildly, my spirit want to sing arias, my soul soar as if on the wings of eagles -- all because of the way she interacts with me in non-sexual ways. That is how certain hosts make me feel. In fact there are five hosts on this site I have come to love dearly. Three are in Glamour, the others are in A Little Shy. One host is newly in A Little Shy (when I first met her she was in Glamour) With the other in A Little Shy I have often engaged in sexual pleasures, but the deepest joy and pleasure for me has been in the relationship itself, and the sexual experience has been the icing on the cake.
No matter whether I visit a host in Glamour, or Little Shy, Not So Shy, or Instant Action... I always appreciate being asked "What do you like to do in here?" Nearly always I answer: First to chat and get to know the host, and then maybe, sometimes, to play." And if a host is someone I would like to get to know, the sexual is always secondary. And if a host chooses to make it primary, launching into it first thing... I can guarantee you... I may enjoy the moment for what it is, but I most likely will not be back.
~~Flat
No matter whether I visit a host in Glamour, or Little Shy, Not So Shy, or Instant Action... I always appreciate being asked "What do you like to do in here?" Nearly always I answer: First to chat and get to know the host, and then maybe, sometimes, to play." And if a host is someone I would like to get to know, the sexual is always secondary. And if a host chooses to make it primary, launching into it first thing... I can guarantee you... I may enjoy the moment for what it is, but I most likely will not be back.
~~Flat
RE: Guys that leave when i take my clothes off....
Oh, but, Minority, you could be missing out. I've had some serious intellectual discussions AFTER... post-coital, you might say. LOL!
RE: Guys that leave when i take my clothes off....
i can't understand it....members always complain about host who doesn't want to strip as soon as possble and in this post members complain about opposite....
oh...no strip anymore :P
oh...no strip anymore :P
RE: Guys that leave when i take my clothes off....
Nice post.
I usually enter a host's room for a show. After all, this is a sex site (even if people hate hearing that), and I am choosing hosts based on their pics more than anything else so sex is on my mind. Even with non-adult, a guy is still choosing hosts that he is attracted to, most, if not all, of the time, so there is almost always a sexual element. Further, most profiles just aren't that interesting so I am not going to get mentally turned on by them and that basically leaves how a host looks to get me to enter her video.
But what happens once I am there varies. Even if sex is on my mind, there are some hosts that I have never asked a show from. I probably went into their room wanting one, but then it just doesn't feel right since I started to like them too much as a person so I don't ask. On the other hand, their are hosts that I do ask for a show from, get it, but then get to know them better on future visits and stop asking. And of course, there are the hosts that I just want a show from. This usually happens when the host has the attitude that she is here mainly for sex and doesn't open much so I cannot get a sense as to what lies beneath the surface. I think some hosts find it easier to be distant and just put on shows so the result is that is all I visit for in those cases.
Bottom line: it really depends on how the host acts, not just what the member wants. And since many members are older and supposedly more mature, I think a lot of guys are willing just to chat with a host. But let's be honest... sex is almost always a part of things with men and women especially on a site like this. Still, I have made friends here and feel a lot of love towards some of them. It just happens to be that most of my friends are "hot", lol.
I usually enter a host's room for a show. After all, this is a sex site (even if people hate hearing that), and I am choosing hosts based on their pics more than anything else so sex is on my mind. Even with non-adult, a guy is still choosing hosts that he is attracted to, most, if not all, of the time, so there is almost always a sexual element. Further, most profiles just aren't that interesting so I am not going to get mentally turned on by them and that basically leaves how a host looks to get me to enter her video.
But what happens once I am there varies. Even if sex is on my mind, there are some hosts that I have never asked a show from. I probably went into their room wanting one, but then it just doesn't feel right since I started to like them too much as a person so I don't ask. On the other hand, their are hosts that I do ask for a show from, get it, but then get to know them better on future visits and stop asking. And of course, there are the hosts that I just want a show from. This usually happens when the host has the attitude that she is here mainly for sex and doesn't open much so I cannot get a sense as to what lies beneath the surface. I think some hosts find it easier to be distant and just put on shows so the result is that is all I visit for in those cases.
Bottom line: it really depends on how the host acts, not just what the member wants. And since many members are older and supposedly more mature, I think a lot of guys are willing just to chat with a host. But let's be honest... sex is almost always a part of things with men and women especially on a site like this. Still, I have made friends here and feel a lot of love towards some of them. It just happens to be that most of my friends are "hot", lol.
RE: Guys that leave when i take my clothes off....
Thank you for the tip, Worried.Next time when I will need to get rid of a member I will remove all clothes.LOL
After all, who wants to see falling breasts and old lady panties?
When I start to undress for a member my husband is leaving the room, now I know why.LOL
After all, who wants to see falling breasts and old lady panties?
When I start to undress for a member my husband is leaving the room, now I know why.LOL
RE: Guys that leave when i take my clothes off....
falling breasts? Old lady panties? Yess! finally someone understands me! LOL
RE: Guys that leave when i take my clothes off....
I once was talking to a very dear friend and Glam host here on Yahoo once and she forgot to switch me off when someone came into her vid ... there seemed to be no sense in disturbing her by buzzing her to remind I was still seeing her cam ... I wandered out of room and came in a few mins later and saw her starting to undress a little ... I immediately turned my cam off! I sat there a moment and wondered why the hell I did that? It was simply because I see her as a friend when we chat on cam and I don't ask her or expect her to undress. Anytime we meet in person ..... well thats none of your business ... :p :)
So maybe the guys that leave when you start to undress simply see you as someone they trust and prefer to chat with on an intimate basis?
If they flirt with you and seem to be getting horny and leave when you start to undress .... they are just weirdos! Maybe they have tourrettes and start screaming what they see very loudly and wake up the neighbours :)
So maybe the guys that leave when you start to undress simply see you as someone they trust and prefer to chat with on an intimate basis?
If they flirt with you and seem to be getting horny and leave when you start to undress .... they are just weirdos! Maybe they have tourrettes and start screaming what they see very loudly and wake up the neighbours :)
RE: Guys that leave when i take my clothes off....
Well, the same scenario happened to me not long ago. I was cam chatting to my host-friend. I went to get a drink, but I didn't say anything since I am usually fast and I am always back before she ends typing. When I cameback I saw her stripping. I was going to say: Hey, I didn't ask for this, but I figured she was busy. Honestly, I wasn't an angel and saw the show, but turned it off as it took more than 2 hrs. Later she asked: Did you like it? I said: Liked what? And yes, we're meeting and the only reason she said she accepted is becuase I never asked for a strip show. LOL :-P
RE: Guys that leave when i take my clothes off....
Whoa there ... I never asked for Yahoo for free - we just like to see each others faces when we chat on there - I know her working times and dont go unless i get a sms asking me to because she is bored or disturbed. Cams were not invented to just be money meters as far as I know?
I also did not complain when she was undressing - I just felt a bit embarrassed to be there while she worked.
I also did not complain when she was undressing - I just felt a bit embarrassed to be there while she worked.
RE: anything interesting
i heard a new band called the beatles , i wonder if they will become popular ?
RE: anything interesting
Nah I don't think they will because my mate who works at Decca says that "Guitar groups are on the way out"
RE: anything interesting
well, I've gone goo goo over Lady GaGa; been set aflame by Matchbox20; I've asked for my nickle back from Nickelback; and still dyin' for Celine Dion -- none of which are new, but hey, I'm an old guy anyway.
RE: anything interesting
Big Star, Badfinger, Jellyfish, The Smithereens, Bleu, Rooney, The Hold Steady, MGMT, Kasabian, OKGO, Kate Bush, The Vines...just off the top of my head.
RE: anything interesting
try terra naomi,-fink-nouvelle vague..if u like those get back at me ill tell you somer more
RE: Independent vs. dependent women
No I dont like to have independent girlfriend to be honest
RE: Independent vs. dependent women
If the relationship is not traditional with women take care home and the man bring in most of money, i dont think it will last. Independent women often focus on other things not the relationship in my experience. I can have fun while wait for the right woman but its not serious relationships to me.
RE: Independent vs. dependent women
I like a strong-willed, independent girl who is smart, can think for herself, takes no shit and does whatever I say.
RE: Independent vs. dependent women
Maybe its just me but is it not flattering to be approached by an independent woman? If a relationship is based on equal 'standing' it almost seems more intense ... but is there also a fragility to it due to the fact that two independent people know that they have an always open back door to walk out without much repercussion?
Of course, it can also be said that a man has an inbuilt feeling of responsibility to be the protector of a family and therefore he will always feel better to be the sole provider. Adorable and adoring wife, adorable kids, house ....
Both ways work ... Its just down to making sure everyone's expectations are met.
Now I'm getting all nostalgic dammit! :)
Of course, it can also be said that a man has an inbuilt feeling of responsibility to be the protector of a family and therefore he will always feel better to be the sole provider. Adorable and adoring wife, adorable kids, house ....
Both ways work ... Its just down to making sure everyone's expectations are met.
Now I'm getting all nostalgic dammit! :)
RE: Independent vs. dependent women
Independent enough to let me be an individual, and dependent enough to let me be a man.
RE: Professional Cam Girls
.............................:| is good that you didn't used your screen name;)
RE: Professional Cam Girls
Professional Cam Girl is someone who works on web site like CC. Teases and pleases guys to make lots of money, and has little regard for the actual members on sites, except to keep them happy so they'll come back for more. Most girls on CC are more than this, and actually develop some friendships and have some comapssion for the members
RE: Professional Cam Girls
Professional cam Girl
1) Works full time doesn't attend school or have other job.
2) Has lots of outfits/costumes and "toys".
3) Husband or bf/gf knows about "career".
1) Works full time doesn't attend school or have other job.
2) Has lots of outfits/costumes and "toys".
3) Husband or bf/gf knows about "career".
RE: Professional Cam Girls
The real professional this is a full time job, the equipment meaning video webcams have remotes, the camera quality is better than most video cameras, work a regular schedule, more often then not work multiple sites and love the money more than anything else.
RE: Professional Cam Girls
simply put...if ur pro...you get paid...ur there for the money...period.
My advice about Hosts and Guests meeting
Usually I lay low, but we have a few threads going on that are blurring several topics together. Everyone is talking about Hosts and Guests possibly meeting… and whether its worth taking that chance… because they are hoping to make a friend or find love. Well, I just thought I'd throw in my two cents since people used to like my "reality check" posts. So I just wanted to say this...
Being careful or a bit scared -- and yet hoping for the best -- is perfectly natural. That's a basic human reaction. But remember this: feeling that way goes BOTH ways. It applies to the Host AND to the Guy. BOTH of you have to be careful because… well, let's face it… you met here. Now, you could both be here for a good reason (her to make money, him to have fun). But BECAUSE this is a pay site (which means money is always involved) and BECAUSE it's a sex site (which means getting off tends to trump softer romance) that means you're probably BOTH going to look at each other and think "I wonder what this person REALLY wants? I wonder what is REALLY in their heart? Is SHE only after my money? Does HE only want my body and sex?"
Some of you have been posting sound advice. Many of you are warning that meeting someone you met online can be dangerous. And, yes -- it could be. There are many bad stories to back that up. So my first bit of advice is simple: don't do anything that is INCREDIBLY STUPID.
Now, you're grown adults. So let's be honest. We all got to be adults by growing up and by DOING incredibly stupid things in our lives, at one point or another. So this should be easy -- JUST DON'T DO THOSE INCREDIBLY STUPID THINGS ANYMORE. When it comes to meeting a "new" person just do the obvious. TELL someone (a family member or friend) WHERE you'll be… or WHO you'll be with… or HOW you can be reached. Hell, if nothing else, simply leave a note behind. Those are basic things that will always help IF there is ever any trouble afterward.
BUT...I'm also laughing a bit because some of you are ALSO making fun of the Host who said she wanted to meet a guy she had chatted with for 5 straight hours. She wanted to meet because he was nice, he acted like a gentleman, and they felt an immediate connection. And yet despite all of that, some of you were making fun of her.
So, try to remember this TOO…
How many times has a woman and a man (two strangers) been out in a club or having a meal with friends… hell, this could even happen at the office or while shopping for groceries… when all of a sudden the man and woman accidentally meet. And before you know it, sparks are flying and they look at each other and think "Hmm...you know what? You're cute and fun. You seem pretty nice. So yeah! Why not? Let's exchange phone numbers and get together for some coffee or a movie and have a date." And just like that, you'd be taking a chance on someone new, too. In fact, you'd be doing it in LESS time than the 5 hours that our romantic host spent chatting with her guy. So think about THAT.
Here's how I see things. It doesn't matter if you meet in person or online. To me, there's no difference -- well, other than IF you meet in person you could instantly see how the other person ACTUALLY looks in real life. That applies to the guys AND you girls, because once you're away from your best makeup and sexy cam outfits, I'm sure many of you look a little different in real life too.
My point is this. Anyone "new" that you meet in person and decide to take a chance on is just as much a stranger as anyone you might meet online. In the end, the guy (or girl) could be nice…or they could be a nut job. They could be honest and sweet…or they could be a scheming bastard (or bitch) who really is out to take your money or possibly hurt you. The truth is you'll never know until you've spent time getting to know them. So go with your gut instincts and do what's right FOR YOU. Do what makes YOU feel safe. But, at the same time, you also SHOULDN'T be afraid to live a little and take a chance. Because that's how you will make REAL friends and find a TRUE love. Sure, it's good to be safe -- but never forget that taking chances is what life is about TOO.
Being careful or a bit scared -- and yet hoping for the best -- is perfectly natural. That's a basic human reaction. But remember this: feeling that way goes BOTH ways. It applies to the Host AND to the Guy. BOTH of you have to be careful because… well, let's face it… you met here. Now, you could both be here for a good reason (her to make money, him to have fun). But BECAUSE this is a pay site (which means money is always involved) and BECAUSE it's a sex site (which means getting off tends to trump softer romance) that means you're probably BOTH going to look at each other and think "I wonder what this person REALLY wants? I wonder what is REALLY in their heart? Is SHE only after my money? Does HE only want my body and sex?"
Some of you have been posting sound advice. Many of you are warning that meeting someone you met online can be dangerous. And, yes -- it could be. There are many bad stories to back that up. So my first bit of advice is simple: don't do anything that is INCREDIBLY STUPID.
Now, you're grown adults. So let's be honest. We all got to be adults by growing up and by DOING incredibly stupid things in our lives, at one point or another. So this should be easy -- JUST DON'T DO THOSE INCREDIBLY STUPID THINGS ANYMORE. When it comes to meeting a "new" person just do the obvious. TELL someone (a family member or friend) WHERE you'll be… or WHO you'll be with… or HOW you can be reached. Hell, if nothing else, simply leave a note behind. Those are basic things that will always help IF there is ever any trouble afterward.
BUT...I'm also laughing a bit because some of you are ALSO making fun of the Host who said she wanted to meet a guy she had chatted with for 5 straight hours. She wanted to meet because he was nice, he acted like a gentleman, and they felt an immediate connection. And yet despite all of that, some of you were making fun of her.
So, try to remember this TOO…
How many times has a woman and a man (two strangers) been out in a club or having a meal with friends… hell, this could even happen at the office or while shopping for groceries… when all of a sudden the man and woman accidentally meet. And before you know it, sparks are flying and they look at each other and think "Hmm...you know what? You're cute and fun. You seem pretty nice. So yeah! Why not? Let's exchange phone numbers and get together for some coffee or a movie and have a date." And just like that, you'd be taking a chance on someone new, too. In fact, you'd be doing it in LESS time than the 5 hours that our romantic host spent chatting with her guy. So think about THAT.
Here's how I see things. It doesn't matter if you meet in person or online. To me, there's no difference -- well, other than IF you meet in person you could instantly see how the other person ACTUALLY looks in real life. That applies to the guys AND you girls, because once you're away from your best makeup and sexy cam outfits, I'm sure many of you look a little different in real life too.
My point is this. Anyone "new" that you meet in person and decide to take a chance on is just as much a stranger as anyone you might meet online. In the end, the guy (or girl) could be nice…or they could be a nut job. They could be honest and sweet…or they could be a scheming bastard (or bitch) who really is out to take your money or possibly hurt you. The truth is you'll never know until you've spent time getting to know them. So go with your gut instincts and do what's right FOR YOU. Do what makes YOU feel safe. But, at the same time, you also SHOULDN'T be afraid to live a little and take a chance. Because that's how you will make REAL friends and find a TRUE love. Sure, it's good to be safe -- but never forget that taking chances is what life is about TOO.
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I can't be more agree with your post, For me is very wise and good explained one. Is so easy to come here and under anonimous post make jokes or laugh about what others are posting, about the feelings that members or host can feel here. I ask myself, is this site full of envy?, and my answer come fast, yes. Why we (members and host) can't let others dream about love and happiness, about a better life close to a man/woman that we met here?
Please, probably this isn't the more right place for that, but love is everywhere, even here. Let's the love in our lifes and forget about envy and jealousy.
Please, probably this isn't the more right place for that, but love is everywhere, even here. Let's the love in our lifes and forget about envy and jealousy.
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you have way too much time on your hands. for your next essay could you please analyze the recently completed Copenhagen Climate meeting?
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Dude, like tisme said: you have too much time in your hands. I met many hosts from this site and other's. There is no mystery and there is no biggie danger. My meetings werent anything out of the extra ordinary. I met my dates on public places, such as my hotel lobby, or at the park or cafe on the corner. Some girls never showed up, some come alone, others will come with a friend or sister, either way is fine with me. I was never disappointed, they were all nice young chicks. Some wanted sex right away and others didn't even let me kiss them on the cheek. No girl was a man or an ugly 50 year old witch behind the make-up. Believe me, the cam can't hide that much. As a matter of fact, some girls i met look way much sexier and better in real life. I never expected immediate sex, it was just fun meeting friends that i chatted with for weeks, months, or years. I never intended to find the princess of my heart either. I travel 2 times year for vacations and love to visit my net friends. Again, its just fun to finally meet someone you made friends with over the net. It's plain and simple.
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A good post, just a guy, and it sums up my experiences too. I am still in contact with hosts I met even 6 years ago and who haved moved on in their lives and I regard them among my closest friends. I feel sorry for those of you who think that mb meeting your host is fraught with danger but the relationship you have online will give you some idea on how things will be in real life.
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I am still in contact with some hosts that I first met over 7 years ago online. It has been over 6 years since I first met them in person, and we remain friends and still chat on yahoo sometimes. They have since moved on with their lives and are no longer hosts. I hope to see them again soon along with a few others.
Everything can be okay and you can end up as friends for a long time and maybe even in a happy marriage. But all of this is because I and the other guys posting that everything can be okay are not bad people. At the same time, I gave two examples earlier where if a host meets the wrong guy, even if he appears okay at first, she can end up with a big problem on her hands. And I have no doubt that there are other horror stories we just haven't heard about.
Your post is very well thought out. Here is the problem I have with it, however. It ignores one important fact, and that is that people coming to a site like this, or on the internet in general, are suspect and need to be approached with caution. Yes, you can meet bad people at a bar too, but it is much easier to judge them in person. Five hours in person gives you a heck of a lot of more information than 5 hours online. It is much easier to act like a nice guy when in reality you are a psycho from behind a webcam than in person. You seem to ignore this.
Moreover, the host posting about the guy who is basically stalking her shows that at least some hosts lack good judgment and are in need of a reality check too. Again, this can happen in real life as well, but the intrusions in real life would have been a lot more obvious to her and probably seemed like a much bigger deal as the guy showed up at her place of work, followed her as she went shopping, interrupted her dates at restaurants, et cetera. On the internet, it was just a member jumping into open session and interrupting her along with some phone calls. Once again, the internet masks the potential for real danger, and with all due respect, you seem to ignore this point.
Everything can be okay and you can end up as friends for a long time and maybe even in a happy marriage. But all of this is because I and the other guys posting that everything can be okay are not bad people. At the same time, I gave two examples earlier where if a host meets the wrong guy, even if he appears okay at first, she can end up with a big problem on her hands. And I have no doubt that there are other horror stories we just haven't heard about.
Your post is very well thought out. Here is the problem I have with it, however. It ignores one important fact, and that is that people coming to a site like this, or on the internet in general, are suspect and need to be approached with caution. Yes, you can meet bad people at a bar too, but it is much easier to judge them in person. Five hours in person gives you a heck of a lot of more information than 5 hours online. It is much easier to act like a nice guy when in reality you are a psycho from behind a webcam than in person. You seem to ignore this.
Moreover, the host posting about the guy who is basically stalking her shows that at least some hosts lack good judgment and are in need of a reality check too. Again, this can happen in real life as well, but the intrusions in real life would have been a lot more obvious to her and probably seemed like a much bigger deal as the guy showed up at her place of work, followed her as she went shopping, interrupted her dates at restaurants, et cetera. On the internet, it was just a member jumping into open session and interrupting her along with some phone calls. Once again, the internet masks the potential for real danger, and with all due respect, you seem to ignore this point.
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Just curious ....where was the post about someone stalking a host?
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I assume it is the one entitled "a jealous friend" on 21 Jan 2010.
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Yes, that one.
I recalled things a little incorrectly. I don't think she stated he jumps into open session to interrupt her. She did say no"121" so maybe he does do exactly that to prevent her going to 121, or maybe she meant he doesn't spend a lot of money on her. Anyway, the rest of the post makes it clear that he is someone to be avoided.
I recalled things a little incorrectly. I don't think she stated he jumps into open session to interrupt her. She did say no"121" so maybe he does do exactly that to prevent her going to 121, or maybe she meant he doesn't spend a lot of money on her. Anyway, the rest of the post makes it clear that he is someone to be avoided.
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Gosh u have a great memory for an old man, I’m impressed :)
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Thank you. I was goint to reply to your post yesterday but I forgot to do it :P
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every person is different. I trusted long time friends that stubbed me on the back at times. I had boyfriends that cheated and tried to hurt me physically at times. I met weirdos at clubs, university, or at church. You can't never know someone, not even someone you met in person. In cc you have the chance and look for signs of bad character, agression, unfaithfullness, lies. He who betrayed a friend will always betray a second time. The man that hit his ex will always hit the next. Find out why he broke up with his last gf or wife. Problem with most men is that it doesnt take much time to know them well. The more they talk, the more you know them. I talked with many members that are popular here that "try" hard to be the good guys, but many hide some evil in them. And I had met many guys that dont even come to comm. chat and are great men. The best thing with women is that we all have some basic instinct of psychology and unless we are in love we get to see the inner truth in most men. Best is to never fall in love with your eyes, but with your head. I always like a man that's smart, respectful, truthful, independent, intellectual, and sensitive. I dont care if he's rich or poor as long as he is a working man and has a job. I dont like clowns that always tell jokes and narcisists that talk about themselves at every opportunity in a conversation or guys that try to impress me with their money or sucess. I ranawy from them. This goes for both sides. Just dont fall in love with your eyes, look for details, write a checklist and think before engaging into something u will later regret.
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Ah, what a smart post. Thank you LOL :))
I think very few people are adept at hiding their true selves over any length of time. If you are paying attention to your new "friend," and trusting your own instincts, you can gather enough information to know what you should do. We've heard this from several hosts already. I do think it takes time, I don't know how much... 5 hours? 5 months? and I do think one has to be very careful, but that's my own nature. Some are willing to take greater risks than I am.
The host I thought I knew two years ago is not the host I know today. I think she figured me out far sooner than I figured her out lol. The thing is, we're good friends today. No plans to meet though :))))
I think very few people are adept at hiding their true selves over any length of time. If you are paying attention to your new "friend," and trusting your own instincts, you can gather enough information to know what you should do. We've heard this from several hosts already. I do think it takes time, I don't know how much... 5 hours? 5 months? and I do think one has to be very careful, but that's my own nature. Some are willing to take greater risks than I am.
The host I thought I knew two years ago is not the host I know today. I think she figured me out far sooner than I figured her out lol. The thing is, we're good friends today. No plans to meet though :))))
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Not only is this a smart post, but this is one of the best attitudes I have seen in quite a while. I am talking mainly about what kind of men you look for.
The types of men you listed as trying to avoid, especially the ones who try to use money to impress you, have negative traits that will be hurtful down the road.
An honest, hard working man who might not be rich, will be there to care for you in good times and bad. This is a realistic expectation that can lead to a real family, a real life and real happiness.
I hope that more feel like you do and don't fall for fantasy expectations.
The types of men you listed as trying to avoid, especially the ones who try to use money to impress you, have negative traits that will be hurtful down the road.
An honest, hard working man who might not be rich, will be there to care for you in good times and bad. This is a realistic expectation that can lead to a real family, a real life and real happiness.
I hope that more feel like you do and don't fall for fantasy expectations.
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This is a good attitude. My thing is, I don't have the money to spend a long time or many visits in another country. And I think both need and deserve this time to decide if they really want to be together. I think it's asking a lot for someone to move to another country where they don't know anyone else, and it would be a shame for either to become unhappy and wish they had stayed home.
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My concern with the posts about meeting and love is that they give false hope. Only a very few people here will actually ever meet. Of those few, only a very very few of those people will actually fall in love and build a life together.
It has been said before, this is not a dating site. If you are looking for love, look around you - not on a paid live sex chat site.
I do agree with the part about not laughing at members who have fallen for a host or hosts who have fallen for a member. Many of those people could be hurting sooner or later and the last thing they need is to be ridiculed.
It has been said before, this is not a dating site. If you are looking for love, look around you - not on a paid live sex chat site.
I do agree with the part about not laughing at members who have fallen for a host or hosts who have fallen for a member. Many of those people could be hurting sooner or later and the last thing they need is to be ridiculed.
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Met my wife on this site about 2 years ago. Chatted 8 months before meeting and got married after almost 1 year after we met in person. She worked here while we were boyfriends. It happened and it can happen to anybody. Some girls come here and work from 1 month to 2 years while they get their diplomas. Some girls leave fast becuase they dont like this job. It is very rare the girls that stay here for more than 2 years. I would say maybe only a 5% stay here for more than 2 years before they move on. I dont believe the girls or members here are bad. Girls need the cash and members need company. Cash, who doesn't need it anyways? Sex? sure, its a normal need if you are alone. Mostly everyone here are normal people and deserve a chance.
cheers to c.c.
For even having this forum in the first place. It makes c.c. feel more personal and like a real community.
Also, we may have a long way to go, but we understand each other more and more.
And one day we will answer this love question once and for all!
Also, we may have a long way to go, but we understand each other more and more.
And one day we will answer this love question once and for all!
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CC moderates the forum and won't post things which it feels in its judgment are not appropriate. About a 20% of my posts never make it and even lead to entire threads being removed, lol.
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It's shocking to see a thread which is quite active start to get out of control, then POOF! gone!
haha
People from countries with free speech are not used to this, but I for one do not want to see some of the garbage that would be here if it was not censored.
haha
People from countries with free speech are not used to this, but I for one do not want to see some of the garbage that would be here if it was not censored.
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If you post is blocked it is worth reviewing it and trying to tone down any extreme comments, especially swearing or intimitadory language directed to hosts or members.
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My posts are not blocked for that reason. They are blocked because they are controversial and can lead to too many of the types of posts you suggest will be blocked because they push people's buttons, including those of CC, lol. The ones that lead to threads, or parts of threads, being removed are when I intentionally make a statement that makes CC realize they better remove a thread before it gets out of control. Usually it is a response to an idiotic comment, lol, and the moderator can see that things can get ugly so he/she decides to nip it in the bud.
(P.S. I am the one very often, but not always, posting as "member" that I believe you have gone back and forth with since the last birthday contest, lol. But in this case, someone else is "member".)
(P.S. I am the one very often, but not always, posting as "member" that I believe you have gone back and forth with since the last birthday contest, lol. But in this case, someone else is "member".)
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Wow? Really? I would have never thought they had the ability to know who I am when I post, especially when I log in or haven't changed my ip address since the last time I logged in. I would have never thought of that. Thank you for the information.
Also be advised.... CC is running a business and is mature enough to let hosts and members be emotional and say and do some stupid things. Unless you are doing something that can truly hurt their business or try to commit some type of fraud, they are pretty forgiving.... In fact, based on some things I know about, very forgiving.
Also be advised.... CC is running a business and is mature enough to let hosts and members be emotional and say and do some stupid things. Unless you are doing something that can truly hurt their business or try to commit some type of fraud, they are pretty forgiving.... In fact, based on some things I know about, very forgiving.
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I second your opinion, adding this site is not to be a Speaker's Corner with total freedom and CC may choose to eliminate some critical views too.
I am living in a country with a tradition of being tolerant towards other people's opinion, I realised it's not the case everywhere, and in particular in a commercial context.
And I don't mind CC knows who I am, in such a case they also know my value as a client!
I am living in a country with a tradition of being tolerant towards other people's opinion, I realised it's not the case everywhere, and in particular in a commercial context.
And I don't mind CC knows who I am, in such a case they also know my value as a client!
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CC may be able to identify but not necessarily. In any case i do not really care if they know who I am when i post.
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You must have said something the sensors didn't like. This is not free speech. If they don't like it, it's gone.
Sometimes it's unfair criticism of a host, sharing too much personal information, or too much foul language.
They like to keep this forum fair and upbeat.
A little more is tolerated in the member forum where hosts are not "supposed" to be watching.
Sometimes it's unfair criticism of a host, sharing too much personal information, or too much foul language.
They like to keep this forum fair and upbeat.
A little more is tolerated in the member forum where hosts are not "supposed" to be watching.
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You are wrong to say the hosts are not "supposed" to be watching the Members (Viewer Only) forum. Hosts have always been free to read posts here. Guests can read too.Howver only people with a members account can post.
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Hosts post in the viewer forum all of the time via their member friends' accounts, not just their own member accounts.
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For a while it was inconsistent. Almost random. Things seem to have improved over the last week or so, IMO.
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It does seem to depend on who is moderating the posts. I have had a post blocked and then sent the same post a few hours later and it has been passed. In the past I emailed CC to ask why a post was blocked and they replied with the reasons.I do not know if they still do that.
I have to ask ladies?
There has been alot of posts about meetings here lately.... even after a short period of chatting apparently. Now, A host is considering a first time meeting in a "neutral zone" ???
Sorry ladies, but is there not a risk factor here to consider? This is the internet.
Have fun, but please be careful.
Concerned member
Sorry ladies, but is there not a risk factor here to consider? This is the internet.
Have fun, but please be careful.
Concerned member
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I don't have a problem with his post. Do you think that being an adult automatically means a person has good judgment or even common sense?
And as far as I can tell, given the... let me be as nice as possible.... STUPIDITY.... of some of the hosts that are thinking about meeting people they barely know (5 hours) and clearly have the potential to be dangerous (the guy that is just friends with a host but calls her all the time and interrupts video, et cetera), I think it cannot be overstated that the hosts need to be cautious.
Let me ask you this: if you saw someone over 18 about to be run over by a car because he didn't look both ways before crossing the street, would you yell "Look out!!!" or would you just say to yourself "Well, he's an adult. If he wants to take the risk, that's his right."?
Meeting people on CC is fine, but caution is appropriate, and that's all this guy suggested. Or do you need me to encourage the host that I know here that met a guy, had him meet her family, went to his country since all seemed okay, got married, got physically abused by him, got divorced, and returned to her country tell her story? And that is a case where she got to know the person. There are no guarantees but quick meetings are never a good idea. (And by the way, I know a similar story of another host but she no longer is on CC.)
And as far as I can tell, given the... let me be as nice as possible.... STUPIDITY.... of some of the hosts that are thinking about meeting people they barely know (5 hours) and clearly have the potential to be dangerous (the guy that is just friends with a host but calls her all the time and interrupts video, et cetera), I think it cannot be overstated that the hosts need to be cautious.
Let me ask you this: if you saw someone over 18 about to be run over by a car because he didn't look both ways before crossing the street, would you yell "Look out!!!" or would you just say to yourself "Well, he's an adult. If he wants to take the risk, that's his right."?
Meeting people on CC is fine, but caution is appropriate, and that's all this guy suggested. Or do you need me to encourage the host that I know here that met a guy, had him meet her family, went to his country since all seemed okay, got married, got physically abused by him, got divorced, and returned to her country tell her story? And that is a case where she got to know the person. There are no guarantees but quick meetings are never a good idea. (And by the way, I know a similar story of another host but she no longer is on CC.)
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That is a sad story about a husband beating his wife, but that has nothing to do with this topic. She knew as much as she could know.
First meetings are dangerous for different reasons.
For my part, if I met a host I would allow bodyguards, relatives, whatever. If my heart was hers none of this would bother me. I think anyone considering to meet a stranger should take some precautions.
Any member who won't agree to conditions of the first meeting should be suspect.
First meetings are dangerous for different reasons.
For my part, if I met a host I would allow bodyguards, relatives, whatever. If my heart was hers none of this would bother me. I think anyone considering to meet a stranger should take some precautions.
Any member who won't agree to conditions of the first meeting should be suspect.
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I am all in favour of hosts taking care and being cautious about meeting members but it is completely wrong to say that "I.....r the luckiest ones that had done it and had back home safety you girls had alot of lucky, coz its not always like that." Have you ever known a case where a host from here met a member and did not return safely? It would be more accurrate to say that any host whodid suffer some physical harm during a meeting had extremely bad luck. A host who meets someone after chatting with them for 5 hours on here is far less at risk than if she meets a cute guy in a club and makes a date with him.
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I have no objection to warnings and of course a host should take care.when deciding to meet a member. Your post did not hurt me but it is clearly wrong. From the forums it is clear there have been many meetings of members and hosts without physical harm happening to the hosts. Even if there have been a few cases where a host has come to harm it is a case of these hosts being very unlucky rather than the many hosts who have returned safely being extremely lucky.
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"A host who meets someone after chatting with them for 5 hours on here is far less at risk than if she meets a cute guy in a club and makes a date with him."
What? When you meet in person you can much more easily judge someone. You can read their eyes and body language much better than on a cam. You can get a much better sense of who they are in terms of whether or not they are potentially dangerous in some way.
I do find it easier to be myself on cam than in person since I am less nervous, but a guy trying to act like someone he is not can also do so much more easily on cam. That is the difference.
I completely disagree with you. And in terms of the horror story examples, just because we haven't heard of them occurring at first meetings, doesn't mean that they don't happen. There are plenty of horror stories out there about dating site meetings so why shouldn't the same cautions apply here?
What? When you meet in person you can much more easily judge someone. You can read their eyes and body language much better than on a cam. You can get a much better sense of who they are in terms of whether or not they are potentially dangerous in some way.
I do find it easier to be myself on cam than in person since I am less nervous, but a guy trying to act like someone he is not can also do so much more easily on cam. That is the difference.
I completely disagree with you. And in terms of the horror story examples, just because we haven't heard of them occurring at first meetings, doesn't mean that they don't happen. There are plenty of horror stories out there about dating site meetings so why shouldn't the same cautions apply here?
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I gave the specific example of meeting a guy in a club. A noisy location, dark with flashing lights and a girl who has had a few drinks. I do not think she can judge body language and eyes better than after 5 hours of chatting on cam. As I said I completely agree with hosts taking a cautious approach when deciding to meet a member. But sextpam4u's post suggested that any host who meets a member is very lucky if she gets home without physical harm. This is like saying anyone who flies is very lucky if the plane lands safely. In fact landing safely is the norm and anyone one whose plane crashes is very unlucky.
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If your point is that there is some risk in meeting a guy you have chatted with on here i agree. But the way you phrased your post suggested that the risk is huge and the chances of a girl returning safely from such a meeting are small. I do not agree with that. I would also not recommend that a host travel to a members country for a first meeting and that he should go to the hosts country.
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Okay.... Fine. I agree. A drunk girl that can barely see a guy in a dark, loud, noisy club (but somehow was able to tell he is "cute") where the guy may at any second put the "date rape" drug in her drink is more at risk than a host. I know I added a bit there, but the point is I am speaking that in general terms, you are able to judge a person in person than on the internet, and that includes clubs unless you are going to start adding other factors which you didn't put in your initial post.
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I did specify a meeting is a club.How many clubs do you know that are brightly lit and quiet giving a girl a chance to properly judge a guy? I was not necessarily thinking of a girl who is drunk but what percentage of girls do not have a couple of drinks when they go to a club?They may not br drunk but their judgement is likely to be impaired. My main point is that, in general, people overstate the risks of meeting people from the internet compared with other types of meeting.
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Thanks for being so blunt...and if these past posts are true, then YES it is "Stupid".
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if the hosts are as stupid as you think then they won't take any notice of your post
RE: I have to ask ladies?
Not me... what I find a bit odd is that the hosts I am friendly with are for the most part pretty adamant about not wanting to meet members. And I have no argument with that; the fact that I don't push the idea of meeting my host in person probably builds some trust in the relationship early on.
I don't know any hosts who want to meet me. What am I missing ? LOL
Oh, I'm forgetting the host who told me she wanted to have a child with me. But that was after I told her about my vasectomy.
I don't know any hosts who want to meet me. What am I missing ? LOL
Oh, I'm forgetting the host who told me she wanted to have a child with me. But that was after I told her about my vasectomy.
RE: I have to ask ladies?
Meeting someone in real that is from another country after knowing that person for .... let's see... what was the record .... oh yeah.... after just 5 hours.... is a great idea, especially when you first met on a sex site. Why would you possibly think otherwise? Oh, and let's not forget the "I want to meet my very jealous and possessive member that stalks me... But don't worry, we're just friends." I just don't get your concern.
Must be that love is in the air..... You know... Valentine's Day Contest love.... Like, "Sure I'll meet you... Now come spend lots of money on me so we can join our hearts together, win a prize, and then we can meet."
Your worries are completely unfounded.
Must be that love is in the air..... You know... Valentine's Day Contest love.... Like, "Sure I'll meet you... Now come spend lots of money on me so we can join our hearts together, win a prize, and then we can meet."
Your worries are completely unfounded.
RE: I have to ask ladies?
"Neutral zone"? Were you watching Star Trek or a replay of the American football games just before you wrote that? :p
(I agree with you by the way, as indicated.)
(I agree with you by the way, as indicated.)
RE: I have to ask ladies?
sorry, in the previous post "who must pay" she writes "neutral territory".
RE: I have to ask ladies?
Absolutely, go out and enjoy life. Meeting your favorite video partner from here is an exciting venture, and I too would like to do this.
It doesn't mean we shouldn't "think" about the risks...it also doesn't mean we have to obsess ourselves with them either.
Its as simple as doing something like crossing the street...there is a safe way, and there is a "stupid" way.
When you ladies go out to a night club, I would bet that 99% of the time you are with an escort......and I bet you still have fun.
So why should these meetings be soo different as they suggest.?
It doesn't mean we shouldn't "think" about the risks...it also doesn't mean we have to obsess ourselves with them either.
Its as simple as doing something like crossing the street...there is a safe way, and there is a "stupid" way.
When you ladies go out to a night club, I would bet that 99% of the time you are with an escort......and I bet you still have fun.
So why should these meetings be soo different as they suggest.?
RE: I have to ask ladies?
Well, sugar...Last time when I met a cc guy I kindly suggested him to avoid my home, where my husband was cooking, to avoid his home where his wife was ..so we met at the railway station=neutral zone.LOL
RE: who must pay?
I do think he should pay for the meeting if you are travelling. However, it might be wise for the member to reimburse the host only after they meet.
Sorry girls, but there are way too many stories of girls online scamming the members just to get the airline money and then never showing up.
On the other hand, some girls really don't have the cash to pay the travel expenses up front, and of course what if the member doesn't show up? It's all very tricky when you meet someone online.
Sorry girls, but there are way too many stories of girls online scamming the members just to get the airline money and then never showing up.
On the other hand, some girls really don't have the cash to pay the travel expenses up front, and of course what if the member doesn't show up? It's all very tricky when you meet someone online.
RE: who must pay?
If he is wise he pays, if he is a gentlement he pays, but knowing a lot of men he will not want to but except the benefits
RE: who must pay?
Certainly he should pay hotel. Travel well that depends from where you come and go- he should at least help with the money and buy all meals and presents for you. Meet you with flowers or perfume and buy some nice clothes or jewelry when you are together
RE: who must pay?
While your first two sentences are common sense, the last one makes me think... are you just meeting a girl, or trying to buy her over?
RE: who must pay?
She is not his gf they are just friends who like get to now each other. Why would a guy pay all expences to any friend he have man or woman?
RE: who must pay?
Spoken like a woman who is exactly what most men do not want. One who demands independence and control of everything, yet expects a man to jump at her command and provide for her every whim.
RE: who must pay?
If she is wise she pays, if she is a gentle woman she pays, but knowing a lot of women she will not want to but except the benefits
RE: who must pay?
i think you should pay for yourself and him for himself if its not something serios yet,if in future it'll be serios u should let him pay for u.....but if still not serios its better not give him any reason for future telling that he is so good because he payed for u and so u need to give something back
good luck and i must tell that from my own experience i payed for my gf host but it was already sserios, everything depends on circumstances
good luck and i must tell that from my own experience i payed for my gf host but it was already sserios, everything depends on circumstances
RE: who must pay?
If this is truly just a friendship, then you should pay for yourself. That doesn't mean that he cannot help you out if you don't have the money, but if you are just meeting as friends, then it makes no difference who is the man and who is the woman. I guess you would need to figure out if you needed two hotel rooms or if you would be comfortable in one if it is just two friends meeting.
Of course, I doubt that you are just meeting as friends. You may still be getting to know each other, but there is probably still a possibility of something romantic developing. The discussion about where to stay, how many beds, how many hotel rooms, et cetera will make all of that clear. And if it is the case that there might be something more than a friendship, you should offer to pay for your transportation and see if he is willing to pay for the hotel room by himself. (If it is two hotel rooms, I would pay for my own room if I had the money, but it would be nice if he paid for your room too.) Plus, he will probably pay for most dinners if it is a romanitc meeting or a meeting with romantic possibilities, but you should offer to help out too. And even if he is willing to pay for everything, he will appreciate your offer to contribute and it will help the relationship.
(It is amazing how women want to be equal except when it comes to romance... Then guys must pay for all. You will never truly be equal this way, ladies. A guy paying for all, even if he has no problem with it, will always feel like he is taking care of you, and it is much harder to respect someone you are taking care of. Many men nowadays respect and value independent women and are not afraid of them.)
There is also the issue of how much money he has. If he is not very wealthy, he may need you to help out even if this is potentially a romantic meeting. On the other hand, even if it is just a friendship meeting, the guy could be rich and offer to pay for all. But one word of caution: a guy that says it is all about friendship, pays for everything, and even acts innocent and gets each of you a separate room might just be a rich guy looking for sex.
Of course, I doubt that you are just meeting as friends. You may still be getting to know each other, but there is probably still a possibility of something romantic developing. The discussion about where to stay, how many beds, how many hotel rooms, et cetera will make all of that clear. And if it is the case that there might be something more than a friendship, you should offer to pay for your transportation and see if he is willing to pay for the hotel room by himself. (If it is two hotel rooms, I would pay for my own room if I had the money, but it would be nice if he paid for your room too.) Plus, he will probably pay for most dinners if it is a romanitc meeting or a meeting with romantic possibilities, but you should offer to help out too. And even if he is willing to pay for everything, he will appreciate your offer to contribute and it will help the relationship.
(It is amazing how women want to be equal except when it comes to romance... Then guys must pay for all. You will never truly be equal this way, ladies. A guy paying for all, even if he has no problem with it, will always feel like he is taking care of you, and it is much harder to respect someone you are taking care of. Many men nowadays respect and value independent women and are not afraid of them.)
There is also the issue of how much money he has. If he is not very wealthy, he may need you to help out even if this is potentially a romantic meeting. On the other hand, even if it is just a friendship meeting, the guy could be rich and offer to pay for all. But one word of caution: a guy that says it is all about friendship, pays for everything, and even acts innocent and gets each of you a separate room might just be a rich guy looking for sex.
RE: who must pay?
this will not and should not happen if we arhue about % payment go and enjoy- count any cost later - live life
RE: who must pay? ~ member
You're prolly going to hate this but....
... I couldn't agree with you more :)
Sage advice indeed.
TNT
... I couldn't agree with you more :)
Sage advice indeed.
TNT
RE: who must pay?
that is for the 2 of u to decide, in my experience as friends for the first meeting he should pay for hotel and day to day spending money for meals etc, you should both pay for your own transport there and back. This at least shows that u do both consider each other as friends and no one is trying to take advantage of the other.. ie. your not just going because it's a free holiday and he's not just going because he thinks it's a cheap fuck.
hope u both enjoy and it leads quickly to bigger and better things, as i know long breaks between meetings can lead to disillusionment
hope u both enjoy and it leads quickly to bigger and better things, as i know long breaks between meetings can lead to disillusionment
RE: who must pay?
The idea that that guy should pay for more than 1/2 when just meeting as friends is lost on me. Gender has nothing to do with friendship. Regardless of who is the man and who is the woman, if both can afford 1/2, they should each pay 1/2. In fact, if the woman has more money and can afford more, it would be nice of her to contribute more than 1/2.
Now, if you believe in the "When Harry Met Sally" philosophy that men and women cannot really be friends, then I agree, as stated above, that the woman should take care of her transportation and the man should take care of the room if there is just one room. If there are two, that is a little more difficult to deal with, but it would be better for the woman to take care of her room too.
I think I agree with you pretty much since the "first meeting" being "friendship" is more like a first date type of situation if I am reading you properly. It is just that some women here seem to think that "friendship" still means that the man must pay all, and that rubs me the wrong way (not that he should pay all when the meeting is for romantic purposes either, but he should take the lead economically, if possilbe, as you and I both indicated).
Now, if you believe in the "When Harry Met Sally" philosophy that men and women cannot really be friends, then I agree, as stated above, that the woman should take care of her transportation and the man should take care of the room if there is just one room. If there are two, that is a little more difficult to deal with, but it would be better for the woman to take care of her room too.
I think I agree with you pretty much since the "first meeting" being "friendship" is more like a first date type of situation if I am reading you properly. It is just that some women here seem to think that "friendship" still means that the man must pay all, and that rubs me the wrong way (not that he should pay all when the meeting is for romantic purposes either, but he should take the lead economically, if possilbe, as you and I both indicated).
RE: who must pay?
why the man should pay more than 1/2? i said in my experience..and in my experience i have been better off financially than the hosts i have met, so i have paid more but if you took it as a percentage of our earnings then we both probably paid around the same and besides i'm a gentleman and would always pay more than half.
Of course there are some hosts here that probably earn as much or more than me but i haven't met one of those yet )
Everyone is different and will do things their own way, i don't say my way is right, whichever way they slice the cake the main thing is they both enjoy the meeting and have a strong desire to meet again after.
Of course there are some hosts here that probably earn as much or more than me but i haven't met one of those yet )
Everyone is different and will do things their own way, i don't say my way is right, whichever way they slice the cake the main thing is they both enjoy the meeting and have a strong desire to meet again after.
RE: who must pay?
All this talk of money for gods sake do you wanna meet or not - I think the man shoud pay but perhaps this is oldfashioned. Anyway the important thing is DO YOU WANNA MEET - if so do and things will just happen- then decide if you are good together yake a risk and enjoy the moment pease do noy start arguing about money already
RE: who must pay?
Keep it simple. He pays all expenses and $100 per hour when you are together. and you have sex with him when ever and how ever he wants.
RE: who must pay?
I think you are short changing yourself.
If we use your "menu", then she will probably only get a few hundred dollars even if she does everything there.
With his system, she gets $100 per hour, every hour, even when there is no sex. I think she will be much better off without the menu.
Maybe it depends on the age of the member. Old men should pay by the hour since they need longer to recharge. Young studs (mythical creatures on c.c.) should pay by the act since they will be doing it non stop.
All in good fun.
If we use your "menu", then she will probably only get a few hundred dollars even if she does everything there.
With his system, she gets $100 per hour, every hour, even when there is no sex. I think she will be much better off without the menu.
Maybe it depends on the age of the member. Old men should pay by the hour since they need longer to recharge. Young studs (mythical creatures on c.c.) should pay by the act since they will be doing it non stop.
All in good fun.
RE: who must pay?
You mean you're not turned on when you cum in a woman's mouth and she runs to the bathroom and spits it all out like a cat bringing up a hairball?
RE: who must pay?
You need a name that identifies your gender, lol. At least with "member", you can guess I am a guy. :p
So..... What are you doing later? There could be $150 in it for you. (just a joke... don't get offended)
So..... What are you doing later? There could be $150 in it for you. (just a joke... don't get offended)
RE: who must pay?
Oh, I forgot the $100 visitation fee. I guess there would be $250 in it for you. You bring the cookies, and I'll supply the milk for you to wash them down.
RE: who must pay?
Yes! But the airfare might break me! By the way, I like your name MISTRESS. A sexy word with multiple meanings.
RE: who must pay?
I believe many customers at sites are just working guys who spend their last money pay for private shows
RE: who must pay?
Incredible attitude here that sex is absolutely connected to money.
I don't think we were born that way.
I don't think we were born that way.
Weird Host Screen Names
I get used to seeing some weird or inappropriate host screen names here and also some screen names that are clearly owned by studios that pass from one host to another and become totally inappropriate e.g blonde xxxx when the host is clearly brunette etc etc and I usually just smile and dont visit them on the basis that if they cant get the name right, its unlikely to be a great conversation in English! I may be wrong but thats just my reasoning! But now I have seen a host name that defies logic or explanation - 'BreakA Roof' - what the hell is that all about?????
RE: Weird Host Screen Names
I can see two explanations, my friend! Either this host is figuring out you are Santa Claus but too big to take the usual way down to her room through the chimney, or she suggests in your great extasy you'll jump high and take the direct way to the 7th heaven...
And you don't feel compelled to visit her??
And you don't feel compelled to visit her??
RE: Weird Host Screen Names
Nah.. she wants a man who is so extremely well endowed that when he's hard he's raising the roof with his schlong. the explanation is quite obvious LOL
RE: Weird Host Screen Names
Thanks Capricorn! Seems a good reason for a screen name and happy Birthday belatedly!
RE: Weird Host Screen Names
"Long time member"? You must not chat too often even if you have been here a long time. You would be incorrect both in terms of your statement about screen names and the idea that studio hosts should be avoided because they have bad English.
Many studio hosts are very good at communicating in written and spoken English. I never really thought about whether or not those that work at home are more fluent than those in studios, but I wouldn't avoid studio host just because you're worried about their language skills. I suppose it is possible that hosts that work at home have better English based on the idea that they earned enough money at a studio to be able to buy a PC and work at home, but even if that was true, that doesn't mean that all studio hosts cannot communicate effectively. Moreover, many hosts that are not working in a studio still have bosses, including some that supply them with computers, so this further blurs the distinction.
In terms of the name issue, I know of at least one host that made her screen name when she was dying her hair blonde, but she is a natural brunette. She put the word blonde in her screen name, but now is back to being a brunette. Therefore, you should not assume that things like a host's hair color and her screen name not matching automatically mean that the host works in a studio.
Also, hosts in certain countries were not able to open new accounts for awhile on CC which led to accounts being transferred from one host to another even outside of a studio. This could also lead to names with things like hair color in them not matching up to how the host looks.
Other than this, I found your post right on the money, lol. Seriously, I think you are missing out on some good hosts by not visiting studio hosts or relying on screen names. And in terms of the bad English issue, I can think of some studio hosts that charge low prices so even if they are using a translator, it can be worth the time it takes to talk to them, especially if you are not just interested in talking. Even the less fluent ones understand "show me....", lol.
Many studio hosts are very good at communicating in written and spoken English. I never really thought about whether or not those that work at home are more fluent than those in studios, but I wouldn't avoid studio host just because you're worried about their language skills. I suppose it is possible that hosts that work at home have better English based on the idea that they earned enough money at a studio to be able to buy a PC and work at home, but even if that was true, that doesn't mean that all studio hosts cannot communicate effectively. Moreover, many hosts that are not working in a studio still have bosses, including some that supply them with computers, so this further blurs the distinction.
In terms of the name issue, I know of at least one host that made her screen name when she was dying her hair blonde, but she is a natural brunette. She put the word blonde in her screen name, but now is back to being a brunette. Therefore, you should not assume that things like a host's hair color and her screen name not matching automatically mean that the host works in a studio.
Also, hosts in certain countries were not able to open new accounts for awhile on CC which led to accounts being transferred from one host to another even outside of a studio. This could also lead to names with things like hair color in them not matching up to how the host looks.
Other than this, I found your post right on the money, lol. Seriously, I think you are missing out on some good hosts by not visiting studio hosts or relying on screen names. And in terms of the bad English issue, I can think of some studio hosts that charge low prices so even if they are using a translator, it can be worth the time it takes to talk to them, especially if you are not just interested in talking. Even the less fluent ones understand "show me....", lol.
RE: Weird Host Screen Names
I believe that I addressed a number of issues in his post. I didn't know that we were limited to responding to only those matters that are reflected in the title of a poster's post.
I apologize. I must have missed the email regarding the changes in the forums' rules. Please forgive me.
I apologize. I must have missed the email regarding the changes in the forums' rules. Please forgive me.
RE: Weird Host Screen Names
take the capital letter from each word,could be an acronym for what you will get when you visit.
RE: Weird Host Screen Names
Perhaps it has worked because I am sure many of us have now looked her up - interesting post and certainly you will not forget the name like so many pussies or squirts!!!!
I like the name
I like the name
RE: Weird Host Screen Names
Thanks for all the replies and additions. I was not commenting on the virtues of studio hosts or otherwise, i just included my reasoning by way of explanation, which I am sure has meant I missed out on many good hosts. I also wont visit a host who clearly has not updated their profile - e.g. "first day here" when there are weeks worth of photos! Anyway, thx for the replies! Enjoyed reading them!
RE: Weird Host Screen Names
LOL.... You have the right to choose how to spend your money, but once again, I would not limit myself to hosts that regularly update their profile or you will be missing out, especially if that includes age.
I usually look at the "big picture" without description when choosing which host's profile to read, but I have noticed that many of the descriptions when one uses the "small picture with description" are very inaccurate. Still, that doesn't deter me. As long as there are some nice pictures that are somewhat recent and the price is right, that's all I need to know. An interesting, well written profile helps, but isn't a big factor. And by the way, a lot of studio hosts have very well written profiles so you cannot judge a person's English that way either. (Plus, I've written a number of the one's here for friends, lol, but their English is pretty good nevertheless.)
In terms of "Breaktheroof", perhaps she meant "RaiseTheRoof". This would make more sense. I guess you will be avoiding her now since her English is bad, lol.
(Does that make you feel better, "A different long time member"? lol. Or should I bring up the host with the name "AttackDaCunt"? :p)
I usually look at the "big picture" without description when choosing which host's profile to read, but I have noticed that many of the descriptions when one uses the "small picture with description" are very inaccurate. Still, that doesn't deter me. As long as there are some nice pictures that are somewhat recent and the price is right, that's all I need to know. An interesting, well written profile helps, but isn't a big factor. And by the way, a lot of studio hosts have very well written profiles so you cannot judge a person's English that way either. (Plus, I've written a number of the one's here for friends, lol, but their English is pretty good nevertheless.)
In terms of "Breaktheroof", perhaps she meant "RaiseTheRoof". This would make more sense. I guess you will be avoiding her now since her English is bad, lol.
(Does that make you feel better, "A different long time member"? lol. Or should I bring up the host with the name "AttackDaCunt"? :p)
RE: Weird Host Screen Names
I mean that studio hosts have well written profiles since a boss wrote them so you cannot judge a person's language skills based on her profile in all cases.
Also, on another note, sometimes it looks like a host is not a studio host because it looks like she is in her bedroom when really she is in an apartment with several rooms that is a studio. You may have chatted with many studio hosts and didn't even know it.
Also, on another note, sometimes it looks like a host is not a studio host because it looks like she is in her bedroom when really she is in an apartment with several rooms that is a studio. You may have chatted with many studio hosts and didn't even know it.
RE: Weird Host Screen Names
you just look "at the big picture" Hell, I just look at the pictures! if I like whats I see, I goes in, if I don'ts like it, I don'ts goes. :)
smoking
what would make a host think its ok to light up a cigarette as soon as I enter their room? don't they know that most men DON'T have a smoking fetish? you really cant wait 15 min to have a smoke? all it does is make me realize how many you must smoke in a day, and how you and your room must smell...
would it hurt to at least ask?
would it hurt to at least ask?
RE: smoking
Wow. How do you really feel?
Since I HATE cigarettes, I would prefer not seeing a host smoke. But since I am not there, it doesn't really affect me like it would in person. It isn't like I need to kiss them or something when on CC, but I understand how you feel.
For those hosts that do regularly smoke, if you spend a long session with them, you will see often them chain smoke (smoke one right after the other) without even thinking about it (often with a coffee or Red Bull) and usually without asking if you mind. I usually find this to be a turn off, but I don't say anything. After all, "turn off" means I stay less and save money, lol, and I am not there to smell it so I can deal with the situation okay. Further, I don't ever recall seeing a host smoke during a "show" so the "turn off" aspect isn't too big deal in practice.
I know of one popular host that is polite and always asks if I mind if she smokes, but usually hosts just light up without asking. But as attractive as this one host is, seeing her smoke definitely takes away from her appeal.
I should also add that given the dangers of smoking, I question the intelligence of anyone that smokes so that adds to the "turn off" factor. (In other words, I am usually thinking "This woman is an idiot." when I see her smoking.) I know that most start at a young age when they weren't really focused on the health effects, and I understand that it is one of the most addicting things that there is (even more than CC, lol), but very often smokers don't even bother to try to quit or give it a serious effort when they do try from what I can see.
Fortunately, in the USA at least, smoking is being banned from more and more public places like restaurants and public buildings. But when you go to Eastern Europe to see your host friends, be ready to be surrounded by smokers.
Since I HATE cigarettes, I would prefer not seeing a host smoke. But since I am not there, it doesn't really affect me like it would in person. It isn't like I need to kiss them or something when on CC, but I understand how you feel.
For those hosts that do regularly smoke, if you spend a long session with them, you will see often them chain smoke (smoke one right after the other) without even thinking about it (often with a coffee or Red Bull) and usually without asking if you mind. I usually find this to be a turn off, but I don't say anything. After all, "turn off" means I stay less and save money, lol, and I am not there to smell it so I can deal with the situation okay. Further, I don't ever recall seeing a host smoke during a "show" so the "turn off" aspect isn't too big deal in practice.
I know of one popular host that is polite and always asks if I mind if she smokes, but usually hosts just light up without asking. But as attractive as this one host is, seeing her smoke definitely takes away from her appeal.
I should also add that given the dangers of smoking, I question the intelligence of anyone that smokes so that adds to the "turn off" factor. (In other words, I am usually thinking "This woman is an idiot." when I see her smoking.) I know that most start at a young age when they weren't really focused on the health effects, and I understand that it is one of the most addicting things that there is (even more than CC, lol), but very often smokers don't even bother to try to quit or give it a serious effort when they do try from what I can see.
Fortunately, in the USA at least, smoking is being banned from more and more public places like restaurants and public buildings. But when you go to Eastern Europe to see your host friends, be ready to be surrounded by smokers.
RE: smoking
While I also find the smoking a rather large turn-off when visiting a chathost, I agree with the post from "member". Unless we're planning on dating the chathost, then it's their prerogative to smoke in the privacy of their own room/studio.
RE: smoking
I've been smoking a lot for a long time, but i stopped.
When i see a host smoking i tell her that she can kill herself in the way that she likes the most.
Anyway, smoking in video is a sign of bad education, and i usually don't go visiting againg.
When i see a host smoking i tell her that she can kill herself in the way that she likes the most.
Anyway, smoking in video is a sign of bad education, and i usually don't go visiting againg.
RE: smoking
I am the one that indicated that I think smokers are idiots, but I meant it in terms of not having "common sense". I don't think it reflects a lack of education when talking about Eastern European hosts (which are the ones I usually see smoking). But in the USA, I definitely see a correlation between smoking and the lack of intelligence, education, sophistication and class.
The bottom line is that smoking is a filthy, disgusting habbit that hurts the health of both the smoker and those nearby, and it is a turn off to most people. But I think that this is more of an American attitude. People in Europe (both Western and Eastern) and Asia seem to smoke a lot more from what I can see, for example. Perhaps they haven't had the same type of anti-smoking campaigns there that have been going on for years in the USA. Ironic given where a lot of tobacco comes from.
The bottom line is that smoking is a filthy, disgusting habbit that hurts the health of both the smoker and those nearby, and it is a turn off to most people. But I think that this is more of an American attitude. People in Europe (both Western and Eastern) and Asia seem to smoke a lot more from what I can see, for example. Perhaps they haven't had the same type of anti-smoking campaigns there that have been going on for years in the USA. Ironic given where a lot of tobacco comes from.
RE: smoking
I quess you havent read or heard about "how to make viewer stay longer" guide book for hosts?
One advice there is about smoking, it is assumed that when host light up a cicarrette and start smoking, polite viewer will let her relax and smoke that cicarette, and that means some extra minutes in video before host need to start doing anything else. :))
So, when you notice they start to light up a cicarette and you dont like it, just politely say please dont do that now, smoke later.
One advice there is about smoking, it is assumed that when host light up a cicarrette and start smoking, polite viewer will let her relax and smoke that cicarette, and that means some extra minutes in video before host need to start doing anything else. :))
So, when you notice they start to light up a cicarette and you dont like it, just politely say please dont do that now, smoke later.
RE: smoking
I have had hosts do exactly what you say. Some will ask to finish their cigarette before giving a show. If I do wait, I can guarantee that the rating won't be very high, and I am likely to just leave without saying goodbye or anything. Is this rude? Abosolutely, but so is stalling but lighting up so fair is far. After all, I want to save a little money that I wasted by letting them smoke, lol.
RE: smoking
I never smoke during videosession becasue mostly men really dont like that - moreover its much harder to type with cigarette
RE: smoking
Fyi I don't smoke.I just don't offend people for whatever habits they have or what they like to waste their money on.
RE: smoking
What a load of ball*x ..... If you dont like to even *see* smoking ask the host to not smoke ... If the host refuses ... stop the session.
Smoking will I'm sure become less and less in generations to come due to education and peer pressure - but it takes time for all that to filter down.
As for the comment above that the US correlate smoking with unintelligence, lack of class and education etc. .... Hopefully they will turn the same un-approving eye to their carbon emissions someday. Maybe if they had to pay about $7 - $8 a gallon like most of europe does they would look more seriously about downsizing the average car engine?
Smoking will I'm sure become less and less in generations to come due to education and peer pressure - but it takes time for all that to filter down.
As for the comment above that the US correlate smoking with unintelligence, lack of class and education etc. .... Hopefully they will turn the same un-approving eye to their carbon emissions someday. Maybe if they had to pay about $7 - $8 a gallon like most of europe does they would look more seriously about downsizing the average car engine?
RE: smoking
Exactly...Lol smoking is lack of class and education? U know what i call lack of class and education? Once in Paris me and my friend were sitting in the open area of one caffe and smoking. at the next table there was an amercan middleage couple-husband and wife. We were sitting at least 1 meter away from them. So this fat woman, was looking at us with an angry face and then turned to her hubby and said-polish bitches! I was like excuse me??She - ur smoke comes right to my face! Lol. Cmon ure in France, one of the most smoking countries in the world, IN THE STREET!!! And still acting like u own this place! Not happy with it-go inside, smoking isnt allowed there. But insulting ppl u dont know out of loud? Anyway im sure, her problem was not even the myphological smoke in her face but that her husband cudnt take his eyes off of us haha. So much class and intellegence right?
RE: best courses - in demand internationally'
I assume you mean jobs and skills as opposed to courses. In no particular order:
1. Jobs related to the security of information and the use of computers, networks and the internet
2. Nursing
3. Doctors
1. Jobs related to the security of information and the use of computers, networks and the internet
2. Nursing
3. Doctors
RE: best courses - in demand internationally'
Yet, its always a big plus for a lot of good jobs if u can speak one or several foreign languages, no? Not to mention if u wanna live or work abroad.
RE: best courses - in demand internationally'
I, for one, wish I could speak Romanian and Russian :))) Not that I'm looking for work...
RE: best courses - in demand internationally'
I wish that I could speak the language of MonikaBabe. :-)
Geeeezzzz ...look on the bright side!
Down below OneGreatDiva posted: "Look at all the subject here. Its 80% on love! Did the approach of V.day got us all...sick?!
Actually, Diva, you should look on the bright side. Whenever I see so many people posting and talking about it... as well as sharing the emotions they feel... it always makes me smile because it only proves the TRUE power of love.
Think about it -- In the cam world, it's pretty much expected that people will ONLY care about sex. As a result, you have Hosts who are willing to strip and perform, and you have guests who are literally willing to pay to get off. Yet in the midst of that… in the midst of what should be a very cold and calculating business or lifestyle…
…That still can't stop REAL emotions from appearing. Even in the cam world -- yes, even here in the midst of hot bodies and hard penises and sexy outfits and so many fantasy elements -- what people still want to find the MOST is a true love who will warm their soul and give them comfort in life.
So I think it's great whenever people post and talk about love because it always reminds me how human we ALL are deep inside, no matter how much anyone might try to deny it. Like I said before, it serves as a great reminder about the awesome true power of love because love really is the ONE thing we all cherish the most. Because the ability to love and give ourselves to another person is what makes us human, and it's what makes us so very, very special in this big ol' universe of ours. :)
Actually, Diva, you should look on the bright side. Whenever I see so many people posting and talking about it... as well as sharing the emotions they feel... it always makes me smile because it only proves the TRUE power of love.
Think about it -- In the cam world, it's pretty much expected that people will ONLY care about sex. As a result, you have Hosts who are willing to strip and perform, and you have guests who are literally willing to pay to get off. Yet in the midst of that… in the midst of what should be a very cold and calculating business or lifestyle…
…That still can't stop REAL emotions from appearing. Even in the cam world -- yes, even here in the midst of hot bodies and hard penises and sexy outfits and so many fantasy elements -- what people still want to find the MOST is a true love who will warm their soul and give them comfort in life.
So I think it's great whenever people post and talk about love because it always reminds me how human we ALL are deep inside, no matter how much anyone might try to deny it. Like I said before, it serves as a great reminder about the awesome true power of love because love really is the ONE thing we all cherish the most. Because the ability to love and give ourselves to another person is what makes us human, and it's what makes us so very, very special in this big ol' universe of ours. :)
RE: Geeeezzzz ...look on the bright side!
But.......
Love, unrequited, robs me of my rest:
Love, hopeless love, my ardent soul encumbers:
Love, nightmare-like, lies heavy on my chest,
And weaves itself into my midnight slumbers!
William S. Gilbert
Love, unrequited, robs me of my rest:
Love, hopeless love, my ardent soul encumbers:
Love, nightmare-like, lies heavy on my chest,
And weaves itself into my midnight slumbers!
William S. Gilbert
RE: Geeeezzzz ...look on the bright side!
you are right ... cant disagree ... i was just wondering ... why suddenly ???
Follow-up to "Flagrance" post
Ok ladies, you you told us your fav perfumes to wear, so I would like to know what cologne you like to smell on a man. Also, guys, share with us what you like to wear. I'll start - some of my favorites are YSL Opium, Polo Sport, Givenchy Green Energy, Givenchy Vetyver, Creed Green Valley, CK Contradiction, just to name a few.
geeeezzzz
look at all the subject here .... its 80% on love ! did the approach of V.day got us all .... sick ?!
RE: what if photoshop would not be alowed on cc??
It would be great cos the 80% of pics in gallery don't match anything with the originals in video
RE: what if photoshop would not be alowed on cc??
With many of the cover girls, photoshop just smooths out some minor imperfections. These cover girls are very attractive so it wouldn't make a big difference if they couldn't use photoshop. Plus, a good photographer that knows how to use lighting well and a good makeup job will lead to pretty much the same results.
There are a few cover girls where without photoshop, they don't look that good. But if you are saying to yourself "Those cover girls.... They are not really that beautiful.... It is all photoshop.", in many cases, you would be mistaken in my view. And by the way, a few hosts look worse with photoshop so the absence of photoshop is really host specific.
There are a few cover girls where without photoshop, they don't look that good. But if you are saying to yourself "Those cover girls.... They are not really that beautiful.... It is all photoshop.", in many cases, you would be mistaken in my view. And by the way, a few hosts look worse with photoshop so the absence of photoshop is really host specific.
RE: what if photoshop would not be alowed on cc??
I want to see girls here without any make up!:)
RE: what if photoshop would not be alowed on cc??
I never used it..oh well..im not a CG :P
RE: what if photoshop would not be alowed on cc??
yes u are CG , YOU ARE CynthereaGush so ... C.G. !!! Kiss
RE: what if photoshop would not be alowed on cc??
ahaha that was a good one Diva :D can you belive i didnt see that? CG :)) Now im curious to learn using PS
RE: what if photoshop would not be alowed on cc??
I think so many of the hosts do a great job with their profile pics but I agree the host you see in video often does not look like the host in the profile pics. But it is generally because the host is not dressed the same, is tired from staying up all night, does not have the same makeup, and most importantly is not smiling or trying to be sexy and enticing as in the profile pics. That is my main issue. You see an amazing pic and the girl looks like her dog died. We are paying for a fantasy...so provide it.
RE: what if photoshop would not be alowed on cc??
Im sorry to hear you had such experiences..and it sounded like it is happening often..guess you didn't chose well :P Here is the only place I smile so much :)) Oh well..maybe comedy movies make it too ;)
RE: what if photoshop would not be alowed on cc??
You mention contests and got many replies about archive pictures, anyway in both cases I would support your suggestion. In terms of practicability, however, how do you think it is something one can control?
Basically, a chathost using Photoshop to modify pictures is kind of telling a little lie about herself, and in the long run it gets noticed and I am sure it becomes counterproductive. Many guests are not looking forward to meeting an icy beauty that is not from this world, and surely the "girl next door" has good chances to be more attractive as a company for a lonely moment.
Basically, a chathost using Photoshop to modify pictures is kind of telling a little lie about herself, and in the long run it gets noticed and I am sure it becomes counterproductive. Many guests are not looking forward to meeting an icy beauty that is not from this world, and surely the "girl next door" has good chances to be more attractive as a company for a lonely moment.
Is this love?
I found a girl here
She is beautiful, sweet, kind, smart, clever
I asked her to open her heart to me
She answered: Wellcome! Come in!
Life is wonderful, my days are bright
Can I ask more than this?
She is beautiful, sweet, kind, smart, clever
I asked her to open her heart to me
She answered: Wellcome! Come in!
Life is wonderful, my days are bright
Can I ask more than this?
RE: Is this love?
you can ask that as open as her heart is for you,that your's be open wider :--)
RE: Is this love?
Congratulations and yes, love can happen here. I also found love and I will marry soon with a beautiful young, smart, and great girl that I found on cc.
RE: Is this love?
When in private, do you engage in nude sessions with her, or do you spend your time learning about her life ,her persona and her dreams?
RE: Is this love?
...and does she charge him a per minute rate to learn all about her life, persona, and dreams?
RE: Is this love?
Thats cruel - it is tue that hosts do sometimes come free on yahoo etc it hppened to me but if true the novelty wears off for them
RE: Is this love?
No nude since a lot of time, just talk about all, dreaming and trying to plan the future
RE: Is this love?
this sounds more promising now - but a little rude nude is not a bad thing between consenting adults now and again
RE: Is this love?
I have a gf host. We chat about everything we like, but we have nude vids as well. Nothing wrong with that.
RE: Is this love?
My oh my this is old hat!!!
All situations are different certainly there can be love - I to found it with a girl -but yes do not be blind about CC and the fact that many girls do not tell 100% truth (understandably) PS that goes for members too as we all know !!!
All situations are different certainly there can be love - I to found it with a girl -but yes do not be blind about CC and the fact that many girls do not tell 100% truth (understandably) PS that goes for members too as we all know !!!